Monday, 29 October 2012

International Men’s Day – 19 November!

In the year 2007, for the first time in history, India had observed November 19th as International Men’s Day, under the auspices of Save Indian family Foundation and its sibling organizations.


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On this momentous occasion, Save Indian Family , Mens Right Associations along with more than 35+NGO all over India,  urges the citizens of India to recognize the valuable contributions by men to our families, economy and society, the simultaneous diminution in value of men’s lives, the blatant violation of men’s rights, the ceaseless propagation of anti-male sentiments by “radical groups” and the growing apathy of the government and society towards the sufferings of men.

While men still perform some of the most risky and challenging jobs in the society and while the Government of India collects 82% of its tax revenue from men, not a single rupee has been allocated in the name of men’s welfare in the country’s budget in the last 65 years.

It is also important to note that according to the Labor and Employment Ministry, during the years 2001-05, men employed in the public and private sectors lost 14,00,000 jobs, while women gained 1,00,000 jobs during the same period.

While an increasing number of men are losing employment, more women are entering the job market and re-defying their traditional roles within the family and the society. But the society/Laws are refusing to free men of their traditional duties of protector and provider for women, children and the aged parents. Still the Men's are always treated as Free ATM machine, resulting every year more than 62000 married men ending their life as per crime bure of India latest report, means every 8 min one mother or sisters are loosing their son or brothers, but government is sleeping and all such husband killers are moving free in the soceity.

  • Does the Pain of a mother or sister is nil when they loss their son or Brothers?

In addition, men are being subjected to severe discrimination under law and their basic human rights or Natural Justice are being violated every day in the name of more and more legal provisions that claim to empower and protect women.

Lacks of men are becoming victims of “legal terrorism” unleashed by the misuse of Indian Penal Code Section 498A, Protection of Women Against Domestic Violence Act, adultery laws, laws against rape and sexual harassment, and even divorce, maintenance and child custody laws. Every where the verbal allegation by any women termed to be true and by media trial the common men had been convected, thrown out of Job and the principal a person is innocent till proven guilty forgotten by all .

Every day 30 to 40 Delhi alone,  Husbands are loosing their Home in protection of Women Domestic Violence Act, 2006. In a country even a Terrorist have right to stay in their own home, but a common man do not have right to stay in their own home, which they had earned by their own hard work or loan form banks.

To make things worse, even family members of men, including senior citizens, children and women, regardless of their age, health or marital status, are arrested based on unsubstantiated allegations of dowry harassment and domestic abuse, and subjected to long-drawn trials. Several time Supreme court of India only caution and termed the same as Legal Terrorism , but never take any strong action against such abuser of LAW , result the same is increasing every day.

The growing disregard and hatred against men in our society is forcing many Indian men to end their lives. According to the National Crime Bureau, the number of suicides by males in every age group studied outweighs the number of suicides by females, in the recent years. In the year 2005 alone, nearly twice as many married men (52,483), compared to married women (28,186), committed suicide, unable to withstand verbal, emotional, economic and physical abuse and legal harassment.

Warning to all Male Haters :

To grab the Husbands money/property you have made several law start from DP3, 498A, DV act, CRPC125, Section 24 and now this new HMA act, with the Principal all wives born in Raja Harish Chandra Family , never lie and all Husbands born in Criminal Family.

All the law the basic motive is how to grab the money and property from Husbands family with the logic women had suffered so long, so now it is turn to men to suffer.

But forget two wrong can’t make a right think. If women is suffering that is not due to husbands family , it is due to the girls at their own home had not given equal right and responsibility give to a boy, instead of correcting the same started putting all under/blame to husbands family .

Do not forget more then 90% women who have a home in this country , they got from their husbands family , not from their own family, correct that first or the day the is not too far when we will be witness when a man will die, the bank will come and take over all his assets , which we witness in western country .

The day Indian Husbands will learn to live a life as Debit man than credit man and stop making any saving in property or in other assets , then only you all will realize the real contribution of Indian husbands for this society.

Do not take Indian husbands family in ride and stop promotion of Legal Extortion of their hard earned money/property, make the LAW gender neutral the word husband/wife must be replaced by the word spouse and the share should be equal both liability and claim in assets.

On the occasion of International Men’s Day, Save Family Foundation and related organizations demand the Government of India to:

SIF - Activists want a ministry for men

  • Establish a “Ministry for Men’s Welfare” to cater to men’s needs in the changing society.
  • End the "legal terrorism" perpetrated through the misuse of anti-male, anti-family laws.
  • Make civil and criminal laws gender-neutral.
  • Pass directives to resolve all marital disputes under civil law.
  • Make provisions to punish those who abuse the judicial process irrespective of gender.
  • Confer protection upon men against verbal, emotional, economic, physical and sexual abuse at home and in the work place.
  • Grant joint child custody to both spouses upon dissolution of marriage.
  • Amend Article 51A(e) of the Constitution of India as follows:
  • It shall be the duty of every citizen of India—
  • (e) to promote harmony and the spirit of common brotherhood amongst
  • all the people of India transcending religious, linguistic and regional or sectional diversities; to renounce practices derogatory to the dignity of women AND men (at present the word men is missing in constitution.)

Request all honest citizen of India , Join SIF Team to Stop such legal terrorism against Indian men and demand to replace the word "Husband/wife" to "Spouse" and "Men/Women" to "Person"  to all related LAW or policy like all over world follow instead of making assumption that all Women born in Raja Harish Chandra family ( never lie) and all Men born in Criminal family.

PPT to stop the legal terrorism

Thursday, 25 October 2012

10 Step Planning by a 498A/DV Women!

10 Step Planning by a 498A/ DV Women!

Last week I meet one of my friend Samir , a smart , hard working guy , working in a reputed company and one year back I saw them in a TV show ( represented by Samir and his wife Sarikha ) , and they seems a made for each other . In show Shiraka told the whole nation that She is very proud to have a Husband like Samir . They know each other for more than 4 years before marriage and they able to convince both of their parents , that they are made for each other .

But last week when I saw him , sorry unable to belive they end up with a legal battle , and under the so called 498A ( anti dowry LAW ) had been fired to him , his mother , sister and AL other 7- relative , except their pet Dog name every one in FIR list. Along with that CRPC125, DV act, Section-24 also as a incentive.

I just asked how all this happened ??

1. During Honeymoon :- Sarikaha Says :-

"" Darling , I always wanted to stay in a Hotel , where all the waiters and manager would take my orders and i would not have to do anything except eat and sleep. Cannot we stay in hotel all our life ?? You can go out and work and I Spend all your money ""

2.In Telephone :- ( Cool and normal talk by Sarikha )

" You know , why I am not speaking to you . I told you I will never speak you again as you did not bother to call my sister yesterday as I told you . Now you expect me to talk to you . Go to hell ."

3.In Night when Samir ask for a child :-

" I have got married the biggest fool on this planet. You do not know how to keep me happy . You do not earn enough to keep a mid. I cannot do the household work and you have the guts to think of planning a family . I have committed the biggest blunder by marrying you . I had thought that you would be earning enough to keep me happy , but i did not know that you are a Bhikhari. Your bloody parents never made you understand that before marrying you should have thought of how are you going to satisfy all the demands of your wife and that you should kept one cook and one maid servant after your marriage because it is not possible for me to cook food and wash utensils .""

4. Sarikha go back to her parents house and Samir call for come back :-
"" Now I will meet you at court ""

5.Next step by Sarikah:-
"" If you will not leave Delhi and do as I tell you , then I have other means of making you follow me wherever I go . I will not take no for an answer. Don’t dare to tell me that you will not leave Delhi. I want you decide with in a week or else I will make sure that you regret your decision for the rest of your life .""

