Thursday, 30 July 2015

Why Indian Men like Suresh Kumar prefer Overseas citizenship than India?

I have not at all surprised when read news like :  61,000Indian Millionaires Shifted Overseas in Last 14 Years, many reason had not been even listed in the report.  

New Delhi: India has seen the second-biggest outflow of high net worth individuals – those with at least $1 million in addition to their primary homes – in the last 14 years, with as many as 61,000 such millionaires migrating overseas on account of security, children’s education or taxes, says a report.

Some 61,000 rich Indians changed domicile between 2000 to 2014 – second only to China, which saw an outflow of 91,000 ultra-rich persons in the same period, the report said.

“Indian HNWIs tend to move to the U.A.E., the U.K., the U.S. and Australia,” the report said, adding that Chinese HNWIs mainly moved to the U.S., Hong Kong, Singapore and the U.K.
Overall, the U.K. saw the biggest inflow of HNWIs from abroad, with the figure standing at 125,000 over the past 14 years. The U.K. was followed by the U.S. and Singapore.

Inflows into the U.S. predominantly came from China while nationals of the U.K., India and Russia made up a sizeable chunk. Most migration to Singapore came from China, India and Indonesia.

Other countries that saw significant HNWI outflows include France (42,000), Italy (23,000), Russia (20,000), Indonesia (12,000), South Africa (8,000) and Egypt (7,000).

The main reason which above report failed to bring to our notice that our Government, Judiciary, media failed to respect Indian Constitutions article 21 – Live and liberty to Indian Men since 1980 onwards.

Few months back an immigration Consultant came to my office, he left India about 30 years back, but came back for some study about condition of Indian living standard vs rest of the world for a research work.
He asked me, if he gives a choice to 100 Indian men to choose, where they will prefer to stay in India or in UK or Hong Kong or Singapore?

  • I asked him back: What type of Job you will offer them?

He replied: I am not discussing about the type of Job, just think for a moment, there will no visa or passport required going to UK or Hong Kong or Singapore. You can just sell off every think you have in Delhi and go there and start living as a citizen of that country, what they will prefer?

  • I replied with smile, I don’t know about others , but if we asked in our SIF Network , 99.99% will say they will prefer to leave this country , the reason is not to get better job or comfort of life , it’s because India is the world largest Hub of Legal Terrorism against men.

Now I understand why so many guys in India are victim of immigration frauds or human trafficking, as we witness number of such Fraud company’s able to establish huge offices even in Nehru Place or Connaught place area also.

Suresh Kumar, one of my friend who ranked 26th in IIT and followed by management degree from IIM Ahmadabad , proud son of a TOP IAS officer , when gone to UK for a assignment , had never came back to India and today proudly living there as UK citizen.

Last week he came to India and we were re- counting our old day’s hostel lives, I asked him why he prefers to accept citizenship of UK? The amount of money he earned, if prefer to stay in India; his next 3 generation can live a comfortable elite class life without even doing any job.

My one single questioned answered by so many unanswered questions, lead many highly tax paid guy like Suresh Kumar to dump Indian citizenship.

  • A country , where we witness many women activist like Indra Jai Singh and her supports fighting for mercy petition on behalf of convicted Terrorist like Yakub Abdul Razak Memon , some of them even awarded  Padma Shree or Padma Bhushan also by government, but they refuse to provide any support to innocent men like Gopal Shatey , whose 7 years life had been destroyed by fake Rape cases.

  • A country , where neither media or law makers or judiciary recognize that filling fake, false, fabricated criminal cases on men by women as a heinous crime, but more than 15 seconds staring towards to any girls or women as heinous crime by boys and such boys deserve to be put in jail via non-bailable stalking or molestation laws.

  • A country, the word Husband tag itself deserve to be most hatred community, as they perceived worse than any hard core Terrorist or criminal. A husband can’t be victim of any Domestic Violence, in-spite NCRB data shows more than 60,000 married men suicide vs 27,000 married women suicide.

  • A country, where any women or girls suicide, her Boyfriend or Husband to be put in jail, but if any Boyfriend or husband suicide, none will question to their wives or girls friends.

  • A country where if Boy friend refuse to marry to girl friend, it is termed as rape, but if girl friend refuse to marry to boy friend, it’s her choice.

