#MenToo : Even Women Police Officer Says Fake Rape Case against Men, But...

Inspector Says : We are duty-bound to register #Rapecase when a women cry #RapeInIndia , let it be #FakeRape case & this is how #crimeagainstwomen data increased to fool whole nation. But who cares ? https://t.co/zpBpK6SSO8
Be #Misandry FREE @AmitShah @rsprasad @PMOIndia @UN

— SwarupSarkar (@swarup1972) December 20, 2019

#StopElderAbuse: What if I am tortured ?

"If a woman is tortured, the first thing police do is arrest her in-laws, even though they are elderly.

What if I am tortured by my daughter-in-law? All 498A (a section that deals with physical and mental torture of women) does is put people like us behind bars, it will never put my daughter-in-law behind bars. Police should look into this discrepancy and if need be change the law, for I am ending my life unable to bear the torture meted out to me by my daughter-in-law."

"This suicide note was on Thursday from an Alipore (Kolkata, India) house where 64 year-old Ranjit Chakraborty hanged himself to death from his bathroom shower.

Chakraborty, a retired employee of a multi-national company, worked hard till the day he died. Police conducted a preliminary enquiry and close the case as “Family Disputes”.

Even a 88years old women, former  Freedom fighter  also not spared by her Daughter-in-Law , but no media like Times Now or NDTV or CNN IBN , feel the same worth for a debate as the crime done by some women .

Elder Abuse : 88 Yrs Old women dumped by Daughter-in-law

As a SIF Volunteer we witness every day the cry of Elderly parents, how their Daughter-in-Law abuse them day/night, just to get rid of them or capture their hard earned home in their own Name.

Recently witness a Case in Supreme court , 72 years old Mr. Mishra vs his advocate Daughter-in-Law, who  forcefully entered in their Father-in- law home , capture two rooms and next day filed a molestation case , Domestic Violence case in spite the Father-in-law have court injection order , she should not enter in their home. She is asking Mr. Mishra should be out of home in spite the Home build by his own hard earned saving of more than 20 years.

The women used to stay after marriage in Kanpur for about 7 years, when she had disputes with her husband and Divorce case filed, she Filed 498A in Lucknow , Domestic Violence case in Delhi and now demanding the only home of Mr. Mishra to give in  her name.

After 3-long years fight and spend lacks of rupees at last in last week SC ordered to vacate her the premises , but the suffering and losses gone through Mr. Mishra , no one is going to compensate or any punishment to the women who done every day Domestic Violence on him.

Even the SC Judge was surprised a Women used to stay in Kanpur, filed 498A in Lucknow , DV in Delhi , enter in Father-in-law home by force in spite of court injection order and openly asking to remove her FIL from the property in the name of Molestation case.

The biggest problem of India, the Elders are subject to Domestic Violence every day in their own home in the form of Verbal abuse, Physical  Abuse , Mental Abuse and economical abuse, but our law makers failed to address the same as problem .

We have even witness article/study like, but such news does not make any National debate in Prime channel, but long hours spend why X used word like Y or why Y does not come to party of X.

Daughters-in-law abuse elderly more, says HelpAge India ...

44% elder abused by Daughter –in-law and 32% by daughter, both together it comes 76%. Where as elder abuse by son comes 24%.

Now look at Our Domestic Violence law, when a Elder Person face the problem of Domestic Violence by Daughter-in-law or by Daughter, they can’t seek any relief, where as if they face any Problem from Son, they can seek the relief under LAW.

So, a Problem Elder Abuse never find any solution, as 76% Elder abusers go Scot free in our Legal System.

Now the Question is who is going to tell this to our LAW makers and ask them to correct the Domestic Violence LAW and replace the word Men/women to Person , so that irrespective of their gender who ever done Domestic Violence can be booked and Punished ?

So , as a Volunteer , when ever I get Question from any Elder Men of India : "What if I am tortured by my daughter-in-law" - A Unanswered Question by Government result my reply :

1. Immediately Reverse Mortgage Your property/Assets.
2. Move to near By Old Age home , as I don't want to see another Suicide Note from age old person.

