Showing posts with label ELDER ABUSE. Show all posts
Showing posts with label ELDER ABUSE. Show all posts

Thursday, 17 September 2015

Indian Women, you want to be treated as special or equal?



Just have a Look of this Man: Lord Ganesha , his head was Cut when he was Born, but today we all seek blessing from Him . Where there is a will there is a way, be honest yourself first what you want .

Ask any women activist or Feminist of the world the question: you want to be treated equal or to be treated as special ?


100% percent you will get answer; they want to be treated equally.

But in reality what they demanded and got till date just have a list:

1.      Special income tax slabs for women
2.      Special city buses for women
3.      Special autos/cabs only for women
4.      Special central ministry for women ( State as well as in center)
5.      Special Women commission ( State as well as in center)
6.      Special reservation for women in  admissions and employment
7.      Special compulsory seat for women in corporate boards of private company
8.      Special multiple laws for women ( at present more than 40+)
9.      Special police stations for women
10.  Special  Mahila ( Women) court
11.  Special Exemption for women in Domestic Violence accused
12.  Special  Exemption for women in Rape Law as rape accused
13.  Special interest rate (loans/deposits) for women
14.  Special helpline for women
15.  Special wing for women in all political parties
16.  Special reservation in Local/Ward/ Panchayat Election
17.  Special Army Law for Women
18.  Special NGOs for women across the Nation
19.  Special reservation and seats in  railways (ladies quota)and buses
20.  Special women wing even in Naxalites / terrorists organizations.
21. Special  Exemption for women in Adultery Law as accused
22. Special Exemption for Women to pay maint to handicapped, ill Husband under #CRPC125
23. Special Exemption for Women not to be punished for Killing Unborn Child in Abortion law
24. Special FREE use of Toilets of any Restaurant , Hotel including 5-Star Too  for Women
25. Special Allowance for Separated married Women by State 
26. Special protection to  Adult Women : She can Marry any Male Child No Punishment in Child Marriage act .
27. Husband have to pay to even a Women who Lived in #Adultery after Divorce, she alive or get remarried via #CRPC125.
28. No Punishment's for doing Domestic Violence on Men and Boys.
29. Still many are under Process and their never ending demand list….( You may mention in my comment list )

May be our Next step only left to have a special currency for Women .(#SpCurrency4Women)


It makes me really wonder, why no women organizations object so many special treatments to them, when they seek to be treated as equal.

We do not have any problem you had been treated as Special, you enjoy all your special privilege, but please be truth full to us when you say, and you want to be treated as equal.

Coming Soon #SpCurrency4Women


Many time we had tried our best to tell everyone start from Media, women organizations , Political Members , in the dictionary there is a word called Person vs Men/women and Spouse vs Husband/wife.

When a Child born, Child does not know He or She. It’s your Law and policy teaches him or her to be termed as He or she.

The biggest myth he or she learn women don’t get equal treatment in India. Any problem or issue converted to women issue and problem let it be murder, accident, suicide or even not having electricity in your home, not having toilet or water supply in your home.

Women had been always thinks or start believe as Victim in spite NCRB data shows the victim of Murder , accident , suicide or illness as a Men in India at least 2 to 3 times more compared to women. Still we believe due to our Misandrist mindset, it’s the women are always victim of all violence or crime, where is fact remains it’s not women, more men are victim of violence or heinous crime in our society.



When I tried to understand why such think happen from a well known child right activist, he explained, maximum men are very poor to represent lie and maximum women had mastery in it. History witness a women can lie and fool any men and never caught by men even in their whole life time also, where as if a men try to lie to women, he get caught in few seconds. So, men have no option but to prefer to stick with truth more specially in front of Women.

So, if you are not interested to be honest to others, at least be honest yourself and ask want to be treated as Special or want to be treated as equal ?

Equality comes when you yourself own both equal rights and responsibility as men own. Demanding equal rights but avoiding to take equal responsibility like men will never make you equal to men , be honest yourself.

God had given both men and women two leg, two hand and one brain , but as we grow it's men who take more responsibility as provider and protector, which you can also take and by default you will get all rights what a men have .

