Thursday 24 January 2013

NGO’s working for Men’s Welfare strongly and jointly condemn the legal recommendations made by the Justice Verma committee.


This press conference is being conducted by a coalition of NGOs under the umbrella of the Save Indian Family  (SIF). All NGOs are non-funded , non-profit NGOs fighting for men’s rights, Gender Equality, Judicial accountability and balanced laws. This press conference has been scheduled to highlight the shocking level of biased and anti-male legal recommendations released by the Justice Verma committee.

The coalition is shocked and finds it hard to believe that given the credibility and collective legal experience of the committee how could the committee choose and include only archaic and highly dangerous clauses and exclude female sexual predators who are guilty of committing sexual assault .

Presumption of guilt of a man, removal of misuse clause for women and adding an additional section for matrimonial rape in additional to already existing 15 laws for women in a matrimonial setting is something very preposterous on part of the committee. While the human rights, social rights, and legal rights of women were brought up many times by Justice Verma in his press conference, none of the same rights have been conferred on men through his legal recommendations. Men cannot expect to get a fair trial should any of these recommendations come into existence.

The coalition expresses grave doubt on the level of due diligence claimed by the committee in the law amendment recommendations and believes it is essentially a blind copy of the recommendations proposed by a handful of aggressive women’s organizations invited for deposition.

1. From the report it is clear that a handful of women’s groups were selectively invited for deposition in front of the committee. Most of these groups invited are widely known for their aggressive anti-male approach to gender laws and inclination to safeguard female criminals from crimes against men.

2. That not a single organization working for men’s welfare was invited shows the poor democratic values displayed by the committee. The committee owes an explanation to the citizenry on how it could get the time to listen so many women’s groups but could not find the time to listen to even one men’s welfare group even though men constitute 50% of the population.

3. Female sexual predators have been completely exempted from sexual assault just on account of their gender and the perpetrator has been made a man ONLY. This a unbelievably anti-male stance since the legal systems in whole world as well as the Indian law commission and in its years of collective legal expertise believes that women are as likely to commit sexual assault as men are.

4. Punishment for Misuse of sexual harassment at workplace has now been removed without any reason whatsoever. Also protection for men from sexual harassment has not been included. World over most of the countries have gender neutral sexual harassment laws, a fact that this committee has ignored for the reasons not known.


5. The fact of false rape cases has not been intentionally addressed even as the media and police from various states report that false rapes constitute over 75% to 90% rapes in India. It is believed that rape laws are misused even more than IPC 498A by some studies.

6. Marital rape has been included as a DUPLICATE section even though DV act (Section 3(ii)) is more than capable of addressing these issues. This has been done just to duplicate another cruelty law to increase misuse against men with another anti-male matrimonial recommendation and is a clear violation as per the settled principles of Double Jeopardy. It is shocking that instead of reducing the number of laws for cruelty this committee in all its collective experience has recommended the increase of additional law. As always, women sexual predators have been exempted from punishment for sexually harassing husbands and male children.

7. The committee has ignored the principles of natural justice and in Rape cases supports presumption of guilt on the accused and presumption of truthfulness on the female complainant. We are surprised on how a committee which such eminent panel members chose to ignore this fundamental pillar of justice even as the police reports states that over 74% to 90% rapes in India are false. These recommendations flout the basic principle for laying down the Laws on India which ensures that innocents would get punished by “assumption of being guilty” and going through “grilling Legal process” without any fault.

8. The committee has also not recommended any solution to the overwhelming majority of rape cases in Indian which are consensual sex converted to rape later by women when the relationship sours or marriage does not take place for fault of either of parties.

9. A court in Delhi has recently ticked off a mother and daughter duo for habitually filing false rape cases for grabbing property. There are millions more like these who have filed false cases when jilted or with a hidden agenda. Since over 74% to 90% reported rape cases are false in India, a person accused of sexual assault cannot expect to get a fair trial at all if all of the relevant evidence of the alleged victim’s sexual history is not presented before the court. However the committee has recommended that past sexual escapades of a woman will have no bearing on the current cases essentially striking down another defense of the innocently accused.