6. More pressure :-
"" You do not have money in your pocket to buy a flat. Now my parents are ready to live with you in Delhi , but are saying that you cannot buy a flat in my name in Delhi and you do not want to shift either in Kolkata or Bangalore . You are a self made man . Do as I tell you . I am telling you I have to look after my parents . We sister have to be near them. They are getting old . I will only allow you to stay in Delhi , if you buy a three bed room flat in my name or else you will have to shift to Bangalore or Kolkata . The choice is yours .""

7.Secend step by Sarikha :-

"" See you either accept my terms or you will have to pay trial. I will make sure that you go to jail and loose your job just the way i made you loose the previous job . I will never allow you live peacefully . I do not want to stay in Delhi .I have to be near my parents in Kolkata or In Bangalore with my sister .""

8.Samir call to your in laws to convince but shok to get the reply as under :-

"" You do not have standard to be the husband of our daughter . Do whatever she says , otherwise you don’t know one of my brother is advocate , he will make your life miserable , you don’t know the Indian LAW , your whole family be behind the bar , as soon as we decide .""

9.Now final step , call to Samir office land line :-

"' Shut up , you dam fool , why don’t you understand . I am asking you whether you have taken any decision , as i cannot wait till eternity. You have to take the decision with in 4 days or else mark my words , i will ruin your life ""

10 . Final Action by Sarikha :-

"" All right you will not understand like this . I think I will have to now teach you a lesson . You wait and see what i will do . I will lodge a police complaint against you and your family members and make all of you repent for the rest of your life . Be prepared , I will finish you off. The office in which you are standing would be compelled to through you out. You just wait and watch. Don’t forget , one of my mama is an Advocate and my another mama is MMBS Doctor in Peerless Hospital "".

Then next week , Samir got the notice from Women cell that a complain of 498A ( dowry harassment , mental cruelity ) had been loaded .

Now reconciliation process are going on !!!!

Samir in big question , what he should do ??

Police says , either you accept the terms of Sarikha demands or be prepare for going to jail along with your all parents . One more option is there , arrange 25 lacks rupees and go for a mutual Divorce .

Slowly , I request to Samir , better accept what Sarikha asked , after all money is not the all the thing , you will earn more than 25 lacks with in few years .

Samir shout back: " She gone to police and file the false complain under dowry harassment, her parents want to put me behind the bar, I will fight and if required will go to jail, but not going to suffer for the whole life."

"Whatever money I have will prefer to through in Garbage , but not a single penny to her under Blackmailing and extortion , let her fight at court and get whatever she can ."

End of a happy , lovely married life , with in 2 years !!

New Born of another SIF Commando , who refused to surrender in front of Legal Terrorist, instead prefer to take the bullet on Chest.

Great power given in 498A ,Legal Terrorist will not stop here , further Domestic Violence Act, CRPC125, Section 24 in all the LAW based on assumption all the wives born in Raja Harish Chandra Family ( never lie) and all men born in Criminal Family.

Our great LAW maker forget that " To build a relationship we put a lot of pain , sacrifice , but to break a relationship required only two seconds !!!!! "
Supreme Court of India term the same as "Legal Terrorism" but our Government is sleeping since 1983 as NCW, WCD,CSR,AIWDA , Lawyers Collective and thier associates, keep on justifying all law get misused , so let such LAW also get missued, let two month old baby apply for bail, let 92 years old women go to jail, but such "Legal Terrorism " should not be stopped at all. 
They forget to relies history witness any terrorist activity can't give freedom, it only kills the innocent people.

As a , result more and more normal disputes converted to Criminal cases to show crime against women is increasing and make further new and new law. Our Constitution says , a person even in murder case can't be punished twice, but in India in case of marriage disputes a Husband is punished not once 5 to 6 times in different cases , let he is right or wrong.

Does the same not violation of Natural Justice and Indian constitution? 

For a same allegation( true or false) 5 to 6 cases field , like some one ordering a PIZZA in court and our Supreme court also unable to take any proactive action to punish such people who abuse the process of Law for their own benefit.

Join SIF Team to Stop this legal terrorism of India and demand to replace the word Husband/wife to Spouse to all marriage related LAW or policy like all over world follow instead of making assumption that all wives born in Raja Harish Chandra family ( never lie) and all husbands born in Criminal family.

(Crime Is Crime. Punishment should be irrespective of gender, religion and caste. Let us be honest and fight for truth)

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Wednesday, 24 October 2012

Are LAW Maker failed to save family?

FAMILY Court lawyers and counselors who see the break-up of every kind of human relationship, say that relationships between human beings are a complex phenomenon beyond the ken of logic. Not surprisingly, even the best legal minds in the country have been able to barely give a meaning to the word 'family', but no legal status. "The family, believe it or not, has no legal persona," says the energetic Supreme Court Lawyer Mr. Mahesh Tiwari , who is Legal Advisor of Save Family Foundation , Delhi( SFF), an Foundation which works to save the family as a social institution and associate with the movement "Save Indian Family ( SIF)",

"Thus, the inherent conflict between the individual rights of a member and the collective rights of the family is apparent in every litigation in the Family Court.

Strangely, though a major objective of the Family Court Act of 1984 is the preservation of the family as the foundation of society, it offers relief in every case by determining the rights and liabilities of individuals in biased way towards wives only and treated the Husband as a Free ATM machine only, rather than of the family.

The gray areas between the rights of the individuals and the welfare of the family become the battleground for concerned parties, due to one sided biased law like 498A,DV act , Child custody LAW, maintenance and alimony LAW under IPC125, who feel that matrimonial laws should be amended to suit right women or men, instead of pitting the two sexes against one another.

"The Family Court is a theater of unimaginable conflicts. The usual issues behind these conflicts are: feminists vs. anti-feminists; individuals vs. society and the legal system vs. the right to privacy of an individual. The Family Court Act of 1984 was passed by the Central Government because of the pressure built up by various non-governmental organizations, which unanimously felt that matrimonial and family law cases were suffering from long delays in the civil courts. Special courts were required for quick disposal of such cases so that the parties to a divorce or separation could go on with their lives and redesign their destinies. The Act encouraged and empowered various state governments to set up Family Courts in all cities with a population of over one million people.

"The first state to set up a Family Court was Rajasthan. Maharashtra followed in 1989. Today, Family Courts function in nearly 60 cities of India. Their objectives, according to the Act, include the preservation of the family as an institution, speedy disposal of cases and a re-conciliatory approach while handling human relationships. Hence, the Court is obliged to provide the services of counselors for couples seeking a separation of divorce." But the biased criminal Act like 498A, DV act and IPC 125 totally destroyed the basic aim of the family court's function.

The work of the Family Court invariably centers on the rights of a wife only, irrespective she is right or wrong. This is assumption that marriage or its break-up seriously affects her status and property rights, as their own parents also refuse them to give any property right in spite of the well settle LAW of this country.

Factors such as religion, community, custom, tradition or family views determine or affect her rights. Though a court or law itself can determine the legal view, it is very difficult — almost impossible — to change the mindset of people who have lived according to the tenets of a conception that a women can never lie or never break the family for her selfish motive, which is totally wrong in 21 st century.

For example, according to the 1974 Maintenance Laws, Rs 500 per month was the standard allowance for a divorced or separated wife. Rs 750 per month was allotted to each child. In 2000, this was changed to Rs 1,500 per month and in 2002, the upper limit of maintenance was totally removed. Result, money and property matters are so fluid and amenable manipulation in the court, that many wives, well educated and earning, prefers to show in the court they are not working, in spite of capable to do so.