Those women really believe to be treated as equal , they got equal treatment , but those women believe to be treated as special they got special treatment and should not expect equal treatment .Men never asked for any special treatment , except the latest demand in West Bengal for “Pitribhuami “ train , a special Train for men, as you even refused to share two empty Coach with Men.

Would love to have your views which are listed Special treatment you Prefer to give up for equality or what are more special demand you have to get treated as Special.

History witness unfair, biased law or policy never brings fairness in any society.

Wish You all Happy Ganesh Puja !!











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Wednesday, 10 June 2015

#StopElderAbuse: What if I am tortured ?


"If a woman is tortured, the first thing police do is arrest her in-laws, even though they are elderly.

What if I am tortured by my daughter-in-law? All 498A (a section that deals with physical and mental torture of women) does is put people like us behind bars, it will never put my daughter-in-law behind bars. Police should look into this discrepancy and if need be change the law, for I am ending my life unable to bear the torture meted out to me by my daughter-in-law."


"This suicide note was on Thursday from an Alipore (Kolkata, India) house where 64 year-old Ranjit Chakraborty hanged himself to death from his bathroom shower.


Chakraborty, a retired employee of a multi-national company, worked hard till the day he died. Police conducted a preliminary enquiry and close the case as “Family Disputes”.

Even a 88years old women, former  Freedom fighter  also not spared by her Daughter-in-Law , but no media like Times Now or NDTV or CNN IBN , feel the same worth for a debate as the crime done by some women .

Elder Abuse : 88 Yrs Old women dumped by Daughter-in-law



As a SIF Volunteer we witness every day the cry of Elderly parents, how their Daughter-in-Law abuse them day/night, just to get rid of them or capture their hard earned home in their own Name.
Recently witness a Case in Supreme court , 72 years old Mr. Mishra vs his advocate Daughter-in-Law, who  forcefully entered in their Father-in- law home , capture two rooms and next day filed a molestation case , Domestic Violence case in spite the Father-in-law have court injection order , she should not enter in their home. She is asking Mr. Mishra should be out of home in spite the Home build by his own hard earned saving of more than 20 years.

The women used to stay after marriage in Kanpur for about 7 years, when she had disputes with her husband and Divorce case filed, she Filed 498A in Lucknow , Domestic Violence case in Delhi and now demanding the only home of Mr. Mishra to give in  her name.

After 3-long years fight and spend lacks of rupees at last in last week SC ordered to vacate her the premises , but the suffering and losses gone through Mr. Mishra , no one is going to compensate or any punishment to the women who done every day Domestic Violence on him.

Even the SC Judge was surprised a Women used to stay in Kanpur, filed 498A in Lucknow , DV in Delhi , enter in Father-in-law home by force in spite of court injection order and openly asking to remove her FIL from the property in the name of Molestation case.
The biggest problem of India, the Elders are subject to Domestic Violence every day in their own home in the form of Verbal abuse, Physical  Abuse , Mental Abuse and economical abuse, but our law makers failed to address the same as problem .

We have even witness article/study like, but such news does not make any National debate in Prime channel, but long hours spend why X used word like Y or why Y does not come to party of X.

Daughters-in-law abuse elderly more, says HelpAge India ...

44% elder abused by Daughter –in-law and 32% by daughter, both together it comes 76%. Where as elder abuse by son comes 24%.



Now look at Our Domestic Violence law, when a Elder Person face the problem of Domestic Violence by Daughter-in-law or by Daughter, they can’t seek any relief, where as if they face any Problem from Son, they can seek the relief under LAW.


So, a Problem Elder Abuse never find any solution, as 76% Elder abusers go Scot free in our Legal System.


Now the Question is who is going to tell this to our LAW makers and ask them to correct the Domestic Violence LAW and replace the word Men/women to Person , so that irrespective of their gender who ever done Domestic Violence can be booked and Punished ?