  • A country believes in ideology, a man must be provider and protector to women and child for rest of the life and die one day as donkey in old age. He had all responsibility, but no rights; even he can be thrown out from his own hard earned purchased home in the name of Domestic Violence by his living partner.

  • A country strongly believe the burden of providing food, shelter , safety to women and child is the responsibility of every Indian men , but in return what they get ? Abuse, daily humiliation at home or in office, loss of dignity, social reputation by awarding  tag like 100% Indian men are potential rapist or molesters.

  • A country where even Women and Child Ministry found, more than 90% NGO seeking fund in the name of women welfare, education, health care, are fake.

  • A country if any Men boss refuse to give promotion to female employee or ask resignation for non-performance , its termed sexual harassment, but if any male employee forced to work by female boss to works 12 to 14 hours every day the same is not even work place harassment.

  • A country where the LAW and policy made in government as per agenda by such handful women activist’s , media tune to dance as per their whims or fancy and we Misandric people of India feel self proud by supporting them in social media.

  • A country who give whole sale free license to term any men a rapist ormolester, by mere verbal allegations and keep in jail years after years, but no rehabilitations when such men proved their innocence in court.

  • A country that refuses to follow the natural justice that a crime does not have any gender and keep refusing the make gender neutral Work place harassment law or rape law. The Law makers and Supreme Court of India keep reminding us women never lie or cheat by their various anti-men judgements and policy.

Start form Income Tax to alimony law, rape law, dowry law, work place harassment law, marriage law, Divorce law, always men have to pay high price if he earn well. But, for any reason he failed to maintain the same standard in old age, no social security or support provided to him. 

Think before some one terming rapist

After 7 to 10 years court fight when they proved innocence in the court itself, still such men do not find a basic living means in India , as we refuse to give back their lost dignity or any support system to lead some basic human  life.

The more you earn, the more you get success the more trouble you are going to face and your risk increases as there are long list of  unfair, biased , anti-men laws made, whose basic motive start from how to grab money/property from men and end with grab their hard earned money or property via Legal Terrorism.

Poor men may not have option to dump India as they have to continue to be victim of your vote bank politics, but high tax payers seems not going to forgive Indian Government. Governments failure to stop fake cases and abuse of men, they prefer to dump such Country which is becoming world’s Hub of legal terrorism.

It’s time to our Government wake up and review all their policy and unfair laws , if you can’t provide respectable job, education, medical health care to Indian men , at least don’t promote blackmailing or extortion via Legal Terrorism.

Respect Indian constitution 21: Right to live and liberty than promote extortion and blackmailing of Indian men to grab their own hard earned money/property by abuse the special provision of 15(3) or be ready to witness many Suresh Kumar of India.

Tuesday, 28 July 2015

Why Ngo’s working for men will meet at Mumbai on 15th August?

More than 200 representative of various NGOs working for welfare of men, various Men Rights organizations, along with Save Indian Family Network’s NGO from all over India are going to meet at Mumbai on the eve of Independence Day of India (14th to 16 th August, 2015) to intensify agitation for amendment of unfair, biased, dowry laws, rape laws and domestic violence laws in their 7th SIF-National meets.

As per organizers this year, tremendous energy had been observed and many volunteers who are campaigning to Stop Abuse of Men, are have to be kept in waiting list to join this meet. Due to limited space available they have to wait for next year booking.

Since the first SIF-national meet was organized in Goa, many think had been changed in their module as we witness in last meet in Agra.

Maximum volunteers prefer to discuss on future strategy, networking, branding, diversification, training, creating more blogs, to take the movement in next level instead of concentrating individual Ngo’s past success or failure only as showcase. 

This year also made different topic to be discussed and team had been formed well in advance to present new strategic ideas in national meet. Volunteers are working day night to give the final touch of their presentation.

Their main demands are that dowry laws like 498a to be scraped or be made bailable, non-cognizable along with domestic violence laws to be made gender neutral in larger interest of the society as immediate effect.

In addition to that new threat of unfair rape, sexual assault laws along with molestation laws getting abused left, right and centers just for extortion, blackmailing or on trivial disputes men vs women . Start form college students, Labor union leaders, social activist, media personalities or politicians, none had been spared from this injustice.