Most of the divorce cases, which come to Family Courts, are based on three major reasons: Cruelty, desertion for two years or more and adultery. Of these, adultery is extremely difficult to prove. Cruelty, too, has to have a physical manifestation to be admissible as evidence in court.

Therefore, desertion remains the most common cause apart from mutual consent, where the two parties have an agreement on the terms and conditions of their separation.

But LAW like 498A , DV act and IPC 125 biased towards wives , change the whole equation and result a long litigation for both.

Social researchers regret however, that though Family Courts have been in existence for over a decade, there are no records, statistics of figures, which can point in the direction of the future of the family as the basic unit of society. Several NGOs continue to fight for the creation of a fact-and-figures bank, which could be a barometer of the health of the family in Indian society. They believe that family courts were created in the first place because of their relentless efforts, but failed to make any study about the Husband's health of conditions, result we witness more and more married men are ending their life, in 2011 as per Crime bure, 62000 more men had end their life compared to 30000 married women.

"There are media reports that the number of divorces in Indian cities — specially in Mumbai and Delhi — is increasing by leaps and bounds," but some famous women activists are arguing that it is the women's right and women empowerment, result child's are force to live under a "Father less Society" and the husband treated as a "Free ATM machine" only.

However, women wanting a larger slice of life today are a major reason for marital break-ups. They are aware of their rights and tolerate less injustice. Parents of women also support the break-up when they see the benefit they will get in terms of money and sympathy form the society.

Further, there is hardly any stigma attached to the word divorce today. We had witness, a lot of women remarried not twice , even trice also , as a example take case of Noida ,telecasted in Star News , a women married 3 times in 3 years span and fighting the third divorce case . This is not a mare exceptional case , like that a number of cases are going on in the court.

Even elders believe in the right of a woman to have a worthwhile life rather than rot in a no-win relationship. More and more families show that even one caring person can do the job of rearing a balanced, healthy child. The definition of a family is changing fast.

"Also, marriages now break at any age. People decide to separate after a few months of marriage or when they are older. And more women seek counseling or dissolution of a marriage because there are more support systems available to them rather than the husband alone. Women can choose to experience motherhood through adoption (Sushmita Sen) or through relationships with their beloveds without marriage (Neena Gupta, Sanjana Kapoor and many others). In the foreseeable future, they may become mothers through assisted reproductive technologies too."

It is natural that marriages and love relationships in celebrity-land are under more stress than others. Here, one partner may be successful beyond imagination and the other may be required to play the second-fiddle eternally.

A husband may be far more successful or popular and hi-profile compared to the wife or lover. The family or a wife may not 'approve' of the attitude of a husband who sets goals for himself and follows them single-minded. In most hyped-up industries, celebrities work constantly with equally attractive members of the opposite sex. Attractions happen and marital or loyalty vows are broken more easily than is common. Celebrity break-ups become worse when they attract publicity, leaving no room for privacy. Success, the need to hang on at the top and money — as well as personal grooming and fitness — are top priorities in most celebrity lives today. There is no time or patience of the spouse, children or other relatives.

As one prominent actress says, "People don't change. Circumstances change and force the person to go with the tide of time."

So at the end the question remained unanswered Are LAW Maker failed to save family?

A men established himself as Best Son , great Brother, but why he had termed as Criminal when it comes to as a role of Husband, why? Does to be a best son or great Brother is crime in India for a man?

If the answer is No, are they ready to review the whole marriage related LAW towards "Save family" or it is their hidden agenda to convert this country to a "Father less society" by killing the institution of marriage in India?

Join SIF Team to Stop this legal terrorism of India and demand to replace the word Husband/wife to Spouse to all marriage related LAW or policy like all over world follow instead of making assumption that all wives born in Raja Harish Chandra family ( never lie) and all husbands born in Criminal family.

(Crime Is Crime. Punishment should be irrespective of gender, religion and caste. Let us be honest and fight for truth)

Monday, 22 October 2012

Hindu News:Supreme Court- Casual, wholesale reference to in-laws won’t justify dowry case!

Hindu News:Supreme Court- Casual, wholesale reference to in-laws won’t justify dowry case

There is tendency to involve entire household in matrimonial disputes, says Bench.

Taking note of the increasing dowry-related complaints, the Supreme Court has held that a casual reference to the names of family members of the husband in the FIR filed by the wife without any allegation of their active involvement in the offence will not justify a case against them.
There is a tendency to involve the entire household in a matrimonial dispute, especially if it happens soon after the wedding. This has been borne out of experience, said a Bench of Justices T.S. Thakur and Gyan Sudha Misra.

Writing the judgment, Justice Misra said: “If the FIR as it stands does not disclose the specific allegation against the accused, more so against the co-accused, specially in a matter arising out of matrimonial bickering, it would be clear abuse of the legal and judicial process to mechanically send the accused named in the FIR to undergo trial.” Only if the FIR disclosed specific allegations would the court be persuaded “to take cognisance of the offence alleged against the relatives of the main accused who are prima facie not found to have indulged in physical and mental torture of the complainant-wife.” 

The Bench said: “It is a well-settled principle laid down in cases too numerous to mention that if the FIR did not disclose the commission of an offence, the court would be justified in quashing the proceedings, [thus] preventing the abuse of the process of law. Simultaneously, the courts are expected to adopt a cautious approach in matters of quashing specially in cases of matrimonial dispute whether the FIR in fact discloses commission of an offence by the relatives of the principal accused or the FIR prima facie discloses a case of over-implication by involving the entire family at the instance of the complainant, who is out to settle scores arising out of the teething problem or skirmish of domestic bickering while settling down in her new matrimonial surrounding.” 

However, the court clarified, “We deem it appropriate to add by way of caution that we may not be misunderstood so as to infer that even if there are allegations of an overt act indicating the complicity of the members of the family named in the FIR in a given case, cognisance would be unjustified.”
In the instant case, Shipra Mehrotra of Allahabad was married to Shyamji Mehrotra of Faridabad in Haryana in 2003. After few months, Shipra filed a complaint under the Dowry Prohibition Act and the Indian Penal Code against her husband, parents-in-law, sister-in-law Geeta Mehrotra and brother-in-law Ramji Mehrotra. Even as these proceedings were pending in an Allahabad trial court, Shipra got an ex parte decree for divorce. 

Appellants Geeta and Ramji moved the Allahabad High Court for quashing the case against them contending that the trial court had no jurisdiction to entertain the complaint as the alleged dowry harassment happened in Faridabad. The High Court refused to quash the complaint in so far as the present appellants were concerned. 

High Court order quashed:
Allowing the appeal against this order, the Supreme Court said there was only a general allegation that Geeta and Ramji were also involved in physical and mental torture of the complainant without mention of even a single incident against them. Also, how they could be motivated to demand dowry when they were only related as brother and sister of the complainant’s husband? The Bench set aside the criminal proceedings against the two appellants and “consequently the order passed by the High Court shall stand overruled.” 

Unable to understand what restrict Supreme Court of India to start punish such abuser of LAW , when Government is sleeping and promoting the injustice to innocent. Only quashing FIR is sufficient to stop such abuse of LAW?
Just read another news where Supreme court fined Rs.10 lacks for making false and Fabriacted Rape case against Mr. Rahull Gandhi , but why the same rule do not apply for common people who faced false and fabricated dowry cases?
"In a landmark judgement today, a two-judge bench of the Supreme Court of India dismissed with heavy cause a false, frivolous and politically motivated petition against Rahul Gandhi. The court found that the petitioner's had abused the process of the court in order to wrongly and deliberately malign and damage the public image and reputation of Gandhi. 16 reasons for abuse of court by the petitioners had been cited by the Supreme Court, including putting forth falsehoods, misstatement of the facts and even filing incorrect affidavits before the Supreme Court," said General Secretary Janardhan Dwivedi.

