Showing posts with label mental abuse. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mental abuse. Show all posts

Friday, 17 July 2015

Hidden Face of Indian Wives : True Love or Abuse ?

It was Saturday morning 7.30AM in Delhi as I forget to disable to my daily alarm in mobile phone, started crying, wake up , wake up , good morning tune.


I have no other option but to wake up and have to touch the screen of my android mobile to confirm, yes I had wake up to make him silent.


Very surprised to see in my serious Whats-app group, a guy posted a Video in name: “True Love” – Murga by RJ Naved.


My first reaction was why the hell he had posted this in a serious whats-app group where strict instruction, no forward of Jokes and you will be banned.


Then I open the Video and understand its people termed as Joke , but the Hidden face of maximum Indian Wives , which we witness or experienced many times in our daily life .

My anger vanished in 3 minute, after all the person who send unfortunately belongs to worlds most hated community called as Indian Husbands . Even some  terrorist community of India also had not been hated so much .

A great thumps Up to RJ Naved , who bring this hidden Faces to our Notice , which every one know , but none dare to telecast.



P.S. Wives face have to be hidden as showing her face in public itself is a crime for Husband in India, as per unfair IPC354 and Domestic Violence act.


Yes you will also have a good laugh, like in this video back ground done along with mine also.



But if this had been done by any Husband to his wife, it had been a breaking News till now.


  •  Indian Husbands abuses their wives, many one-sided funded survey had been flashed. 





  • Twitter, face book had been filled up to make it viral and termed every Husband of India are wife abuser, right?



  • Many documentary film makers had been traveled from UK or USA to India to show the whole world, how sick our Indian mindset. There had been mass protest in India gate to force government make another new law and demand hang to such wife abusers, right? 

But when any women or wives abuse any men or Husband, its fun, joke, entertainment and enjoy the suffering of Men/Husband. Thanks to our MisandricMindset.

Verbal abuse , mental abuse , economical abuse , physical abuse and sexual abuse all over the world termed as Domestic Violence, but in India when a husband face such domestic Violence by wives , the same never considered as Domestic Violence.

Lacks of fund had been spend to make study, survey to prove how women are victim of Domestic Violence, but none had asked their male partner, what they face on their daily life. All the study basic foundation is Women Never Lie and Women Never Cheat assumptions.

There are some international studies there the researchers dare to ask the same question to both men and women and found more women doing domestic violence against men than men doing against women.

Every year more than 64000 married men ending their life which is almost double than married women in India, but National Health survey never feel to need of even to find the reason.



Married Men Suicide Increasing In India



When SFF Volunteers ask them in 2013and send the questioners to be asked to Indian men also and why the same should not be covered in their study very surprising answer received:


“At present the National Health Survey module does not have facility to capture the data for men, may review in future.” 



Two years had been passed, but still they have not able to find how to modify the data capturing module in their survey and our Prime minister dreaming of Digital India.

When it comes to look into the problem faced by men or husband , not only government , even well known media houses also try to ignore and prefer to use abuse to men or husband as matter of Joke and fun.

It had been reminded to every boy from their child hood, that boys should not cry , they can’t be victim.

Result when Men became victim of Domestic abuse, they never cry in front of Public or in front of friends.

Their crying place is Washrooms, bathrooms or dark bedrooms only.


They even refuse to accept that they are victim and such denial of victim-hood restricts them to seek any help or guidance from others and victimize themselves more and more.

When men themselves on denial mode, that they are victim of domestic abuse which is hard fact and truth, result their suffering, pain, agony continue to increase.


End result lead to suicide or spouse murder or self destruction mode.



So, time to first accept you are a Victim of Domestic abuse, then only you will look for come out from such victim hood, but if you are in denial mode, the problem is not going to resolve by some magic.

Domestic Violence against men are not Joke, it had its own repercussions , if you continue to ignore, as society everyone have to pay the price  which I had caution in 2006 itself in CNN-IBN debate show.


CNN-IBN Debate on Domestic Violence Act , 2005 Part-2 ...







When unfair, biased Domestic Violence act was passed in the name of big relief to women by ignoring suffering of Indian men/husband, I had clearly told , after 3 years  radical feminist groups will start cry violence against women is increasing and they will demand more anti-men laws , instead of correcting the unfair laws.