“There is no medical test, there is no time limit, the rape cases get registered like some ordering Pizza or Burger in India, let the alleged crime take places 2 years before or 15 years before lead to many women can term any men a rapist or molester as per her wish”, said Amit Despandey working in a MNC as Area head and a seasoned activist of Mumbai based NGO VastavFoundation, who is hosting this year’s SIF-National Meet.

Recently even SC also clarified, even if police found during pre-investigations, the case is fake, they have no right to refuse to register the FIR as the law had been made in such a way, that a women never lie or a women never cheat so police have no option but to register the fake cases also knowingly.

Once FIR get registered the men have to run from pillar to post to get bail or go to jail for months together, as normally lower court refuse to grant bail in the name of heinous crime and the only hope lies from HC or Sc. Even after get cleared form the court, the tag of a Rapist or Molester is not going to get vanished from his character certificate for the rest of the life.

Not only men , many women in the form of mothers, sisters also going to take part of this meet as they saying,  “The spate of actions taken by the radical feminists in sidelining the moderates and wreaking havoc on innocent people in the name of Women Empowerment has already done a lot of damage to the Women Empowerment movement and its credibility” They further added, the pain of a mother or sister is not less when they witness the suffering of their son or brother suffering in fake cases for no fault , many had even end their life also.

Save Indian Family movement does not want further deterioration of the society and hence hopes that the Govt. will do well by taking the above demands into consideration and not buckle under the pressure of radical feminists groups. It is high time that the media takes cudgels in presenting to the Society the bitter truth about radical feminists who are calling the shots.

It is to be noted that the Govt. made several laws to tackle dowry menace. It all started in 1961, with the Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961. Then Section 498A, Indian Penal Code (45 of 1860) in 1983 and the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005, passed in 2006. Quintessentially all of the above three try to achieve the same objective start form demand money/property from husband family and end with demand money/property from husband family.

Unfortunately the greedy radical feminists want some more laws as they continue to ignore the extravagant marriages and inaction of dowry prohibition officers in curbing the dowry menace as the confusion created in Law itself by making dowry as legal right of women in the name of cute word “Streedhan”.


So, at the time of marriage you can’t term any items as dowry, but if any disputes come you can easily term any streedhan as dowry and for that no evidence required only a verbal allegation by women sufficient to term whole family as criminal, let some of your brothers or sisters stay out of India also.

It is to be noted that Women's organizations have got and are still getting millions of dollars from the Govt. and from International agencies to implement stringent anti-male, laws ultra-virus the Indian Constitution for fighting against dowry. And now that they have got used to it, if the dowry menace is eliminated with proper implementation of the existing laws DP3/4, then they will not get the funds and attention.

So, they go soft on dowry exchange during marriages and yet cry for more laws so that men and their families can be harassed and money can be extorted from them.

It is worthwhile to be noted here that nowadays, women do not hesitate in filing 4-5 civil and criminal lawsuits for the same allegations on their husbands, blatantly and out rightly violating Article 20 of the Indian Constitution which clearly says that no person can be tried / punished twice for the same offense.

The cases filed include lawsuits under Dowry Prohibition Act, then another under section 498A of the IPC, then one more under CRPc125 and one more under maintenance section24 and so on and so forth, divorce, Child custody, making total lock-jam in Judiciary also. Till date none have dared to question in the name of Dowry how many law you want?

But now many Indian men have learned to fight and are giving stiff resistance to such wild practices and will continue to do so till the laws are not amended and the perpetrators of this misuse, aptly termed by the Honorable Supreme Court of India as Legal Terrorism, are not brought to task.

It is interesting to note that in India, terrorists and hooligans are roaming freely and the Govt. does not want to bring back TADA / POTA but the same Govt. continues with arbitrary arrests of the 1, 20,000 women in the form of our Mothers or sisters, in last 4 years without any trial or investigation and the same is also justified by radical feminist organizations.

Such practices can only be ridiculed at best and termed as grave mockery by the Govt. taking potshots at the people's patience.

Save Indian Family Network Ngo’s regrets to mention that in spite of nationwide awareness campaigns launched by it since the last 10 years and bringing this to the notice of the Govt. about the rampant misuse, still the Govt. continues to ignore.