"Heavy cost of Rs. ten lakh have been imposed against the petitioners by the Supreme Court. There was no illegal detention or rape by Gandhi and the allegations are false, entirely without substance and without an iota of evidence. A CBI investigation into the conspiracy hatched against Gandhi and a CBI investigation against the petitioners is to continue and the CBI is to report to the court within six months, including on the contradictory stand taken by the petitioner Kishore Samrite before the Supreme Court," he added.
The Supreme Court earlier today dismissed a case against Rahul Gandhi, saying 'the allegation is without substance and without an iota of evidence'.

Congress welcomes SC order to dismiss alleged case of rape against Rahul GandhiN 

New Delhi, Thu, 18 Oct 2012 ANI

In spite of Supreme Court term the same as "Legal Terrorism" government is Sleeping. The word "relative" in 498A is the most abused provision and the same should be immediately scraped.

In the Judgment though Supreme court had Quashed the FIR, but no where they had mentioned any Punishment for those who file such false/fabricated FIR. It is the time Supreme court must start punish such people for making False and Fabricated FIR to give a messages that "Legal Terrorism" also a crime in this country, as government forget about to propose any punishment, they have not ready to even give a small provision of warning to such people, result more and more false/fabricated FIR getting registered every day in and out.

Request all to wake up and meet your MP/MLA/Minister and demand :

1. The word "relative" should be removed immediately as right and responsibility of resolve any marriage disputes lies to husbands and wife.
2. The IPC 498A should be made gender neutral, as more than 62000 married men also ending their life due to harassment by their wife( refer the crime Bure report) and wife family due to continuous mental harassment, demand of money/property from husbands family. The word Husband/wife to be replaced by the word "Spouse".
3. The marriage related LAW should be made bailable offense, like all over world have and to be resolved in civil law only. If there is any crime done the same is already covered in IPC by Domestic violence law, attempt to murder law, hurt to injury law, extortion and blackmailing law along with dowry provision act DP3/4.
4.  Such law not only duplication of law , but abuse of natural Justice system of India.Where the wife and their family can get whole sale free license to abuse the husbands family and do the extortion of money/property in the name of marriage. Why the same should not be termed as crime?
5. By default punishment to misuser should be must when court find the FIR had been registered to hide their own crime or to gain any favor like money/property from other party.

Join SIF Team to Stop this legal terrorism of India and demand to replace the word Husband/wife to Spouse to all marriage related LAW or policy like all over world follow instead of making assumption that all wives born in Raja Harish Chandra family ( never lie) and all husbands born in Criminal family.

Friday, 19 October 2012

World Health Organisation (WHO) Report: In India, Women Abuse Elders (in-laws) by False Dowry Cases

Authors: WHO,Publication date: 2002,Languages: English,Number of pages: 32,WHO document number: WHO/NMH/VIP/02.1

World Health Organisation (WHO) Report: In India, Women Abuse Elders (in-laws) by False Dowry Cases. 


“Daughters-in-law” was the next “problem” in both the groups. While both the
groups stressed on the lack of caring attitude by the daughters in law, women
of the lower socio -economic class got very vocal about the fact that daughters
in law were misusing the law, by reporting harassment by in-laws to the
police, leading to maltreatment by the police to the in-laws. (Indian Penal
Code sec.498(a), is designed to tackle dowry deaths).

(Report of India : Click here)

Now one question to all, if any one abuse your age old mother or young sister in the road what you will do???

Now when some abusive daughter in law abuse your mother and sister, what action you recommended??

Understand both side of the coin; if you really want to honest, corruption free India. Crime is Crime, irrespective of gender, sex or caste.So do you believe that, women well fare means, Daughter-in-law welfare???

Our Mother, sister and daughter are not women??

There is no force to accept anything, let other member to observe what is right and what is wrong, it is your choice, are you ready and want to accept the reality or believe in what media says and Legal terrorism activity done by some NGO in the name of so called women well fare is nothing but "" Killing the institution of Marriage "".

Hope the NCW, WCD and their supporters like CSR, AIWDA. Laywers collective, will focus more towards the women Education, Self employment, equal Property right of girls/boys in their parental property/business and give equal justice to all irrespective of SEX, GENDER, Caste or religion.

Request to understand “Verbal abuse and Mental harassment”, both a husband and wife are equally capable, and if we really want to save the institution of marriage, we need a  gender neutral Domestic harmony Act instead of Domestic Violence Act.

Now your present  Domestic Violence Act, again is going to do the same mistake like 498A – Family Killer, like punishment to one section in the name of “Verbal abuse and Mental harassment” and for another section giving a Whole Sale Free License, forget any punishment, there is no provision for a small warning.

Are we really doing the justice to our mother, who had spend her 50 to 60 years and successfully completed all her duties and today some Power Babe comes ( not all daughter –in –law) ,who wants only money, does not have any love or respect to others and term our mother , sister as Criminal and send her to Jail, as she can not accept her illogical demand.

Why our beloved married sister can not visit our home, as the house termed as Bhabi’s house!!!!

Why a girl can’t have the equal right to her parent’s property/business, the way a boy have??

Why a girl to be depended to husband money and property only??

We Indian man sacrifice our life for our mother, sister, wife. child but we cant tolerate that our parents should go to old age home , as some Daughter-in –law , ill-treated them , does not give proper food , proper medical support , throw them out from their own house by misue the 498A and Domestic violence Act.

Save Indian Family, as we cant not tolerated if any dishonest Daughter-in-LAW abuse our age old mother and sister.
The way Divorce rate are increasing , very soon we will beat the statistics of US , where marriage are less than 50% , Ireland was less than 2% .

As a result :-

-A lot of children spend their Child Hood in Single parenting system.
- More women will be force to earn their life in dishonest way (call girl)
- More rape/assault/fraud/theft/murder
- More Crime against our mother, sister and daughter.
- More abortion or unwanted child.

Are we looking for this situation in India??

If your answer is yes.. please go ahead and join hands, donate huge money to those organizations like NCW/WCD/AIWDA/CSR and their associated more than 4000NGO all over India who promote the Legal Terrorism of India by advocating gender biased 498A/Domestic violence act and never ready to accept any LAW where the word "Husband/wife" to be replaced by the word "Spouse" and " men/women" to be replaced by the word "person".


If your answer is no, join in our campaign Save Indian Family moment having more than 40 NGO all over India along with helplines to create more and more NGO who want gender neutral Domestic Harmony Act, not the gender biased Domestic Violence Act which is going to destroy the Family harmony and increase the Domestic violence in coming Years in multifold as predicted in 2005 itself in CNN-IBN debate.Stop This Legal Terrorism of India in the form of 498A and biased Domestic violence Act.

(Crime Is Crime. Punishment should be irrespective of gender, religion and caste. Let us be honest and fight for truth)

India: A "Terrorist " have better right than an Indian Husband?

Every day 30 to 40 Delhi Husbands are loosing their Home in protection of Women Domestic Violence Act, 2006. A husband can be thrown out from his own Home, but you can't throw out a Terrorist from their own home, that is called Indian LAW!

The Domestic Violence Act had given the boom to all Lawyer's Business, in Delhi a single lawyers had filed till date more than 60 domestic Violence Act, 2006 against the Indian Husbands. Every day he is filling at least 2 to 3 New case under domestic violence act to throw out the Husband from their own house or ensure the Husband have to pay the rent of his wife , irrespective the wife is right or wrong and for all the process required maximum 90 days activity.