So , as a Volunteer , when ever I get Question from any Elder Men of India : "What if I am tortured by my daughter-in-law" - A Unanswered Question by Government result my reply :

  1. Immediately Reverse Mortgage Your property/Assets.
  2. Move to near By Old Age home , as I don't want to see another Suicide Note from age old person.

90% cases I got crying reply , sir , we have treated our Daughter-in-law as like our Daughter , why she is doing like this with us ?


They completely unaware , today Elder Abuse done by 76% by daughter or Daughter-in-law in India and 24% only by Sons. 





 

 






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Monday, 6 April 2015

#‎IChoseYou‬ by Vaastav in response to ‪#‎MyChoice‬

#‎IChoseYou‬ by Vaastav Foundation is in response to ‪#‎MyChoice‬ video.



It's not only women who compromise or need to suppress their choices. Men do a lot of compromises for others too. If women are going to make choices without considering its effects on others, then men can do so too.



I CHOSE YOU - YouTube
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Tuesday, 15 July 2014

Stop Abuse of Boys from WCD's malicious proposal


Crime done by Child is not UN-common , but after all consideration , UN had made rule instead of punish them like adult , such child to be reformed as their development of Brain is still under construction. Many child get abused , ill treated , forced to Child labor , their child hood had been taken away by our society , we failed to provide a basic home to many home less child . 
Cores of Fund , shelter home provided under WCD , but the same never taken seriously that if a Child had done any crime , means it is our society failed to reform him or able to provide the necessary education to them and such child instead of punishment to be send to reform home or school and bring them in flow of Normal society .

Photo by Mark : Stop de-humanizing Men or Boys for their Gender


Now for well fare of child in India also have a ministry , but it is clubbed with Women and termed as WCD ( Women and child department).
We had witness several time , WCD failed to do the real welfare of child and now the most in-human act they are doing is abuse the boys by various fake cases.

A 40 year old women and 17 year old boy have some physical relation , the whole world term the women as rapist and send her to jail, but in India , it is the Boy termed as rapist , which WCD failed to understand. 


Save Family Foundation and their associated organizations had cautioned about the loop hole in anti-rape law, where the consented relationship had been converted to rape cases and increased the rape statistic in police record. At a time when various court asked:  “Tougher rape law leading to increase in false cases?”
When Gujarat CM termed the poor uneducated boys as Rejected mall , as a WCD minister she had preferred to keep her silence , proved beyond reasonable dought, she had no concern for child in the form of boys in this country and totally doing injustice to lacks of Homeless Child's of India.
Unfortunately the same facts and figures could not get into public and before that came another burning issue pertaining to Juvenile crime.
Minister for Women and Child Development Maneka Gandhi advocating treating juveniles accused of heinous crimes like rape on par with adult offenders.
She said according to the police, 50 per cent of all sexual crimes were committed by "16-year-olds who know the Juvenile Justice Act so they can do it." But now for premeditated murder, rape, if we bring them into the purview of the adult world, then it will scare them.
We have already filed so many objections stating the facts and figures of gross misuse and utter neglect of the WCD ministry in addressing them. However, when it has become eminent to the world that that the sections of law which were formulated for the protection of women have been grossly misused, the WCD has got no options to turmoil the brains of society addressing with new agenda and in short “ABUSE OF BOYS”.

WCD minister came out with a proposal by citing a totally malicious, unclean hand, hiding the real fact of statistics without applying any fair thought, behind such statistics. Does WCD unaware that any consented relationship with a girl’s vs Boys aged below 18 years , by default the boy had termed as rapist and the same added in rape cases statistics ?
We would bring to notice of WCD : When any girl or women have any physical relationship with a boy aged less than 18years, do you term the same as rape?
If the answer is no, then why a Boy had been termed as rapist by you, when he had any physical relationship with any girl aged less than 18 years?
WCD citing the report of Police that more than 40 % cases boys are involved, without any court order, how can she term all cases as true? Why she ignored the same police report when it had says more than 90% cases are mutual consent only, which latter converted to rape?