10. The Justice Verma committee has diluted Section 14 of the Sexual Harassment Bill appears concerned that it is liable for misuse , while on the issue of 498a misuse which is widely documented the law commission noted that misuse of a section is not ground for removing it. Why are double standards being followed for men and women ?
Demands:

The coalition of multinational NGOs supporting this press conference strongly opposes the legal recommendations and amendments and states that these recommendations if implemented will lead to millions of men being denied protection from crimes committed by women. 

They will essentially be deemed as rapists without any hope of getting a fair trail even as female sexual predators and female false rape case and sexual harassment filers will roam freely in society. The coalition hereby demands that the legal recommendations be scrapped in its entirety and below amends be made.

1. Make Rape Law Gender Neutral as in other countries of the globe with punishment for female sex offenders.

2. Relationship consensual cases should not be allowed to be converted into rape cases as it is insane to do so.

3. Matrimonial rape must be removed as it a duplication of law and will be subject to heavy misuse.

3. Sections like presumption of guilt, suppressing previous sexual behavior and any other section that interferes with right to innocence of an accused and prevents the accused from getting a fair and just trial should be removed.

3. False complaints of Rape cases and sexual harassment cases should be punished severely, so that men are protected.

4. Introduce the much required police reforms and Judicial reforms to ensure justice to all.
Supported By:

 INSAAF, Save Family Foundation Delhi, All India Men's
Welfare Association, Indian Affiliate Chapter of Association for International Men's Rights Activism and
Welfare, MASI , AIFW , MASHAAL, MRA Pune , MILPF, HRIDAYA, Bhavya Foundation.

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71 comments:

Lalit Yadav said...

I have a family problem,where my wife trapped me in false cases.After 8 years of my marriage life she supported her family and involvement.Please help and to whom i ve to cantact.Please go thru the facebook also.
My name.Lalit kumar yadav,lalityadav2@yahoo.co.in
9897333003

Stop Abuse Men said...

Please join the yahoo group and net work with people Such cases 90% is mental game and 10% Legal game.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily/join

Unknown said...

I m Baljinder Dhillon, (victim sister) please help us my family is facing a big problem....a girl filed a fake case against my brother, father and mother, we are very reputed family....please help us,
my email id is baljinderdhillon@gmail.com

Stop Abuse Men said...

This is nothing new , it is going on since 1983 .
Now would request to join the SIF yahoo groups or request your brother to join and discuss the exact issue and the location they stay and where cases are there. There will be some weekly meetings if in major city , let him get jell with people first as the whole fight is 90% mental than legal 10% only.
Join here:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily/
Then you have to review the FIR content and then read the 498A survival kit. Start network with people and see what best option is there depend on the type of evidence you have and the type of allegations they made in FIR.

Unknown said...

I have a family problem,where my wife trapped me in false cases.After 5 years of my marriage life she supported her family and involvement.Please help and to whom i ve to cantact.Please go thru the facebook also.
My name.Arun Upadhayay,rnupadhyayarun@gmail.com
09743721302

Stop Abuse Men said...

Would request to Join SIF yahoo group and network with people who are in your area, there are more than 6K people like u are there.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily/

This is nothing but legal terrorism, so keep patience and step by step try to prove your innocence . More than 90% cases people got innocence , so have to keep patience and play the mental game accordingly. Legal fight legally and emotion battle emotionally.

रचना त्यागी 'आभा' said...

hi there ! one of my male frnds is sfring frm severe trauma , as hs wife hs nt only cheated hm financialy n emotionaly, bt also poisnd hs son to death. moreover filed many cases against hm like dowry n harrasmnt etc. plz do help !!!!
thnx

Mendes Kushal said...