‘Instead of suffering quietly, victims of domestic violence, in the form of Verbal abuse, mental harassment, economical abuse, continuous nagging , relationship cheating ..etc.. should try to look for means to face from such atrocities by face or fighting against it’, said a Indian Husband who himself had been such a victim for 18 years. Indian Husband must take the future Plan seriously , as till date they prefers to live it to their wife's hand only.

After having suffered domestic violence in the hands of his own wife for 18 years just for the sake of his children, Anil Kumar (name changed on request) is today a ‘liberated Men’ in his own rights.Growing up in an urban family, Anil Kumar studied till class XI with Home Science as his optional subject from TG Higher Secondary School, Imphal.

It was in 1977 while he was preparing for appearing in his class XII final examination, he fall in love with his wife and got married to the same lady who is also from urban area.They gave birth to one son and one daughter.However, first child was killed by his wife before she able to take see this world by her Doctor Friends at Kolkata and Anil's cry at bath room , had never noticed by any one , the moment his wife says : "She is not a Child Making Machine and this child she do not want as the same failure of Safety measure Anil used .

Since early childhood, Anil was very efficient in all work and sympathetic of Indian women like millions of Indian Men , though the LAW makers and male hater National Commission of Women ( NCW) think all Indian men by born itself either a Rapist or a Criminal only.

Anil's wife remained most of time away from home and picked up the habit of drinking and spending more time with his new Boss Mr. M K Raiyala , whose wife just end her life due to his desperate love towards his office women staff .The income earned by her was not given for any small support to their family. Most of the money spend on her diamond ring, club party , TIKKLA drink and off course 555 .

Some of his friend do not forget to mention him , that some body builder also seen in their flat , when ever he used to go out of Country for his office Projects.In such a situation, the onus of looking after the family and bringing up their children fell squarely on the shoulders of Anil who took up a 9 to 6 job at Delhi and left the Job of Bangalore as the job demands him to go out of Country frequently.

Despite working , Anil’s wife asked money from his for her sister engagement , mother's club party in the form of high cost Diamond Items and some time Anil' have to Purchase the same by using his Credit card ( still he kept all the bill in his small bag of the office ) , to avoid any unnecessary abuse from his wife in front of thier child.If refused to comply with her demand, Anil would be termed as "Bikahri" , he should not have married a women like her , he had spoiled her life , his mother should teach him before marriage that how to keep happy a Urban Women ..etc. were more than frequent.

And she never forget to mention that in spite of Mr. MK is not her husband, how much care he do for Anil's wife .‘One day, when Anil refused to give the gift to his wife for her his usual demand, she grabbed the knife and say : "I will cut the Hand and will call the 100 and you will be behind the bar . Just think are you ready to give me the gift or not ?"Seeing that Anil's daughter rushed in to save the dispute , between mum and dad."My wife kicked her in the bed's side corner and she started to cry : Please dad give the gift mum want .. please , otherwise she will not stop beat us ."

Anil go to market and purchase the 4th diamond ring for his wife by his credit card.

‘On top of fight in the family, constant fights and domestic violence in the family has induced my daughter to suffer from mental problem. Then one day I decided to send her to a Bording school at Bangalore . Since the day she went to boarding school , never ever came back to home as she prefers to meet me in her friends house at Mumbai in holidays.Instead of visiting her, my wife used to pick up fights and even told her to die, as she used to love her dad a lot.

Her condition improved gradually and able to find a Mr. Right , both got married and went to USA recently. Anil recounted while trying to control his tears at Air port.On one occasion, his son run away from home saying he was fed up with penury of the family and his mother's dirty behavior, as his all friends do not forget to term his mother as a worse than "Whore".

Recounting this incident, Anil said, "After my son did not return home till late night, I went all round looking for him and at last found him laying supine on the dry bed of the river."I held my son close and we both cried’.‘We have spend many nights with empty stomach."I had also spend a lot of Night at Car Back seat instead of bed room .

It was a routine for me after 12.00PM of mid night ."Whenever I tried to say to my office friends , they always blame me and shut my mouth saying I should resign to my fate whether my wife is good or bad."My parents and sister also continuously try to convience Anil that he should not be separated for the sake of the children.

Neither court or society will term him as a responsible father . So he should try to fulfill his wife's demand as much as possible without any objection and one day she will understand her mistake .After having gone through all these harrowing experiences, Anil got the opportunity of attending a programmer of "Commando Training of SIF" organized at Delhi by SIF volunteers .

This particular incident was a turning point in his life.

Anil started having new hope in his life and found new friends and guides who understood his problem.By that time, all are children have also grown up and started earning income.They could ignore the nagging of their Mum and live their life without her nagging.

Today, Anil participates in various Travel tour held in the country as well as abroad with his previous earning , which now he had kept in the Mutual Fund and as last two month he left the job and started his own Travel Business at Bangalore.In recognition of his talent, ITA invites him from time to time to conduct training on crafts and embroidery for the members of various SHGs.

He has also been imparting training on regular basis to the Family members of the NGOs for the welfare of Men in society .A confident looking Anil Kumar said victims of domestic violence should not remain quite and they should lodge complaint to the Police and start use the technology like voice recording, video recording , as Indian Domestic Violence LAW consider that all the Husband are wife beater and all wife are the Victim.

The burden of proof to prove your self innocent onto you , where as your wife's own verbal statement is sufficient to freeze your bank account and thrown from your own house.. yes Indian LAW does not treated like this way with a Hard core "Terrorist " also .

So, A hard core terrorist have better social life than a Indian Husband.

Anti men Domestic Violence Act  has been implemented all over India , so they should not remain quiet and suffering , they must start using the technology , otherwise they are going to be treat like a road Dog as till date we have not find a single Husband Shelter Home.

It is sad ,but that is the reality , Indian husbands have to stay in "Railway Platform" or in "Husband Shelter Home " , in spite of spending all their hard earned money to purchase the Dream Home at city like Bangalore/Delhi/Mumbai or Kolkata .

A terrorist also have the right to stay in their own house or use their own money from their own bank account for their living , but for Indian Husband as per India's Anti-men Domestic Violence Act, he had no right to stay in their own home or spend the their own hard earned money for their own living.

Result every year more than 62000 married man ending their life and all husband killers moving freely in this society as Husband killing is not a crime in India, it is termed as social service by NCW/WCD and their associate partner like CSR, AIWDA, Laywers collective, who are behind to form this anti-men Domestic violence act, where a Man can't file Domestic Violence case against any women of India, let she cut him in 11 or 17 pieces!

This is my Great Indian LAW Makers: A "Terrorist " have better  right than an Indian Husband?

Request all honest men/women of India to wake up and demand from your MP/MLA , make the domestic Violence LAW gender Neutral and replace the word Men/women to Person and Husband/wife to Spouse as the pain of a mother or sisters or daughters  is not less when they loss their son, brother or father.

Disclaimer :This is totally writer personnel Views only. You may have different opinion. The name and place changed to protect the Persons Identity.

(Crime Is Crime. Punishment should be irrespective of gender, religion and caste. Let us be honest and fight for truth)

Wednesday, 17 October 2012

Indian Husband failed to recover from Cancer on time: Termed Criminal under 498A/Domestic Violence Act.

Vinay Kumar, a bright good earning guy live in USA, when got married to a Indian women, never imagined that one day he will be facing Cancer like Yuvraj Singh, but worse than that he never dream in wild that it will be termed as crime as per Indian great LAW 498A and Domestic Violence act.