Instead of dealing with the figures of misuse and work on it, they are preparing another platform of misuse. This can be clarified with the simple example.
A boy and a girl fall in love in a co-ed school. They had some intimate sharing with the consent of each other.  Later the girl’s parents file a rape case on the boy. This innocent who has no count of IPC and CrPC is rigorously punished. Is it justified? Even when the police figures clarify the same as 90% of cases of juvenile rape are actually a consented sex, Maneka Gandhi is hurried to get Juvenile law amended.
So, the formula used by all radical groups along with WCD, first create a loop-sided Rape LAW by which massive false/fabricated cases can be filed to increase the statistics crime against women and then again demand to amend further law saying crime is increasing, crime is increasing.
The cycle continues and the crime against women never gets reduced and their demand/funds never get stopped.
We have severe objections and lay it down as below:
  • If Juvenile Law can be changed, change age for passport, driving license and bank account, etc. If a child can be termed as adult, as he has committed a crime which he doesn’t know, then in general a juvenile can be termed adult for all these.
  • If juvenile can be termed adult, why shall he not given voting rights at early age.
  • Age for consensual sex, drinking, etc to be reduced.
  • Age for marriage and conceiving is to be reduced as the juvenile is matured enough.
  • There have been numerous cases where boys have been used as a toy for pleasure by some nymphomaniac, however no such protection of child exists. Such acts should also be considered heinous and such women termed rapist.
  • WCD ministry has failed to curb the menace of child labor which has risen by 6% in a year for boys and is at its Apex, but is ready to turn a juvenile an adult bypassing all the biology doctors’ study for years. This clearly indicates their soiled intentions and unclean hands towards ABUSE OF BOYS.
  • Before implementing the amendment, it must be ensured that juveniles know all the 511 sections of IPC and 484 sections of CrPC, which Meneka Gandhi assumes that a juvenile has knowledge before committing such a heinous crime.
With all the above, it is quite eminent that the WCD ministry is not capable of handling child issues in a gender balanced thought process and thus the Women and Child Development shall break into two different entities.
The Supreme Court and various high courts have often stressed on the need to check the rampant misuse of such gender biased laws, basis this Maneka Gandhi has come up with new solutions of breaking families and promoting misuse and targeting boys only with hiding the real fact to hide their own failure to provide a safe, healthy education to poor Childs.
In a country the Child labor is banned, but every year 6% increase of boys in child labour, but WCD had not taken any corrective action, on the other hand the Sex between girls vs Boys below 18 years not banned, but WCD want to term boys rapist for a consented sex also.

Save Family Foundation, along with all their associated NGO all over India, once again demand to Prime minister to immediately stop such malicious act by WCD by separating the Child ministry from present set up as they had no concern for poor, uneducated boys or we should be ready to pay a heavy price as such step will increase only heinous crime in society, as we witness earlier also.



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Wednesday, 25 June 2014

Trivial Disputes: Women are filing Molestation cases and misusing #IPC354


Many young guys supported strong #IPC354 without prior understanding of the law, which led to #IPC354 be made non-bailable. As per this law any woman can label a boy as ‘Molester’ without having to undergo a medical examination.

Recently in SIF we are getting many complaints that even age old ladies are filling molestation cases against young boys secondary to trivial disputes such as Parking of cars or bikes.

25 years old Arun, working in Delhi metro one day reached home on his bike and found that their neighbor had parked their bike in his place. He requested the neighbor to move their bike to an alternate place, but they refused and started to abuse him. He contacted Delhi Police at number 100 after which the neighbor removed their bike.

But a big surprise awaited him the next day morning. He received a call from local Police station, that he and his 22 year old brother were accused of Molesting the neighbor who was a 45 year old woman.

Police arrested them both and put them behind bars for 9 days, which is the time it took for them to get bail. All his lawyers and other neighbors asked him to compromise and offer 5 Lakh Rupees to the 45 year old woman. He was left very confused, and wondered why was he put through such injustice? He started calling us to seek answers for why such unfair, biased law was made in the first place?

Mr. Arun is not alone, every day in SIF we witness such cases and find that young guys are totally ignorant and unaware of the dangers of #IPC354. This law was created in a way, that any women irrespective of her age can send any man behind bars by a simple verbal allegation.