Many people feel such ignorance of Government may lead to people will have no choice but to take the law in their own hands losing complete faith on the law of the land.

It is so pathetic that the Govt. is funding radical feminist organizations, which are no way different from any radical fundamentalist organizations so far as their intolerance is concerned as it is evident from the silence of these radicals on the arrests of 1, 20,000 women and more than 7, 00,000 men in last 5 years without any evidence in hand , except wife’s verbal allegations.

It is also a sad reality that the government is completely ignoring the suicides of Indian men to the tune of close to 90,000 a year with married men forming a sizeable chunk of it to the tune of 60,000 (on average) a year versus 27,000 married women. Any women died all the blame put to men and made multiple laws and policy to curb it but when a married men suicide, none had been blamed or try to find any solutions to the issue.

Husbands Suicide double than Wives

We wonder whose life is in more troublesome in India: Men or Women.

As per the National Crime Records Bureau data of 2014:

·               Married Men Suicides = 59700 vs. Married Women Suicides = 27000.

One may wonder Why married men suicide is double than married women, one has to go through the age wise data of Times of India Report:

      Age-wise analysis of suicides also compares with data on suicides of married men and women. Till the age of 18, data show men and women are equally prone to suicide. For about 5,500 men who committed suicide in 2014 in this age group, there were 5,300 female victims.

The gap begins to increase after 18 years, also the age after which people chose to marry. In 18-30 year age group, 60% of victims were men. In 30-45 years age group, about 72% victims were men, while in 45-60 years age group, men accounted for almost 80% of the victims.

     For a wife, even adultery is not a crime (it is a rewarding option and free money earning business for the whole life) as the word lived in adultery had been changed to living in adultery in CRPC125, means a Judge even can’t dismiss her maintenance claim in- spite you caught red handed.

     But for a husband even an allegation of "Name-calling" is a crime and not only the man, but his mother/sister/age-old father can also be put behind the bars for this 'crime' under IPC 498A or DV act. Such unfair, biased treatment faced by men from judiciary, law makers, media and society lead to high suicide rate, as all men can’t take law in their own hand to seek justice.

All assumption based law ( women never lie or women never cheat) need to be replaced by some more benign, sensible, gender-neutral legislation that may ensure both women and men  their rightful, honorable place at home and abroad, at the same time not forgetting the rights and well fare of men.

With an ending note Save Indian Family Network Ngo’s likes to remind the civil society as well of its duty to raise voice against the injustice going on under the barb and paradoxical veil of Women Empowerment and to the Govt. to make immediately Men well fare ministry , as Men are human too.

Wednesday, 22 July 2015

Be happy without her or Suicide due to abuse by her ?

As per NCRB reports till 2013, every year on or average more than 64000+ married men ending their life, but in 2014 we witness about 10% reduction i.e. 59700+, clear effect of  SIF-One multi city, self supported, self volunteered-  Single Number helpline for distressed/abused men launched in 2013.

 But still the married men suicide continue to be double than married women suicide in India.

The same is neither a concern for government nor any Media house. Even National family health Survey committee also had not made any effort till today to find or to understand the problem of such males in India.

Many guys of today’s SIF volunteers network might had been also added their name in that list of NCRB, if they had not gone through with Time to time SIF weekly meetings, Work shop, Get-together, National Meets , Event like Protest, Press conference, Meeting your MP, organized by SIF Network NGO’s in multiple city all over India and world.

Hopefor Men is one of such training module designed by SIF volunteers from the various success and failure story of distressed / abused men of India. Such work shop brings some smile to many hopeless men of India, who find a reason to live a life than end their life as harassed Husband.


A simple formula, which I got in one of my corporate training program perfectly fit for all, not only in your family problem, even you can use for stress free professional life also.




      Try to reduce any of the two; your stress will get reduced by default.
      The more you will try to increase Uncertainty or Importance; your stress will keep increasing.

There can be some situation where neither you are in a position to reduce uncertainty or importance, use ANY OF 3A:

  •   AVOID

Number of time we witness distressed call in our helpline, my wife is staying with me and threatening me for false cases, what should I do?

          Must use technology; start recording (Video/Audio) all her threats and Blackmailing, as your verbal allegation no one going believe. 