90% cases I got crying reply , sir , we have treated our Daughter-in-law as like our Daughter , why she is doing like this with us ?


They completely unaware , today Elder Abuse done by 76% by daughter or Daughter-in-law in India and 24% only by Sons. 

 

 

#CrimeByWomen : Elderly woman beggar, owner of 4 flats in Mumbai, murdered by daughter-in-law for propertyhttps://t.co/XWFr6MNTmS#ParineetiChopra @ParineetiChopra type women happily keep mum, no outrage tweet comes.
Be #Misandry FREE @NCWIndia stop protecting #CriminalWomen pic.twitter.com/0Xd2gVT8qc

— SwarupSarkar (@swarup1972) July 17, 2020

Further this is from WHO report: https://t.co/whHmYAfjVQ
Be Misandry Free & Visit any #OldageHome and come back with example where any Unmarried Son's parents are there vs married son's parent , which is the question in my above tweet. Would love to be proved wrong. pic.twitter.com/xjAqIzXke8

— SwarupSarkar (@swarup1972) March 7, 2022

Fact of the study: Two question was asked: Who is responsible they think & who is really abused them.
Who is responsible data-published, but who actually abused -not published why?https://t.co/JzOWobpzZC
Out of 5000+ why only 1250 person data recorded?
Pure cooked up data. pic.twitter.com/2h4hwMQPGS

— SwarupSarkar (@swarup1972) March 7, 2022

Yes that's #YellowJournalism & Cooked up study.
Read this News too:https://t.co/SfB8JXxL2I
2nd If son Abuse as per #DVAct they can be punished, but if DIL abuse, she can't be punished. Do U know that?
3rd-Pls check those son's are married or unmarried? Visit some #OldageHome.

— SwarupSarkar (@swarup1972) March 7, 2022

Men as victims of Marital Rape

Rape is Rape. It is not a gender issue. When a woman rapes (sex without mutual consent) our Indian society colors the act with terms like loving or affectionate. Sadly some women consider such acts as their birth right over men. If a man tries to fight back or resist or even dreams of speaking the truth, he himself is labelled as rapist instead of being considered a Victim of rape.

 

Rape is rape, regardless of the relationship between the rapist and the victim. It can be a total stranger; someone you recognize by sight, but have never really communicated with; someone you know superficially, a neighbor or a colleague; a friend, a Girl-friend or a former Girlfriend; a live-in partner, or a former partner; someone you are married to or have been married to in the past.

 

As per Rape law, any sex without mutual consent should be considered as “Rape”. However the blinded Indian LAW assumes that the Victim of Rape can only be a woman and men are never “Raped”.

 

Rape is a very personal and intimate traumatic experience. Our experiences of and reactions to rape may differ widely. Although there are many similarities in the way that we feel about being the victim of rape, regardless of the relationship between us and the rapist, there are differences between stranger and intimate rape. In this section we are trying to describe and offer an understanding of some of the specific problems regarding marital rape (or rape by an intimate) as opposed to stranger rape.

 

Please note that in this page we refer to wives and husbands, however, it can be understood to refer to all rapes perpetrated by an intimately related person. Also, we are only looking at rape and sexual assault on men, since this is by far the most common situation but never recognized by Government or LAW makers. The result of such heinous crimes is that every year, we witness twice as many Husbands committing suicide than wives. This statistic is clear from the National Crime Records Bureau report (2005). Rape and sexual abuse also occur with similar frequency in same-sex relationships.

Historically, all cultures have had a concept of a spouses' conjugal right  to sexual intercourse with each other to curb illegitimate children and also to start apart from being an animal. The proposition of Christian teachings which influence Western culture need be considered; in particular, St. Paul's teaching: "For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except perhaps by agreement for a set time, to devote yourselves to prayer". Such teachings led to the institution of marriage.

However with time, women raised their voice, created new laws to shut men up and gained a wholesale free license to rape husbands. We have often heard Feminist, male hating ministers openly telling media “It is the turn to suffer the men”, “Do not trust men, trust condom”.. but still Indian men prefer to keep silence than object to such comments openly.