I am divorced and have been in a long distance relationship with a lady for 18 months now. Everything was good in the beginning but I slowly discovered that she is extremely insecure, aggressive and very very dominating (she is an educated lady with a very good income). I suspect she is not mentally stable but it hasnt been diagnosed. Over the last year I have gone through inhuman pressure and emotional blackmail and I no longer feel that this relationship is a healthy one. I have made several attempts at ending it in a nice civil way by means of discussion and dialogue. She displays extremely violent and uncontrolled behavior every time I have tried to stop this relationship and has been constantly threatening me and taking uncivil actions to make me lose face among my social and professional circles.
In brief : Two suicide attempts, Fake evidence of pregnancy, hacking email IDs and checking it regularly, stalking phone-calls to my office, colleagues & ex-wife with various weird demands, forcibly demanding that I marry her soon, constant blackmailing with threats to commit suicide - threats to yell and shout in public view at my residence, has also threatened to stab me once - came very close actually.
No cohabitation (max period is 30days - once), no joint property, no kids.
What are my options to prevent her from continuously doing this to me and my work? It has already continued for 10-12 months now. Whats the process of getting a restraining order?

Irfan said...

Hi

I am from Mumbai, my wife has filed a domestic violence case against me and my family. i received a notice from court to attend on 29th Aug. Can u suggest me what i should do.

Unknown said...

I have a family problem,where my wife trapped me in false cases.After 4 years of my marriage life she supported her family and involvement.Please help and to whom i ve to cantact.Please go thru the facebook also.

Anonymous said...

I m married in last Nov 2012, and leave in another city from my parents, my wife immediately came with me after our marriage. In past 10-11 months she made my life miserable - hell. after a lot of introspection i thought if she stays few days with my parents she may understand moral values & conduct of a family. But she went to her Mothers home. And now they all are blackmailing us, also putting really false allegations. My parents have always supported her but she never respected them nor even my sister, her husband. She has a complete intention that i just get cut off my family, they should not in touch with me, she do what ever she wants and spent what ever i earn. there are many other things, which i cant write in one go.
On the 3rd day after marriage she started arguments with me and my parents, infact when they tried explaining the things that she is married now and have to take care of family & become mature she started giving arguments, like she will do whatever she likes and don’t bother about family values.
Even she don’t want to wear clothes if she is at home, she says she feels comfortable without clothes, or let say bare minimum on body.
She never traveled from flight and to make her feel happy i arranged the same, ticket enclosed.
Her tongue is so ad that she always criticizes for everything.
She had always cribbing & make bad remarks on me that my salary is low, but have I done for her, she don’t have enough money to enjoy & to spent. Every day she had been making me feel low in terms of my monitory values and assets.
There had been no scope ever to discuss for anything, nor to even get to know what is her point of view, she always gets silent if there is anything to discuss or even I m looking forward to take her consent for anything.
She made my life hell, by always saying u r not good, u don’t earn much, ur job is not good nor u have any status etc.
Whenever I wanted to discuss something, she gives her decision no matter I would be able to do it or not, but there had never been any hope of responding towards my query or request or even words.
She never had any commitment for me, as I have to go for tour & sometime early morning have to catch a train or by taxi, she never bothered to give me breakfast or to pack as travel is in remote area where I could not get anything to eat.
She always making comments on me why cant u change ur job, y didn’t u do govt job, y cant u study etc etc, its fine but now as I m married and also have certain liabilities so who wil take care of them? If I leave the job or go for studies? Instead of it, when I requested u may do something a job or some tuitions she always talk things which don’t even have some meaning, like she want to do a job whr she get very high salary and no work blab la, I mean its not realistic, sometime one can make humor but everytime saying such things & immediately counter questions, what have u done in ur life u don’t have enough money ect etc same chapter again,
She had been creating drama by going outside the home & saying she is leaving and sit in park, late hours infact after making lot of efforts come inside & talking on anything, matter of getting angry could be so small, like if I insisted her to talk to my parents or brother-sister etc. as her mother had been living in US and after that in india I had been pushing het to take care of them ateleast by calling but she wanted to talk alone.
She had just one desire how soon she can get pregnant & conceive so that my whole family gets after her for kind of comforts and making her please.
We requested her that dad is going to have an eye operation so be there at home to support, she never stayed with them, same day she left for her home disrespecting the feelings of parents and not even understanding the responsibilities as a daughter in law.
In fact she wants to wake up late and need to sleep in day time and don’t feel the home as her home, never bothers to take care of maintaining the drawing room or anything.