          Try if you can stay alone with your wife; away from your parents/family, it’s a tuff call, but present Domestic Violence act may give more trouble to your parents. 

          Keep a track of all the expenses that you are doing on her, because 99% she will make allegations, you have not provided even food to her.

          Keep all important documents/valuables away from her, have witness many cases husband’s passport, PAN, educational documents had been destroyed.

          Keep a proof of her educational Qualifications, Job, Salary etc, as 90% cases we had observed husband running pillar to post even to gather a simple wife about PAN numbers , where as wives have already collected not only husband even his forefather all assets details .

          Keep relatives / neighbours informed, don’t try to hide your problem. First accept you are a Victim of Domestic abuse, and then only you will able to try to find solution. The more you will be in denial mode, more pain and suffering you going to face.

At the time she is leaving:

          Inform the police as soon as she leaves the house if possible just make a call 100 numbers and it get recorded. 99.9% cases the allegations are it is husband throw her in the mid night, where as fact is she left your home in Open day light with her all belongings.

          Take a receipt of the things that she is carrying with her; get it signed by witnesses and if she refuses call 100 numbers and get recorded the same.

          Try to keep the kids with you (if possible).

Most important, time to start join SIF network to update your own knowledge, reading various Supreme Court Judgements, success and failure story of your fellow male victims of domestic abuse.

Start visiting police station, courts when you have free time and be comfortable in advance than get shocked when you have to visit those places one day.

The dangerous situation and most distressed panicked call we get like, wife is NOT staying with me but threatening me for false cases, what should I do?

         Use of technology and patience is key, start recording all phone calls with her (family) if they call you or threat you. Avoid to make call back to any miss calls, it can be trap to make evidence you call them and given threat.

         Keep a record of your presence (especially on weekends/holidays), as 90% cases the allegations are you went their home, beat them, threat them and demanded dowry, to make a prima face evidence to file criminal case in their own Police station.

          Do not close channels of communications, if the conversions are normal and healthy. 

          Keep a tab on FIR or Complaint in her police station via network. 

         It is better to visit police station and get comfortable with atmosphere, when there is no complaint than get panicked in the name of visit police station when real complaint done.

          No Anticipatory Bail in UP, Uttaranchal, so prepare to get arrest stay form HC.

          Avoid showing that without her you can’t live and dying every day. If she can live a life without you, why can’t you?

          Never use any provocative words from your sides. It is like putting ghee in fire.

          Minimum 2 to 3 years do not file any RCR or Divorce from your side.

          Prepare yourself and start collecting evidence by which you can file any criminal cases on them, depends on your evidence and witness you collect.

          Make ready Criminal Lawyers to get AB/Bail if any FIR is filed.

          Accept your life is not like any of your other friend who is still under marital slavery.

In every family disputes it’s 90% mental battle and only 10% legal battle.  

But maximum time people will advice you find solution via legal route, like file divorce or file RCR which lead to high Stress /Tension in your life as in legal battle , your uncertainty will get increased by multi fold , as we term our Judges “My Lord”.

Husband Suicide : Unable to bear abuse by Wife

You can hire highly paid advocates but that’s’ give only your 10% battle remedy. Will help you to prepare a perceived Strong allegations (without any evidence or witness) as Cut, copy paste from others petition and in court, Judge understand in 2 seconds the entire cut/copy/paste lie. Your one lie will nullify her 10 lie as our Judges are also in Misandric mindset, women never lie or women never cheat.

 So, neither your problem gets solved nor you able to cope up the mental battle. You start changing advocates, get distressed and one day make statements: “I had been harassed more by advocates than my wife.”

So, we advice, never seek or beg or run behind Divorce, seek Justice. Divorce should be part of Justice, which should come by default as your right, not by parrying in front of Lord.

Will love to here , what option you will prefer , Join SIF Network to be happy or end your life .

When Men became Victim of Domestic Violence

Friday, 17 July 2015

Hidden Face of Indian Wives : True Love or Abuse ?

It was Saturday morning 7.30AM in Delhi as I forget to disable to my daily alarm in mobile phone, started crying, wake up , wake up , good morning tune.

I have no other option but to wake up and have to touch the screen of my android mobile to confirm, yes I had wake up to make him silent.