·        Different types of rape

Marital rape is generally sub-divided into three categories: those rapes, which involve a degree of violence, those that use enough force to control the victim, known as 'force-only' rapes, and sadistic rapes.

·         Violent rape occurs, as the name suggests, when the abuser uses enough physical violence to cause injury to the victim (biting, digging nails in, damaging private parts). Examples would include the wife punching his Husband or injuring him with her nails or teeth, as he is too tired after hard work in office and wants some rest when he comes home rather than satisfy his wives sexual lust. Such rapes either become part of a violent assault, or the violence becomes part of marital rape on husband. Many rapist wives will also force their Husbands to submit to sexual acts after a physical assault, either to prove her power to him or to further intimidate and humiliate him. Commonly in such instances if the Husband should refuse such an act, the threat of further violence (or another assault on him!) will soon lead him into compliance.

·         'Force-only' rape is usually termed when a wife uses just enough force to control or hold her husband in specific position, eg holding him down by his arms or wrists to prevent him defending himself or escaping. This form of rape is common where there is a larger contrast between the age difference and strength of abuser and victim, or in abusive relationships where physical violence is infrequent or non-existent (insofar as one does not categories sexual assault itself as a violent act). In most cases of 'force-only' rape, coercion plays a large part. The victim may also be so confused and numbed by constant emotional abuse, that he simply does not know how to act or react when sex is forced on him.

·         Sadistic rape is gradually increasing in frequency. In such rapes, in addition to the rape itself, the victim is either forced to comply with or undergo deeds designed to further humiliate him. Examples of this would be the abuser/rapist forces the husband to watch a pornographic movie, making threats of seeking sexual pleasure from her ex or new-boyfriend if he does not comply. She would often demean the husband as ‘good for nothing’ in bed, while acting out a fantasy of torturer, or using repeated sex in spite of repeated requests by husband to get some rest or sleep since he has to go to work the next day. Sadistic rape may or may not involve further violence. Some people consider buggery as a sadistic form of rape, since its effect on victim is often particularly humiliating.

It is difficult to clearly separate one form of rape from another, since rape can involve a combination of above mentioned types. For instance, the rapist may use coercion tactics and enough force to control the victim initially, but then will use increased violence if the victim struggles. Many victims of marital rape feel guilty for not having struggled more, or have been told that if they did not try to physically fight their abuser and thereby sustained injuries, they have not suffered 'real rape'. This can be extremely distressing and adds to the emotional, psychological, physical and moral trauma already experienced. What has to be remembered is that when you are living with your abuser, you are often very finely tuned to her, employing numerous coping mechanisms to limit the damage to yourself. You may realize either consciously or subconsciously that if you struggle, she is likely to get violent or take her anger out on you in other ways or abuse your child, ill treat your parents or relatives, make false police complaints of Domestic Violence and make attempts to abuse you financially etc.

 

Other reasons why men do not fight back are fear of disturbing children in the household, lest they should witness their father being raped; a sense of shock or confusion at what is happening which paralyses him; and real concern for his abuser, which results in him not wanting to do anything which may harm or injure his rapist even to the determent of himself. But by far the most common and compelling reason is the fear that if he tries to fight back, everyone including the law and society will term him as “Rapist” rather than acknowledging him as a Victim of “Rape”.

 

It appears that as per Rape LAW and Domestic Violence Act, all Indian women are born in Raja Harish Chandra’s family i.e. they never lie. Whereas all laws and our society believe all men to be rapists and born in Rapist families. Even a Supreme Court Judgment says, a women’s verbal statement is sufficient to term any Tom, Dick and Harry as Rapist. This is possible even if she doesn’t undergo a medical examination to examine whether a rape has even happened or not.

The Unanswered Questions:

Does Rape/Sexual harassment happen at Workplace or Home? Why do we think only women can face sexual assault? Do Men Never face "Sexual Harassment at Workplace or home" as per the wording/action as per proposed Act by WCD?


It is another truth that even: 

"The Law Commission in one of its Report dated March, 2000 had  recommended that laws relating to rape (Sec 375 IPC) be made gender  neutral.