History witness the more you will destroy the harmony in society by multiple unfair law’s, crime in society is going to increase, it never decrease.

Just have a comparative looks of Spouse murder per lack population USA vs India, 4 times more spouse get murdered in USA than India.


Would love to see your comment, when next time you witness any news or video where Men or Husband had been abused by any women or Girls the same to be used as Fun/Joke or try to provide a helping hand to them.



Wednesday, 25 June 2014

Trivial Disputes: Women are filing Molestation cases and misusing #IPC354


Many young guys supported strong #IPC354 without prior understanding of the law, which led to #IPC354 be made non-bailable. As per this law any woman can label a boy as ‘Molester’ without having to undergo a medical examination.

Recently in SIF we are getting many complaints that even age old ladies are filling molestation cases against young boys secondary to trivial disputes such as Parking of cars or bikes.

25 years old Arun, working in Delhi metro one day reached home on his bike and found that their neighbor had parked their bike in his place. He requested the neighbor to move their bike to an alternate place, but they refused and started to abuse him. He contacted Delhi Police at number 100 after which the neighbor removed their bike.

But a big surprise awaited him the next day morning. He received a call from local Police station, that he and his 22 year old brother were accused of Molesting the neighbor who was a 45 year old woman.

Police arrested them both and put them behind bars for 9 days, which is the time it took for them to get bail. All his lawyers and other neighbors asked him to compromise and offer 5 Lakh Rupees to the 45 year old woman. He was left very confused, and wondered why was he put through such injustice? He started calling us to seek answers for why such unfair, biased law was made in the first place?

Mr. Arun is not alone, every day in SIF we witness such cases and find that young guys are totally ignorant and unaware of the dangers of #IPC354. This law was created in a way, that any women irrespective of her age can send any man behind bars by a simple verbal allegation.

In the parliament many MPs did express concern about its misuse, but radical feminists ignored their valid concerns. SIF also made recommendations to ensure innocents were not harassed, however government paid no heed to what MPs and SIF were stating and went ahead in approving this unfair, and biased law.

In another case in a shopping mall, Mr. Karan Gupta, 35 years old, met with an accident. A young woman crashed his car from behind. He immediately started video the situation using his mobile phone.

Photo Courtesy by Mark


Although the woman was at fault, she started to be abusive towards him. In order to seek justice Mr Gupta contacted Police at 100. Police officer took both of them to the local Police Station.

At the Police Station the woman filed a molestation case on him misusing #IPC354. She alleged that he had touched her private parts. Mr Gupta requested the Investigating Officer to record the lying woman’s statement and for her to undergo medical examination. The woman refused to undergo a medical exam. A lady police officer then advised this erring woman that she should not say that Mr Gupta touched her but she should make allegation that he abused her verbally and attempted to touch her body. This made the women change her statement, and IO was about to arrest Mr. Gupta.

Mr Gupta then showed IO the recorded video of what had actually happened. Mr Gupta was lucky that he was facing an honest IO. Looking at the video evidence right in front of him, he closed the case against Mr Gupta. Not only that he went ahead and filed a case against the erring woman under #IPC182 for giving false statement to a government officer with intention to hurt.

Ironically the court gave bail to that woman straightaway despite the Video evidence to support #IPC182.

This is the main reason for increase in false, fabricated Molestation and rape cases in India.

A mere allegation by a 45 years old women, without any evidence, sent two young men behind bars for 9 days. On the other hand, despite video evidence of false molestation charges, a woman got bail in 2 minutes.

Such injustice against boys or men is not new. Law makers are in deep slumber while radical feminist organizations are manipulating the Media. This leads to Media showing only incidents of alleged rape/molestation cases, but they never show any cases in which a man has proved himself innocent after having lost 5 to 7 years running around in courts.

Is there any way out?

Yes, it needs awareness and will power of our Law makers to stop such abuse of  law. They must realize that non-bailable criminal case is not a joke like ordering some Pizza. Such false allegations destroy an innocent, law abiding man’s self-esteem, confidence and faith in humanity.

Any FIR/complaint on the basis of Verbal statement of women which leads to #IPC354 must be made bailable.