In the parliament many MPs did express concern about its misuse, but radical feminists ignored their valid concerns. SIF also made recommendations to ensure innocents were not harassed, however government paid no heed to what MPs and SIF were stating and went ahead in approving this unfair, and biased law.

In another case in a shopping mall, Mr. Karan Gupta, 35 years old, met with an accident. A young woman crashed his car from behind. He immediately started video the situation using his mobile phone.

Photo Courtesy by Mark


Although the woman was at fault, she started to be abusive towards him. In order to seek justice Mr Gupta contacted Police at 100. Police officer took both of them to the local Police Station.

At the Police Station the woman filed a molestation case on him misusing #IPC354. She alleged that he had touched her private parts. Mr Gupta requested the Investigating Officer to record the lying woman’s statement and for her to undergo medical examination. The woman refused to undergo a medical exam. A lady police officer then advised this erring woman that she should not say that Mr Gupta touched her but she should make allegation that he abused her verbally and attempted to touch her body. This made the women change her statement, and IO was about to arrest Mr. Gupta.

Mr Gupta then showed IO the recorded video of what had actually happened. Mr Gupta was lucky that he was facing an honest IO. Looking at the video evidence right in front of him, he closed the case against Mr Gupta. Not only that he went ahead and filed a case against the erring woman under #IPC182 for giving false statement to a government officer with intention to hurt.

Ironically the court gave bail to that woman straightaway despite the Video evidence to support #IPC182.

This is the main reason for increase in false, fabricated Molestation and rape cases in India.

A mere allegation by a 45 years old women, without any evidence, sent two young men behind bars for 9 days. On the other hand, despite video evidence of false molestation charges, a woman got bail in 2 minutes.

Such injustice against boys or men is not new. Law makers are in deep slumber while radical feminist organizations are manipulating the Media. This leads to Media showing only incidents of alleged rape/molestation cases, but they never show any cases in which a man has proved himself innocent after having lost 5 to 7 years running around in courts.

Is there any way out?

Yes, it needs awareness and will power of our Law makers to stop such abuse of  law. They must realize that non-bailable criminal case is not a joke like ordering some Pizza. Such false allegations destroy an innocent, law abiding man’s self-esteem, confidence and faith in humanity.

Any FIR/complaint on the basis of Verbal statement of women which leads to #IPC354 must be made bailable.

The punishment for making false fabricated statement under #IPC182 should be non-bailable and strong punishment in jail terms, without accepting any excuses is the need of the hour. Government must issue strong directions in law itself, so that Judges should not allow bail in such cases where by documentary evidence (like video recording, CCTV footage, Mobile locations, and audio recordings) itself prove the case was false and fabricated.

History has taught us that sending innocents behind bars doesn’t reduce crime rates. It will only have a backlash which will lead to revenge, violence and raised crime in India.

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Monday, 5 May 2014

Why safety of Men had been ignored in Delhi Metro ?

Through a letter Save Family Foundation , a Delhi based NGO asked Delhi Metro Officials , Why safety of Men had been ignored in Delhi Metro ?

Delhi Metro | About 91% pickpockets caught by CISF are women
When, in 2005, Save Indian Family Movement was founded, Men were already ignored and the Law and policy Makers, under the pressure from heavily funded Feminist groups were coming up with Legislations or Policy which in name of Women Empowerment were creating “assassin’s weapon” to penalize Men and bring in more and more hatred against men in the society. Since then, Save Indian Family (SIF) Movement has helped over 10 Lakh families across the globe who has been suffering at the hands of various Gender Biased Laws of India. 

Through it’s various allied NGOs, including (SFF) Save Family Foundation, Delhi (Regd. NGO), Hridaya – Nest of Family Harmony, Kolkata (Regd. NGO), SIF has been tirelessly working towards bringing peace and harmony to lives of Men and their family members dues to various False and Frivolous litigation instituted via these “Easy to Misuse” Gender Biased Laws and policy.