When he shared his suffering along with all medical Documents and photo with SIF commando team, it was too late, but writing this blog with a hope that those sleeping men of India will wake up and rise their voice against such injustice and the Legal Terrorism Indian husbands are facing ever day , result every year more than 62,000 married men ending their life in silence as per crime bure report , but there is no law under which he can seek the Justice in India.
His Wife and in-laws blackmailing for money by filling 498A in India and he is fighting with life in USA. This is not a Breaking news for media as Mr. Vinay Kumar is Man and more than a Husband.

Wife doesn't want to take care of him but she wants home he bought before wedding.Wife expected that he would die in six months and then she can claim insurance.

He was diagnosed with Cancer in July 2010, had two major surgeries one in Oct 2011. Along with the surgery he also underwent rigorous Chemotherapy. Fighting with Cancer is a big battle on top his wife’s abuses forced him to go to Deep Depression.

While he was recovering from cancer surgery in August 2010 his wife told him to get his parents to take care of my health as it was his problem. Immediately he call his  parents to USA from India. When his parents reached in USA, his wife planned a trip to India citing that she needs to attend her brother’s wedding and take rest. He kept requesting her to complete 6 months vaccination for his kid which completed on 6th Dec 2010 and she left for India on 7th Dec 2010 along with the Baby. She also took all her jewellery and even husband's gold items. After the wedding was over on 15th Dec 2010, he requested her to come back along with the kid but she never showed any interest and she always provocative towards him.His parents kept waiting in vain to get another glimpse of his wife and kid in USA
In May 2011 Cancer relapsed and doctor suggested to undergo Chemotherapy and surgery. He begged his wife to come back USA, but she was very abusive. Every time he kept hearing the same statements – “It’s your health problem and your parents have to take care of you”. His friends in USA helped him during Chemotherapy. As he was required to go for another surgery he requested his parents to help him out. 
He underwent another major Surgery in Oct, 2011 and from that time his parents and friends have been helping him recovery.
During the treatment he was forced to take disability leave, not to mention the medical expenses. He kept explaining his wife that he was in really bad financial crisis but, she never bother to listen to him. Now his in-laws are trying to extort money to settle the case out-of-court as they have already filled a false case of 498A to harass him and my family.

You must well aware how Indian Judges and LAW makers, Treat the Indian Husbands worse than a animal in this country, if not read this News a low income gorup man suffering :

Punjab: Man wants to sell kidney to pay alimony: Times of India

CHANDIGARH: Unable to pay maintenance to his wife, a man has approached a court in Punjab to allow him to sell his one of his two kidneys so that he
could pay up.

The Ropar resident, who found the sum stipulated by the court way beyond his means, filed an application under section 125 of CrPC (order for maintenance of wives, children) in the court of the judicial magistrate on August 22, seeking permission to sell his kidney to pay Rs 8,000 as interim maintenance to his wife.

Narrating his ordeal in the application, he said the court had ordered him to pay his wife a monthly interim allowance of Rs 3,500 under CrPC and another interim maintenance of Rs 4,500 per month under the Domestic Violence Act. Denying any permanent means of livelihood, he said he found it difficult to sustain himself as his small monthly earnings made up for only Rs 3,600 per month.

Indian Husband or Free ATM Machine?

Despite his meagre income, the man tried to pay maintenance to his wife regularly. But, under the circumstances, he is left with no option but to sell his body organs.

They will not show any humanity towards you , as per them , Indian Husbands are only a Free ATM machine. They will remind you the minimum wages act, but the same minimum wages act will not be applicable for wife at all.

Clamming Maintenance in 3-different Law at a same time ( Crpc125, section24 and DV act) is total violation of Indian Constitution article 20, where it had clearly mentioned a person can’t be prosuced twice for the same offence, but who cares and when Judiciary became blind of any country and violate the Nation’s own Constitutions, even God also can’t help that Nations.

Today a rapist, terrorist get better Justice than Indian Husbands in this country.

Stop the Legal Terrorism by promoting Gender Biased LAW and Stop treating the Indian husbands as Free ATM Machine. First give your daughter/sister equal rights in your own home and make her established to take care herself, instead of treating the Husbands family as a Free ATM Machine.

A must to do activity : Whenever your so called wife demand and claim that she do not have any place to stay and give interim maintenance or residence etc, immediately , ask the concern authority to Put her in “Government Shelter Home” , get the Booklet form the WCD ministry .

One simple appeal : “The court may put her in any of the recognized shelter house maintained by govt.( the list of shelter homes are endless) as a interim relief and husband are ready to provide all the expenses of the Shelter Home till the time the final decision of the Case not decided.”

NCW/WCD will argue the suffering of women is more, so let some men die or get suffering, they will never accept to make the LAW 498A, Domestic violence , maintenance act gender neutral, for them Indian husband means a FREE ATM machine only. Any crime done by wife and their family to be termed as social service in this country!!!

The hard reality is all over world study shows the Domestic Violence on Men and harassment to husbands for money/property by wife and their family is much more and if those law made gender neutral, at least 10 times more women will be convected behond reasonable dought in Court, so NCW/WCD desperate to protect such criminal women of India and all such criminal women moving free in India and some men use them as bread and butter earners.

But they forget it is not the numbers game, injustice some where is direct treat to justice every where. Number of Terrorist/murder in the form of Women is very less, so does all prevention of Terrorist act will be only for men? Drink and drive very women does, so does the same law should be only for men?

Request all honest citizen of India, Stop this legal terrorism of India against Indian men and demand to your MP/MLA to make gender neutral LAW as a Natural Justice all over world follow and immediately replace the word Husband/wife to Spouse or be ready to pay heavy price tomorrow as crime in society is going to increase in multiform.

(Crime Is Crime. Punishment should be irrespective of gender, religion and caste. Let us be honest and fight for truth)

Tuesday, 16 October 2012

PPT to stop the legal terrorism

PPT to stop the legal terrorism

  • 1. Supreme Court on 498 A Sushil Kumar Sharma Vs Union of India and Ors (Writ Petition (civil) 141 of 2005) “The object of the provision is prevention of the dowry meance. But as has been rightly contended by the petitioner many instances have come to light where the complaints are not bonafide and have filed with obligue motive. In such cases acquittal of the accused does not in all cases wipe out the ignomy suffered during and prior to trial. Sometimes adverse media coverage adds to the misery. The question, therefore, is what remedial measures can be taken to prevent abuse of the well-intentioned provision. Merely because the provision is constitutional and intra vires, does not give a licence to unscrupulous persons to wreck personal vendetta or unleash harassment. It may, therefore, become necessary for the legislature to find out ways how the makers of frivolous complaints or allegations can be appropriately dealt with. Till then the Courts have to take care of the situation within the existing frame work. As noted the object is to strike at the roots of dowry menace. But by misuse of the provision a new legal terrorism can be unleashed. The provision is intended to be used a shield and not assassins‘ weapon. If cry of "wolf" is made too often as a prank assistance and protection may not be available when the actual "wolf" appears.”