The punishment for making false fabricated statement under #IPC182 should be non-bailable and strong punishment in jail terms, without accepting any excuses is the need of the hour. Government must issue strong directions in law itself, so that Judges should not allow bail in such cases where by documentary evidence (like video recording, CCTV footage, Mobile locations, and audio recordings) itself prove the case was false and fabricated.

History has taught us that sending innocents behind bars doesn’t reduce crime rates. It will only have a backlash which will lead to revenge, violence and raised crime in India.

Photo Courtesy by Mark



Friday, 16 November 2012

SFF PRESS RELEASE:International Men’s Day(IMD), 19th November



SFF PRESS RELEASE: International Men’s Day(IMD), 19th November



Subject: The theme for this year’s IMD is: “Stop Abuse Against Men”



International Men’s Day is first celebrated in Trinidad and Tobago in 1999. Since then, every year it is celebrated in more than 80 countries across the world. 


Today, the social expectations from men are continuously increasing. The suicide rates of married men are going skywards as more and more men are taken for granted for their contributions to family, cultures and societies. Every year, International Men’s Day is observed to celebrate being male and to spend one day acknowledging the positive contribution of men towards family and the society, in this age of constant criticism, male bashing and misandry in popular culture.

This year, the focus of International Men’s Day in India is to initiate the discussion among men about the very attributes and constraints of “being a REAL MALE”. Till now, most men perceive it to be unmanly, if they discuss any of men’s weaknesses and vulnerabilities including celebrating International Men’s Day. These attitudes are not helping men transform for a peaceful world.

In past, many powerful patriarchal men even considered it unmanly to celebrate the international Men’s Day.
When 3 times more men compared women die in accidents, murders and suicides every year in India, still many men live in denial of their own problems and refuse to seek help or support as they are stuck inside the traditional notions of manhood. Freedom of men from these regressive attitudes is a must, if we all wish for a better world for every human being. Its time men start communicating and sharing their issues and their personal vulnerabilities in their relationships.

According to our survey, 84% of urban Indian males find domestic violence against men by women is funny and abused husbands are not male enough.

Such mindset basically means Men who hit back at the abusive women are “Real Men” and Men who take the abuse without reacting, are not “Real Men”.

Interestingly, the feminists want men to change and yet they want men to remain “Real Men”. Such contradictions in their thinking show, how intellectually challenged they are.




If men have to transform, then one has to look at Male Identity from Men’s Prism, not from Women’s Prism or from Women’s Studies Courses or feminism.
Men must not be made to Earn Manhood:

Do we ever make any woman earn her womanhood? How ridiculous it would be, if we start doing that. Do we call a girl a woman, when she produces a child? No. A girl becomes a woman due to biology. However, societies and cultures have always made men earn their manhood by taking risks and achieving some definite accomplishments. So often we hear the phrase, “be a man and do something”. Men who fail in taking risks or showing courage or Men, who do not have accomplishments are shamed as “losers” and “cowards”, who are not male enough. Cultures have kept the male identity very delicate.

The male ego is fragile, because cultures have made manhood of a man very delicate.

Such attitudes constantly create pressure and stress on men to perform, otherwise he risks losing his identity as a male. So, men avoid doing anything that makes them laughing matter for others, including not sharing their problems and weaknesses. The other side of this behavior is men try to show off their manhood and brag about their achievements and sexual exploits. 

A Man is a man, irrespective of whether he is straight or gay, rich or poor, employed or unemployed. A Man must not be culturally made to earn his manhood.
Women and Men must stop shaming men, “What kind of Man you are? Common, Be a Man”.

On International Men’s Day, 19th November, we urge:

1.      Men in powerful positions must stop living in denial about men’s issues and even their own vulnerabilities.
2.      Male film actors must work to end the glorification of violent male protector role.
3.      Men must not be shamed with expectations of traditional male identity. Its time society stops tearing men between both traditional Conservative and modern Liberal expectations.
4.      Immediate establishment of Male Studies departments in Universities.
5.      Men must go beyond “Good versus Evil” wars so that we can have a peaceful world.
6.      Establishment of National Commission for Men to create gender equality.

Every day is not a Men’s Day. Otherwise, the world would not have seen slavery and discrimination of Men on the basis of race, caste, color or religion.