We are getting various complaint in our SIF-One, Men-Help-Line Number: 0-8882-498-498 , that men had been harassed , abused, Pick pockets and when they try to complaint after caught red-handed the women/girls , they are threatened them to file Molestation/attempt to rape cases like IPC354 or IPC375 without any evidence.

We as daily commuter of Delhi Metro acknowledge that Delhi Metro is minus any doubt one of world's best Transportation Facility given by Government of India to Residents of Delhi/NCR. Like other Government Departments such as Women & Child Development Ministry, N.C.W. etc, Delhi Metro has also shown the concern about Women Safety but totally ignored the safety of Men.

Then there are special gangs working, who steal the purse/wallet of male passengers as reported by CISF deputed on METRO stations through country's top leading newspaper. On approaching Metro police, they refuse register Complaints from men. In case of women, all complaints registered without any supporting evidences.

Beware! Those pickpockets in Delhi Metro are women ...

However, according to the recent data released by the Central Industrial Security Force (CISF), among the total pickpockets nabbed in the Delhi Metro in 2013, 92 per cent of them are women.

We know that you may under pressure from Women & Child Development Ministry, National Commission of Women and other associated women activists but you can’t ignore the safety of men and avoid to running away from your responsibility to make metro a crime free area for men also.

We have certain genuine concern, regarding this issue with some objections with their logical reasons: -
1. Delhi Metro has reserved special or we can say exclusive compartment only for women. If some male enters that compartment by mistake or urgency, he is fined Rs 250 or even beaten left and right. But if women enter a compartment where majority of passengers are male, she can give excuse that this is general compartment in spite of reservation, she is not fined at all because no compartment is reserved for man. Moreover, still there are seats reserved for "Ladies" in general compartment, which should be removed on immediate effect.

Q. When the whole single compartment is reserved for ladies, then why there are seats reserved for "Ladies" in general compartment?
Q. If ladies/girls feel unsafe while traveling with male passengers, then why Ladies/girls should be allowed to enter in general compartment?
Q as Daily user, we have seen girls/ladies don't corporate with senior citizens. When Lady/girl sitting on seats reserved for "SENIOR CITIZEN" doesn't offer the seat to same, then how you will tackle this issue?
Q. There are various reports confirmed, more than 92% Pick pocketer are girls/women in Delhi Metro. When they caught red handed, many had even filed false/fabricated molestation cases against men under new IPC354. So, in fear many had avoided to register the complaint.


2. Delhi Metro earns almost all of its revenue from passengers. Delhi Metro gives FREE RIDES TO GIRLS/LADIES IN OCCASION OF RAKSHABANDHAN, and then we (male passengers) should also be given same concession on same occasion.

We (male passengers) already paying more 85% taxes to government, you can file RTI to verify this fact which we have done already. Then we (male passengers) pay money to our sisters & have to provide them protection for free (FREE MONEY & PROTECTION).

In such situation any concession on the basis of Gender is totally unacceptable, as in RAKSHABANDHAN, not only sisters brothers also need to travel.

LIVE RECENT EXAMPLE: Have you not seen failed model of "Women only DTC buses" due to which DTC incurring huge losses? Hope you will not convert the Delhi Metro also like D.T.C buses.

Our members, already written protest letters to you many times but no solid action had been taken from your side.

This clearly shows that Delhi metro doesn't show any concern about male passenger safety & treats male passengers as second class of citizens.

So, would request you to consider the below measures on TOP priority:

  1. Safety of men should not be ignored and the pickpockets Photo should be published in all Metro station and they should be stopped in security checking area itself.
  2. Two compartments should be reserved exclusive for Men.
  3. Without any evidence no Molestation case should be accepted and through CCTV the truth to be identified and if any girls file false complaint the IPC182 to be used to punish them.
  4. In any occasion, the free ride to be for both genders instead of only one gender.
  5. Any physical Violence towards men, the necessary complaint to be registered on the spot.
  6. A specific Help team for men to be formed to address their problem.

The men in india gogin through the injustice and thier safety had been taken as granted since long , but now it looks orginisations like SFF , becaming a HOPE for many men of india.


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