    Why hasn’t Government acted to prevent misuse even when Supreme Court asked them to ?
  • 2. Supreme Court of India Term “Legal Terrorism”• 
  • The Supreme Court with a Bench comprising Justices Arijit Pasayat and H K Sema has agreed with petitioner Sushil Kumar Sharma that Section 498A of Indian Penal Code, which seeks to protect women from being harassed for dowry, was being misused through frivolous cases filed by women to trouble their in-laws.
  •  By misuse of the provision a new “Legal Terrorism” can be unleashed, says Bench Merely because the provision is declared constitutional, it does not give license to unscrupulous persons to wreak personal vendetta.• 
  • Justices Arijit Pasayat and H K Sema added a word of caution, saying, "Merely because the provision is constitutional, it does not give a license to unscrupulous persons to wreck personal vendetta or unleash harassment."• 
  • The judges called upon the legislature to refine the Section and "find out ways how frivolous complaints or allegations can be appropriately dealt with".• 
  • But till date our Government /legislature have not shown any concern to stop this “Legal Terrorism” is best Known to them.
  • 3. Supreme Court of India Term “Legal Terrorism”• 
  • "In such cases acquittal of the accused does not wipe out the ignominy suffered during and prior to trial. Sometimes adverse media coverage adds to the misery". Merely because the provision was declared constitutional and intra vires, it did not give license to unscrupulous persons to wreak personal vendetta or unleash harassment, the judges said.• 
  • "The object is to strike at the root of dowry menace. But by misuse of the provision a new legal terrorism can be unleashed. The provision is intended to be used as a shield and not an assassins weapon. If [the] cry of "wolf" is made too often as a prank, assistance and protection may not be available when the actual wolf appears", the Bench said.• 
  • The investigating agencies could not follow a straitjacket formula in matters of dowry torture, deaths and cruelty.• "
  • The role of the investigating agencies and courts is that of a watchdog and not of a bloodhound. It should be their effort to see that an innocent person is not made to suffer on account of unfounded, baseless and malicious allegations," the Bench said.
  • 4. Who Are We …
  • Victims of Legal Terrorism in India• 
  • We are working professionals( IIT/IIM/Engineer/Doctors/MBA/IT Engineers/Media Journalist/Judge/Police all except Politicians) and are were working for family harmony.• 
  • We want Domestic Harmony Act , but Government refuse the same.• 
  • We want gender Equal Law , men/women to be replace by the word Person and Wife/Husband to be replace by Spouse in all Indian IPC Law.• 
  • Till Date no Politicians/Ministers had been arrested in 498A or DV act case, but common people arrested without any investigation and more than 98% face the money extortion the way a Terrorist do with Common people.• 
  • When ever any Politician of Ministers accused of 498A or DV act, even women ministers also come out openly to give him Clean Chit.• Why different law for Politicians/Ministers in India? 
  • Stop Legal Terrorism and Save your Life 
  • Request all to wake up and meet your MP/MLA/Minister and demand :

    1. The word "Men/women" should be replaced by the word "Person" immediately. If Women do not rape the Men, means physical relation with out consent of other party, why they afraid to accept the Gender Neutral Rape law?
    2. Any Physical relation with promise of marriage or any other benefit should not be termed as Rape, it should resolved as per Fraud/cheating/blackmailing law as per merit of cases.
    3. When two adult person living together without marriage the same termed "Live-in-relation" and if any partner want to come out from the same should not be crime, as people have choice to choose live together after marriage or before marriage.
    4.Marriage related LAW should be made bailable offense, like all over world have and to be resolved in civil law only. If there is any crime done the same is already covered in IPC by Domestic violence law, attempt to murder law, hurt to injury law, extortion and blackmailing law along with dowry provision act DP3/4.
    4.  Such law not only duplication of law , but abuse of natural Justice system of India.Where the women and their family can get whole sale free license to abuse the Mens and do the extortion of money/property in the name of Rape under mutual consent physical realtionship. Why the same should not be termed as crime?
    5. By default punishment to misuser should be must when court find the FIR had been registered to hide their own crime or to gain any favor like money/property from other party.

Monday, 15 October 2012

Learning to Say ‘No” to your wife illogical Demand!!

Learning to Say ‘No” to your wife illogical Demand!!

Learning to Say ‘No” to your wife illogical Demand!!

Parliament has just passed the Domestic Violence Bill. But the social conditioning and attitudes are different to alter, finds out an Exclusive SIF (Save Indian Family Yahoo Group) survey.

Sushmita and Amit (Names Changed) appeared to be the Ideal Couple. There were “ no issues “ in their relationship , except Amit’s occasional complaint about Sushmita use of abusive language against his parents and sister and some time she will take some money from his money parts without his knowledge . He used to get hurt , but Amit would dismiss it as a once –in –blue-moon behaviors till one day Sushmita kicked his 65 years old mother , when she came to their house for a evening for few hours . Amit was shocked!!!!

Silence and Suffering!!!

“There’s nothing surprising about these behaviors” says a renewed psychiatrist. “This is how things begin “She explains. “Initially he (Amit) doesn’t mind the swearing because he didn’t realize that this was just another form of abuse – She explains. “After all most of us do curse from time to time “She adds.

Then again boy’s who have grown up seeing their families and under stand that a daughter –in –law having a Whole Sale free license to abuse their Mother-in-law and Sister –in –law, as our Government thinks that all our mother and sister are criminal, for them women means only daughter in law, so only 498A, anti dowry law are there, where without any investigation all your relatives will put behind the bar irrespective of the complain is false or true. But in case of Dishonest Daughter-in-law, there is no provision by which you can give a small warning to them.

As a result all husbands believe to continue the relationship despite the violence and abuse, tend to school themselves into thinking that it is accepted behaviors. Indeed for most of the boys in India, abuse is accepted as part and parcel of a relationship – pre or post –marital.

Level of abuse:-

An online yahoo group Survey done at SIF (Save Indian Family) , throw up some interesting results . According to member, 98 % of husband suffers verbal, mental and economical abuse from their wife and in-laws. Only 10 % categorized insulting language by wife as abuse .Then again 90% husband said they were willing to forgive their partners.

Say Supreme Court Lawyer, Mr. Mahesh Tiwari, “Our society is biased . We make our boys more docile and therefore, more prone to verbal and mental as well as Economical abuse. But a girl is never fed on such views. It is because of this attitude that a wife can not take “NO” for an answer, this is where problem begins “

Why take it??

Compulsions – economic, social and emotional. A 38 Years old husband and a victim of abuse by wife confess that he is ready to forgive his partner because he “loves her too much “. A large no of husbands accept that they will continue to a relationship with their abusive partner and will sacrifice their age old parents and sister.

Indian Old Parents and Pregnant Sisters in JAIL?

The question now, in the proposed domestic Violence Bill the word “Verbal “Mental and Economic abuse , really justify and gives the right picture that only women suffers the same , husband never suffer the same ??

Mr. Praveen says , this DV Act will lead India to massive Single parenting System , a lot of Un wanted child will be in our society the way in Us 75 % Child born with out a wed lock , In Ireland only less than 2 % people get married relationship .

Another Step to Kill the Institution of Indian Marriage System - Part -2

On that country, women used to beg to men for a live together, forget a marriage, used to beg for a part time father!!!!

Our government is really concern for our honest women??

When they will understand that killing of Institution of marriage is called a “Legal Terrorism “..

Already Supreme Court of India described regarding the misuse of 498A. This Domestic Violence Bill will totally kill the Institution of Marriage system in India which a lot of outsider country want.

Let wait and watch, when our Government will wake up and do some real women well fare instead of playing this Men vs. Women game.

Disclimer :This is totally writer personnel Views only. You may have different opinion. The name and place changed to protect the Persons Identity.

Tuesday, 9 October 2012

When a women rape a man it called Love as per LAW, Society and media..right?

