World Health Organisation (WHO) Report: In India, Women Abuse Elders (in-laws) by False Dowry Cases

Authors: WHO,Publication date: 2002,Languages: English,Number of pages: 32,WHO document number: WHO/NMH/VIP/02.1

World Health Organisation (WHO) Report: In India, Women Abuse Elders (in-laws) by False Dowry Cases. 

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“Daughters-in-law” was the next “problem” in both the groups. While both the
groups stressed on the lack of caring attitude by the daughters in law, women
of the lower socio -economic class got very vocal about the fact that daughters
in law were misusing the law, by reporting harassment by in-laws to the
police, leading to maltreatment by the police to the in-laws. (Indian Penal
Code sec.498(a), is designed to tackle dowry deaths).

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Now one question to all, if any one abuse your age old mother or young sister in the road what you will do???

Now when some abusive daughter in law abuse your mother and sister, what action you recommended??

Understand both side of the coin; if you really want to honest, corruption free India. Crime is Crime, irrespective of gender, sex or caste.So do you believe that, women well fare means, Daughter-in-law welfare???

Our Mother, sister and daughter are not women??

There is no force to accept anything, let other member to observe what is right and what is wrong, it is your choice, are you ready and want to accept the reality or believe in what media says and Legal terrorism activity done by some NGO in the name of so called women well fare is nothing but "" Killing the institution of Marriage "".

Hope the NCW, WCD and their supporters like CSR, AIWDA. Laywers collective, will focus more towards the women Education, Self employment, equal Property right of girls/boys in their parental property/business and give equal justice to all irrespective of SEX, GENDER, Caste or religion.

Request to understand “Verbal abuse and Mental harassment”, both a husband and wife are equally capable, and if we really want to save the institution of marriage, we need a  gender neutral Domestic harmony Act instead of Domestic Violence Act.

Now your present  Domestic Violence Act, again is going to do the same mistake like 498A – Family Killer, like punishment to one section in the name of “Verbal abuse and Mental harassment” and for another section giving a Whole Sale Free License, forget any punishment, there is no provision for a small warning.

Are we really doing the justice to our mother, who had spend her 50 to 60 years and successfully completed all her duties and today some Power Babe comes ( not all daughter –in –law) ,who wants only money, does not have any love or respect to others and term our mother , sister as Criminal and send her to Jail, as she can not accept her illogical demand.

Why our beloved married sister can not visit our home, as the house termed as Bhabi’s house!!!!

Why a girl can’t have the equal right to her parent’s property/business, the way a boy have??

Why a girl to be depended to husband money and property only??


We Indian man sacrifice our life for our mother, sister, wife. child but we cant tolerate that our parents should go to old age home , as some Daughter-in –law , ill-treated them , does not give proper food , proper medical support , throw them out from their own house by misue the 498A and Domestic violence Act.

Save Indian Family, as we cant not tolerated if any dishonest Daughter-in-LAW abuse our age old mother and sister.
The way Divorce rate are increasing , very soon we will beat the statistics of US , where marriage are less than 50% , Ireland was less than 2% .

As a result :-

-A lot of children spend their Child Hood in Single parenting system.
- More women will be force to earn their life in dishonest way (call girl)
- More rape/assault/fraud/theft/murder
- More Crime against our mother, sister and daughter.
- More abortion or unwanted child.

Are we looking for this situation in India??

If your answer is yes.. please go ahead and join hands, donate huge money to those organizations like NCW/WCD/AIWDA/CSR and their associated more than 4000NGO all over India who promote the Legal Terrorism of India by advocating gender biased 498A/Domestic violence act and never ready to accept any LAW where the word "Husband/wife" to be replaced by the word "Spouse" and " men/women" to be replaced by the word "person".

Or

If your answer is no, join in our campaign Save Indian Family moment having more than 40 NGO all over India along with helplines to create more and more NGO who want gender neutral Domestic Harmony Act, not the gender biased Domestic Violence Act which is going to destroy the Family harmony and increase the Domestic violence in coming Years in multifold as predicted in 2005 itself in CNN-IBN debate.Stop This Legal Terrorism of India in the form of 498A and biased Domestic violence Act.