Its time Men stop living in denial about their issues and celebrate International Men’s Day (IMD).



Survey about Men’s Attitudes and Men’s Issues:



This survey was conducted in 3 urban Indian cities and it is about Men attitudes towards men’s issues and gender relationships.

1.      Most men find videos of wife beating husband as funny. 84% men say domestic violence against men is funny.

2.      85% urban men are not aware of laws related to marriage like Hindu Marriage Act and other laws.

3.      One in 12 married men between ages 25 to 40 is separated or is facing divorce.

4.      Only 4% of all unmarried Men recognize Marital Problems may impact their lives in future.

5.      87% men are more worried about safety of their parents than themselves, when their marital problems escalate. They hate to imagine, their parents going to courts.

6.      67% (2 out of 3) men find it difficult to share their relationship problems to their parents or close friends until it is too late. They are scared that parents and friends will not trust them.

7.      Most men are also over protective about their sister’s or daughter’s marriage. 92% of men of all age groups find it very difficult to accept the breakdown of their sister’s or daughter’s marriage.

8.      50% men going through marital problems feel low self-esteem, feel depressed and contemplate suicide at one time or other.

9.      52% men find it difficult to indulge in sexual intercourse, if verbally abused by wife or partner the same day. They tend to reject any advances made (by wife).
 

Gender wise, Statistics of number of victims of Murders, Suicides and Accidents all over India, in Year 2009 (courtesy: Ministry of Home Affairs, Indian Government).

Murder:
http://ncrb.nic.in/CII-2009-NEW/cii-2009/Table%203.3.pdf
Male Victims-24,441, Female Victims-8,718 Total Victims-33,159

Culpabale Homicide Not Amounting To Murder (Sec.304 and 308 IPC) During 2009
http://ncrb.nic.in/CII-2009-NEW/cii-2009/Table%203.4.pdf

Male Victims=3,529, Female Victims=753 Total Victims=4282
Dowry Death Convictions (75% dowry death cases are false and lead to no convictions)
http://ncrb.nic.in/CII-2009-NEW/cii-2009/Table%204.9.pdf
http://ncrb.nic.in/cii2008/cii-2008/Table%204.9.pdf
http://ncrb.nic.in/cii2007/cii-2007/Table%204.9.pdf

In 2009, 2008 and 2007 the dowry death convictions are 1882, 1948 and 1946 respectively.
These dowry deaths are too small a number for a country of 1.2 billion people.

Accidental Deaths:
http://ncrb.nic.in/CD-ADSI2009/table-1.4.pdf
Male Victims=276,333(77.4%) Female Victims=80,688 (22.6%) Total Victims=357021

Suicides:
http://ncrb.nic.in/CD-ADSI2009/table-2.5.pdf
Male Victims=81,471 Female victims=45,680 (Total Victims=127151)

(Male Victims=64.1%, female Victims=35.9%)

Total Victims of Suicide, Murder and Accidents:
Male Victims=361,333(73%) Female Victims=135,839 (27%)


Our Demands:

1)     The time has come to establish “Ministry for Men Welfare”. We demand on this day to the Govt of India to establish the “Ministry for Men Welfare”

2)     All gender biased laws like IPC 498A, DV Act, Proposed Sexual Harassment at Workplace Bill”, Proposed “Marriage Law Bill 2010 (Amendment)”, Adultery Law (IPC 497) should be made Gender Neutral.

3)     End the "legal terrorism" perpetrated through the misuse of anti-male, anti-family laws. Make IPC 498A bailable and non-congnizable.

4)     Make provisions to punish those who abuse the judicial process irrespective of gender.

5)     Confer protection upon men against verbal, emotional, economic, physical and sexual         abuse at home and in the work place.

6)     Grant joint child custody to both spouses upon dissolution of marriage.

International Men’s Day – 19 November!

Request all honest citizen of India , Join SIF Team to Stop such legal terrorism against Indian men and demand to replace the word "Husband/wife" to "Spouse" and "Men/Women" to "Person"  to all related LAW or policy like all over world follow instead of making assumption that all Women born in Raja Harish Chandra family ( never lie) and all Men born in Criminal family.

PPT to stop the legal terrorism 

















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