When i read the News article in Times of India : When live-in turns sour, man becomes ‘rapist’: Times of India News.
CHENNAI: Instances of long-time companions turning against their boyfriends, and accusing them of rape, are on the rise. Affairs gone sour, break-ups and failed live-in relationships are being taken to police by women, who charge their ex-boyfriends with rape, police say, conceding that such complaints are being lodged more frequently than before.
"We do try to strike a compromise between the man and woman, who are mostly young, but we are left with no choice if a woman sticks to her stance," a senior police officer said.
Recent examples include an IT company boss who was slapped with rape charges by his former employee, one year after she quit the job. There was also the case of a hearingimpaired man who was booked for rape after he broke up with his long-time companion. She complained to the police that he deserted her after they had lived together virtually as man and wife.
Once an FIR is registered, the prospect of arrest gets real for the man in such cases. "An arrest can ruin his self-esteem , his business and public profile," said former special public prosecutor for human rights court V Kannadasan. "Of course police have no choice but to register a case, but arrest is entirely their discretion and it should be exercised most judiciously," he said, pointing out that a couple's intimacy for a prolonged period should be taken into account by police while probing such cases.
In the recent past, police have registered a case against controversial godman Nithyananda based on allegations made by an exdevotee . It is for the police to unearth the truth, given the fact she had claimed that the godman raped her 45 times. Another incident involves a private company boss, who was arrested on charges of rape. Interestingly, here too, the two complaints from as many ex-employees came more than a year after the alleged rape took place.
In a few of these cases, the alleged perpetrator of the crime and his victim may have shared an emotional or intimate relationship , thus blurring the line between sexual exploitation and a consensual affair.
The social context remains the fact that a large number of young professionals are increasingly living together or close to each other, say police. Sharing a roof or living-in as partners too is common in this age group, they say. But sometimes, such arrangements are brought to an end without mutual consent, leaving the couple bitter.
Treasurer of the Madras High Court Advocate Association T K S Sudha, admits that some women do lodge rape complaints with the motive of exacting revenge after a relationship sours. "The Supreme Court has approved live-in relationships to an extent, as it has held that the girl is entitled to claim maintenance from her live-in partner. But, to allege rape after being in such a relationship is taking the liberty too far. It is abuse,"
Hearing impaired man gets arrested on rape charges after partner accuses him of going back on his promise to marry her A rape case was registered against controversial godman Nithyananda after a devotee claimed that she was raped 45 times Managing director of a private firm was arrested after two rape cases were filed by ex-employees , a year after the incident.


Section 375 of the Indian Penal Code lays down six circumstances to qualify for a rape. Of this, three are about consent, two about 'misconception' , and one is about the statutory age limit Poilce invoke Section 417 of IPC along with Section 376 (punishment for rape) while a man is arrested for rape. Section 417 deals with punishment for cheating and it prescribes a maximum imprisonment of one year with or without fine IF THE ALLEGED RAPE CONTINUED FOR DAYS OR TOGETHER WEEKS OR , MONTHS AT MOST IT COULD BE A CASE OF CHEATING OR BREACH OF TRUST.
We had witness several cases where a women dump men and go to another men , does on that cases a MAN can cry he had been Raped? The answer is no , then why the same is reversed when a women cry for rape? If dumping your partner is crime, why the same is not crime for women?

The bottom line is :

When a women rape a man it called Love as per LAW, Society and media..right?

 Any small child also can say such law or act is not only unfair , it is a clear injustice to men and to be termed as Blackmailing and extortion by greedy women. When two adult person stay together as per their own wish and after some time the relationship breaks, how the same can be termed as Rape?

But LAW makers prefer to keep Blind eye and promote such injustice against men and if they do not stop such biased view and promote the extortion and legal terrorism in the name of Rape, the false and fabricated Rape cases will only increase and then one more law will be made or NCW/WCD will demand increase the punishment in Rape cases .

First convert every break up as Rape case , then increase the crime against women statistics and then demand another new law , increase the punishment , which our great law makers, Supreme court of India and media often failed to understand .
Consensual sex is not rape: Supreme Court , but Police/Lower court and media never ready to accept the same. and misuse the Rape LAW qs a whole sale free lincence in this country.
Recent Judgement of Delhi Sesson Court , terming that "A man having sex with a women on promise of Marriage and then refuse to be termed as rape" reported in Hindustan times.
This is total violation of Supreme court's earlier Gudie line, which neither the Judge or Hindustan time's Jurnalsit who had reported the News , seems aware:
New Delhi, August 29: A man having sex with a girl after obtaining her consent on the promise of a marriage does not necessarily constitute rape even if he retracts on his pledge, the Supreme Court has ruled.

Such retraction by the accused would amount to rape only if the consent was obtained by coercion or threat, a bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and D K Jain said while upholding an appeal filed by the accused Pradeep Kumar. The apex court maintained that there was no straitjacket formula for determining whether consent given by the girl was voluntary or given under a misconception of fact as it has to be decided on the basis of the circumstances and surrounding factors which led to the alleged consensual sex.
"The court must consider the evidence before it and the surrounding circumstances before reaching a conclusion, because each case has its own peculiar facts which may have a bearing on the question whether the consent was voluntary or was given under a misconception of fact," the apex court observed.
Pradeep Kumar had filed the appeal against the orders of a sessions court and the Patna High Court which rejected his plea for discharge from a case filed against him by a girl who got him booked under IPC Sections 376 IPC (rape) and 406 (breach of trust) for "retracting" on his promise to marry her.
In his appeal before the apex court, the accused claimed that the victim had consensual sex with him and hence the charge of rape or breach of trust cannot be entertained.
( Refer the Supreme court Judgement Appeal (crl.) 1086 of 2007)

But Delhi season court had failed to consider why she had been in a sexual relationship before marriage, is it her birth right to term any Tom/Dick or harry a rapist, if the guy do not find she is suitable for his rest of the life?
When she is so concern about protection of virginity, why they go for sexual relationship before marriage?
If at all a Promise of Marriage made , maximum it can be termed as Cheating or Breach of trust, but how it became a Rape?
Further we witness a number of cases the girls( so called lovers) are dumping the boys also and do not marry after college, specially in those cases where the girls get better earning man in their life after ward to fulfill their dream of lavish lifestyle through marriage, so do those boys have any right in the law to file Rape case against their cheater Girls friends?
One hand as per Domestic Violence LAW, our LAW makers and all radical women activists already made live-in-relationship women had got all the legal rights ( even a one night relationship) , among the college we witness maximum young boys and girls are having per-marriage sex in the name of women and sexual liberation, strong avocation by WCD ministers that in the School itself we should teach sex education among the child to stop the AIDS, continuous provocation that do not marry a unknown man, first know each other form all the aspects, as marriage is a eye opener and love is blind.. etc, on the other hand terming some one a Rapist only on the basis that the guy had refused to marry a girl after consensual sex , how much justified , only our LAW makers can answer.
One hand a women will be raped by a gang of people and then will be killed and police/media will continue to search to find the real rapist years to years , on the other hand so called living greedy women will file false Rape cases , if they feel the man do not find suitable her for a real life partner due any reasons.

So , in this country as a women you have all the wholesale free lincence to term any man a "Rapist" , let you rape the him, that does not matter!!!!
When a women rape a man it called Love as per LAW, Society and media..right?
Wonder why Rape law should not be made Gender Equal, if we fell women do not rape the man and instead of hide behind a gender biased law , let the so called radical women forces come forward to prove that they do not rape the man.
Can they have such honesty or it is White lie to protect their own crime and refuse to accept the LAW commissions long back recommendations to make the Rape LAW Gender Equal.
We know if the rape law made gender equal , every year at least 5 times more women will be convected than man, as per present definition of Rape and if we have Judges like this , who think sex with the promise of marriage is Rape in this country.
Request all honest Media guys, Law makers and common citizen, wake up and make the law sensible, logical and gender neutral instead of any assumption that all women born in "Raja Harish Chandra family" and all men born in criminal family. 
Be ready tomorrow WCD/NCW will demand no punishment for women in murder case, drink and drive cases as the same crime done by few women, what a logic!!