Unknown said...

my wife has cheated me and went to his parents home and charged against section498 me and my family.

Unknown said...

Dosto me suresh chand hu mujhe meri family me bhot preshan kiya ja rha he jese ki meri wife jo mujhe hr trike se blackmail krti he or jra jra si bat pr 100 no. Call kr deti he or to or uski mujhse 3rd merit he or uska 2 no. Ka husband abhi bhi ata jata he meri gair moujudgi me hi ata jata he jiski 2 ldkiya he jo hm logo ke sath hi rehti he 11 sal se or 1 ladka he jiski umar 28th year he or meri umar 31ht+ he
Or abhi dono maa beta ne mujhe poison pila ke marne ki koshish kri he jiski mene f i r kra rkhi he
Please apse anurodh he ki meri madad ki jaye

Unknown said...

Meri mail id he schand401@gmail.com

One Man Army said...

My in-laws has charged me and my family under 498A and other serious charges in Gurgaon. They are asking for 8 lacs INR and Divorce. I am not getting counseling sessions to get my wife back. if I can get 3 hours of time i can get this thing sort out. I need a person / organization who can put some pressure on my rich in-laws to allow me to talk to my wife in private. Please help me. call me any one who is from NCR 09561068877 I am Abhishek Srivastava from Pune.

Unknown said...

I m student and i was in a relation with a girl for 4 n half year n we have been hrough all physiacl relation even she got pregnent once n she always used me physically financially n mentally n now she cheated on me. and now she is givind me false call of cpomplaining against me if i ever tell any 1 about me n her.....what should i do....can i file a sexual harrasement case on her.

Unknown said...

My brother's wife charged my brother,me and my parents under 498A in theni (tamilnadu). They filed FIR against us and threatening us and asking for 10 lacs INR to close the FIR. I was supposed to get married on 12th december 2013 and it got cancelled because of false dowry case. my life got screwed up. i need your help urgently to save my family and me. please come forward and help us. We are in mental agony and we are not able to come out from this problem. my mobile number 09740104143. mail id: moorthysoft@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

I AM PRALHAD PRESENTLY IN PUNE , A VICTIM OF ABUSE AND HARASSMENT BY MY WIFE S MOTHER SHE DOESNT CARE EVEN MY WIFE S LIFE AND ALWAYS TROUBLES AND MY FAMILY FRIENDS AND MUTE SPECTATORS AND MY FATHER IN LAW IS SILENT ON THIS PLEASE HELP ME pralhadskulkarni@gmail.com

Stop Abuse Men said...

Pls Join SIF group man are there fighting like u
http://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/saveindianfamily/info

Stop Abuse Men said...

U have fight back to update your own knowledge and for that the perfect place is SIF yahoogroup where u will find all knowledge/sucess/failure story. Join
http://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/saveindianfamily/info

Stop Abuse Men said...

Unfortunately in inida the law is not gender netural as most men was sleeping when such biased law was made, so request to create yr own media by start a blog and join SIF yahoogroup
http://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/saveindianfamily/info

Stop Abuse Men said...

Borther it looks u are in wrong direction and action plan, pls join sif yahoogorup to understand more how to handel such situaion .
http://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/saveindianfamily/info

Stop Abuse Men said...

Sir ji pls visit www.savefamily.in and call to help line and attend the weekly meetings every saterday in delhi

Stop Abuse Men said...