Very surprised to see in my serious Whats-app group, a guy posted a Video in name: “True Love” – Murga by RJ Naved.

My first reaction was why the hell he had posted this in a serious whats-app group where strict instruction, no forward of Jokes and you will be banned.

Then I open the Video and understand its people termed as Joke , but the Hidden face of maximum Indian Wives , which we witness or experienced many times in our daily life .

My anger vanished in 3 minute, after all the person who send unfortunately belongs to worlds most hated community called as Indian Husbands . Even some  terrorist community of India also had not been hated so much .

A great thumps Up to RJ Naved , who bring this hidden Faces to our Notice , which every one know , but none dare to telecast.

P.S. Wives face have to be hidden as showing her face in public itself is a crime for Husband in India, as per unfair IPC354 and Domestic Violence act.

Yes you will also have a good laugh, like in this video back ground done along with mine also.

But if this had been done by any Husband to his wife, it had been a breaking News till now.

  •  Indian Husbands abuses their wives, many one-sided funded survey had been flashed. 

  • Twitter, face book had been filled up to make it viral and termed every Husband of India are wife abuser, right?

  • Many documentary film makers had been traveled from UK or USA to India to show the whole world, how sick our Indian mindset. There had been mass protest in India gate to force government make another new law and demand hang to such wife abusers, right? 

But when any women or wives abuse any men or Husband, its fun, joke, entertainment and enjoy the suffering of Men/Husband. Thanks to our MisandricMindset.

Verbal abuse , mental abuse , economical abuse , physical abuse and sexual abuse all over the world termed as Domestic Violence, but in India when a husband face such domestic Violence by wives , the same never considered as Domestic Violence.

Lacks of fund had been spend to make study, survey to prove how women are victim of Domestic Violence, but none had asked their male partner, what they face on their daily life. All the study basic foundation is Women Never Lie and Women Never Cheat assumptions.

There are some international studies there the researchers dare to ask the same question to both men and women and found more women doing domestic violence against men than men doing against women.

Every year more than 64000 married men ending their life which is almost double than married women in India, but National Health survey never feel to need of even to find the reason.

Married Men Suicide Increasing In India

When SFF Volunteers ask them in 2013and send the questioners to be asked to Indian men also and why the same should not be covered in their study very surprising answer received:

“At present the National Health Survey module does not have facility to capture the data for men, may review in future.” 

Two years had been passed, but still they have not able to find how to modify the data capturing module in their survey and our Prime minister dreaming of Digital India.

When it comes to look into the problem faced by men or husband , not only government , even well known media houses also try to ignore and prefer to use abuse to men or husband as matter of Joke and fun.

It had been reminded to every boy from their child hood, that boys should not cry , they can’t be victim.

Result when Men became victim of Domestic abuse, they never cry in front of Public or in front of friends.

Their crying place is Washrooms, bathrooms or dark bedrooms only.

They even refuse to accept that they are victim and such denial of victim-hood restricts them to seek any help or guidance from others and victimize themselves more and more.

When men themselves on denial mode, that they are victim of domestic abuse which is hard fact and truth, result their suffering, pain, agony continue to increase.

End result lead to suicide or spouse murder or self destruction mode.

So, time to first accept you are a Victim of Domestic abuse, then only you will look for come out from such victim hood, but if you are in denial mode, the problem is not going to resolve by some magic.

Domestic Violence against men are not Joke, it had its own repercussions , if you continue to ignore, as society everyone have to pay the price  which I had caution in 2006 itself in CNN-IBN debate show.

CNN-IBN Debate on Domestic Violence Act , 2005 Part-2 ...

When unfair, biased Domestic Violence act was passed in the name of big relief to women by ignoring suffering of Indian men/husband, I had clearly told , after 3 years  radical feminist groups will start cry violence against women is increasing and they will demand more anti-men laws , instead of correcting the unfair laws.

History witness the more you will destroy the harmony in society by multiple unfair law’s, crime in society is going to increase, it never decrease.

Just have a comparative looks of Spouse murder per lack population USA vs India, 4 times more spouse get murdered in USA than India.

Would love to see your comment, when next time you witness any news or video where Men or Husband had been abused by any women or Girls the same to be used as Fun/Joke or try to provide a helping hand to them.