(Crime Is Crime. Punishment should be irrespective of gender, religion and caste. Let us be honest and fight for truth)

Drafting of bill for protection of men from intimate partner voilence is near completion

About INSAAF: “Indian Social Awareness and Activism Forum” INSAAF  is an international think tank specializing in social and gender research. Consisting entirely of intelligentsia possessing vast collective expertise in advancing social reform , legislative consultation and advisory research this Non Governmental Organization (NGO) has branches both the United States and in India. INSAAF has been invited to depose in the Rajya Sabha , Lok Sabha over 7 times on various issues India  like Prevention of Torture bill , Civil Nuclear Liability Bill , Lokpal bill , Marraige Law amendment bill , Sexual harrasment at workplace bill amongst many others. INSAAF has also actively worked in the United States Senate and House for various issues affecting Indian immigrants . We have acted as trusted advisers on national and international research studies  and have provided very credible data and unbiased factual research on various legislative issues both at the state and national level both in US and in India. We have  100's of active contributing research experts all over the world supplying us with their valuable opinion and peer reviewed research.

INSAAF has been retained by prominent Indian men's rights organisations along with  some key Members of parliament for drafting a Intimate Terror (Domestic Violence) act which specifically caters to protecting men and boys from domestic violence from their spouse , girlfriends and parents. It has been alleged that Husbands and boyfriends in Indian are specifically excluded from protected under domestic violence laws in India. Research has also shown that there have been significant demand from all quarters for creation of laws to protect men from intimate terror but all these requests have so far not led to to formulation of an actual law which is believed to have caused due to unavailability of a government forum to consider the safety and security of Indian men in general.

Preliminary Study results from INSAAF's study of Intimate Terror in India

INSAAF's researchers have collated vast amount of peer reviewed data and evidence from personal interviews of male victims, court case records , statements made by honorable courts and media articles and has determined that domestic violence abuse of Indian males falls across a wide range of categories namely

a. Physical abuse : Husbands and Male partners have presented serious evidence of been  scratched , punched , bit , things thrown at them by their female partners apart from attacks with deadly instruments. In the absence of a legal system to protect men from physical violence  these victims get little or no medical care or attention and are even unable to speak of their physical wounds due to the unavailability of a law to protect them from abuse.

b. Emotional abuse :  Demands to forcefully separate the husband from his parents and family , demand for separate residence, threat of Police action and legal recourse if the wife's demands are not met were  some of the commonly seen tactics of emotional abuse. Also , constant non-cooperation of the wife or the female partner in the smooth running of a family was another commonly seen tactic which was used to abuse husbands in case of non fulfillment of the demands of the wife.

c. Verbal abuse : Calling husbands and male partners derogatory names with an intent to demean and hurt. Names like "impotent" , "Spineless" , "Hijra(Eunuch)" have most commonly come up and were verbal abuses that were levelled against Husbands and male partners with an intent to cause pain and ignominy. Many husbands provided evidence of suffering of such verbal abuse for decades primarily due to their specific inability to earn an income as per the demands of their spouses.    

d. Legal abuse : The acts of misusing the state machinery by the wife or female partner for intent of coercing the husband or the male partner to abide by their demands. Common amongst these are misuse of IPC 498a , DV act 2005 , Rape/Molestation Laws , Denying Child custody on event of separation and Maintenance laws.

e. Economic abuse :- Constant irrational demands on the husband for purchase of jewelery , real estate , expensive clothing , automobiles , restaurant hospitality, feminine beauty products and demands for payments to family members of the wife's family was evidenced .When the husband or the male partner was unable to meet the financial demands of the female partner they were subjected to further emotional and physical abuse. A lot of data spoke of  severe economic abuse and daily non co-operatory tactics to force the man to increase his income beyond his normal means and capability. Inability of the man to earn more led to further domestic abuse and which in many cases led to legal and physical violence and an eventual divorce.


f. Sexual abuse: Using consensual physical relations to coerce a man for either financial payments and/or forced marriage . Threatening to file cases of rape and molestation after consensual physical relations. Forcing men to start families against their will and denying physical relation in a matrimonial relation if to irrational and unreasonable demands are not fulfilled.

INSAAF's study has also has taken into account the scale and propensity of abuse of husbands and males partners in India and compared that to worldwide abuse numbers . We have concluded that in in more than 50% of cases wives and females also initiated fights which led to intimate terror attacks on their male partners. The bill is going through its final touches  and  will be presented for consideration during the winter session of the parliament.

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