 

It had deliberated about widening the scope of offence under Section 375 & Section 376 IPC, and for these to be made more comprehensive to bring it in tune with current times.

But the recommendation was not accepted.  Why?
  
 

Sex or comment of sex, without mutual consent is termed as rape/sexual harassment as per LAW, then why it considered that men do not face the these situations?"


 

Will our Lawmaker ever take the moral responsibility and courage to replace the words “Men/women” by the word “Person” and replace words “husband/wife” by the word “Spouse”?

Or
Do we continue to suffer and support the ideology/wisdom and action planning of radical Feminist groups “It is the turn to suffer of men ”.

Does Women safety = Ignore Men safety?

Recently Maharashtra Home Minister assured to all Women Journalist that he will Provide special security  when they are in Job.

Sounds a great idea as a populist measures without going to root cause of why Crime in Society increase?

Go through the Crime Bure report the Crime against men is increasing in rapid speed and more than 75% Murder reported in this country against men only.

Look at the Murder rate of Men vs Women :

Murder:

http://ncrb.nic.in/CII-2009-NEW/cii-2009/Table%203.3.pdf

Male Victims-24,441, Female Victims-8,718 Total Victims-33,159

Culpabale Homicide Not Amounting To Murder (Sec.304 and 308 IPC) During 2009

http://ncrb.nic.in/CII-2009-NEW/cii-2009/Table%203.4.pdf

Male Victims=3,529, Female Victims=753 Total Victims=4282

Now we wonder , can a society provide safety to Women ( Murder/Rape), when in their own society the Men are not safe?

In India the Crime Bure Report summarized the data of Crime against Women,Crime against Child, but they even not provide a direct Link/summarized report Crime against Men, it is you have to summarize your self.

Since 2005 we are providing  the crime data and murder data of NCRB to government, but they always put all to dustbin as the Media never shown any concern of "Safety of Men" as a need of society.

If you go through the report of "Committee to protect Journalist " and click in Gender shows 97% male Journalist Killed vs 3% Women Journalist.

On 24th Aug a Journalist in UP Mr. Akhilesh get murdered , but no Protest form any Journalist association or any candle march by common people of society, not surprised us , as we witness such biased approach in every institutions.

We have Death Penalty punishment for Murder, but the Murder is increasing day by day , which is evident beyond reasonable dought the Punishment increasing does not reduce the Crime.

The solution lies on the probability and risk : When some one do a crime, how much chances he have to get Caught? At present it is 10 to 15% percent on an average.

Recently in FM News people's voice we  heard 90% of Bribe by common Man goes to Police only-and Court staff only even as small as Rs.20 to Rs.20lacks.

Today you can trap any innocent LAW biding Citizen in Criminal cases as easy as ordering Pizza on the other Hand you can't catch the real criminal months/years together and if at all you caught them to punish them need 10 to 12 years and if You innocent to prove it need 10 to 12 years.

So, the root cause failure of  our Criminal Justice system and Police , leads to more /more stringent LAW in the form of Non-bailable , giving the more power to Police/Judiciary, leading to more abuse of Power and bribe industry.

The Failure of Police/Criminal Justice system to provide safety to Indian men never get highlighted or taken any corrective action.

All women activist/media running behind the women Safety issue , like in a desert desperately trying to find a  "Marichika" ( Look for a Water pond far ahead with hope running very fast, but when reach there don't find a drop of water).

History witness a country where your Men is not safe, dreaming women will be safe is nothing but fooling yourself.

Safety/Violence had never be a Gender issue and stop abuse of men with multiple unfair/biased law , as it leads to strength the power of abuse in the hand of Police/Judiciary only , it does not empower the real Victims.

Media friends must understand the Pain of a mother or Sister is not less when they loss their Brother or son or Father.

Every Men in India are under high risk of #Fakecases at Home, Office, Road due to multiple anti-Men #Unfairlaw - which became Blackmailing/Extortion Tool. To survive or #FightBack knowledge is Key. Law is not any rocket Science. Buy & start Read Law Books Now!