U need immediately to Join SIF group
http://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/saveindianfamily/info

Hemant Pandey said...

sir my shelf hemant pandey, i m 32 year old my marriage held on 2009, and during the said relation we had a baby boy born on aug 2011 on her grand parental home, our parents and myself was not agreed for the same because during her pregnancy she had left my house with allegations, my son is 2.5 year old and i have not seen him since he was only 3 month. she had left her son with their relatives when he was just 6 month. and that time she also change her mobile no. i know some reliable sources she is working with a company in greater noida and left her child to haridwar. when ever i want try to contact them they did nt pick my phone. due to this i had a lot of health problems like sugar, heigh blood pressure. few days back her lawyer contact me on my phone for mutual divorce and demand for a lum sum amount for my child. i want your help for the custody of my child please provide me some solution. because he is not getting the proper care.

Hemant Pandey said...

sir my shelf hemant pandey, i m 32 year old my marriage held on 2009, and during the said relation we had a baby boy born on aug 2011 on her grand parental home, our parents and myself was not agreed for the same because during her pregnancy she had left my house with allegations, my son is 2.5 year old and i have not seen him since he was only 3 month. she had left her son with their relatives when he was just 6 month. and that time she also change her mobile no. i know some reliable sources she is working with a company in greater noida and left her child to haridwar. when ever i want try to contact them they did nt pick my phone. due to this i had a lot of health problems like sugar, heigh blood pressure. few days back her lawyer contact me on my phone for mutual divorce and demand for a lum sum amount for my child. i want your help for the custody of my child please provide me some solution.

Stop Abuse Men said...

Do not worry ,make a Google search SIF Yahoo group and join , you will find fighting like you. We advice to take a simple stand : First I will prove my innocence then will think about divorce or compromise . Keep patience !

Unknown said...

I am a student of journalism and I am doing a story on false cases of sexual harassment for my college magazine. Could you kindly provide me the relevant information and share some of the cases.

Stop Abuse Men said...

You may visit www.savefamily.in and contact to us or give a call to volenters

Anonymous said...

sir,mere bhaia ki marriage 26 april,2013 ko hui thi.shadi me hamari koi demand nahi thi .ladki walon ne rs.50000 hotel book karne ke diye the.shadi k baad bhabhi ka bartav achcha nahi rehta tha.baat baaat par ghar me ladti thi .rakhi par wo apne ghar gayi.humne socha wo rakhi ke baaad aa jayegi par aayi nahi.2 months ke baad usne women cell me dowry case file kiya.par enquiry hamare favour me gayi aur usne divorce maanga.ab dhamki deti hai ki agar 5 lakh rupees nahi diye to 498 case file kar degi.sir guide us what to do to save my bhaia.

Unknown said...

dear sir,
muze aap ki hlp ki zaroorat hai mer matter me political issu hai meri wife ka yuvasena karyakarta ke saat mere shaadi ke pahelese afair tha aur oh uske saath bhag gai hai lekin jate waqt mere 5 saal ke bacche ko saath me le gai hai mene us waqt police complaint bhi ki lekin political pressure ke wajaha se missing case liya gaya aur kisi prakar ka action nahe liya gaya aaj 9 month se oh dono eksath rah rahe hai aur muze divorce dene ke liye demand kar rahe hai muze meri wife jiske saath gai hai oh bhi married hai mere saath dhoka kar ke bhi muze oh log dhamkate hai aur muze koi saath nahe de raha hai plz meri help karo muze mera beta dila do uska bhavishya khatre me hai mere pass mere sale ne uske bahen ke khilaf ki hui complaints copys hai plz help me mere pass sirf 20 din hai plz contact me 9867672528 / 9619272528

Anonymous said...

balram singh
sir i need ur help . I m married in last Nov 2012, and leave in another city (vaishali GZB ) from my parents, my wife immediately came with me after our marriage. after that never visited to my parent place. not even understanding the responsibilities as a daughter in law. i m form middle class family and she is from high profile IPS (Dad ips officer ) family .Her tongue is so ad that she always criticizes for everything.
She had always cribbing & make bad remarks on me that my salary is low, but have I done for her, she don’t have enough money to enjoy & to spent. Every day she had been making me feel low in terms of my monitory values and assets.
she will do whatever she likes and don’t bother about family values.
she used to wake up late (1 pm ) nd don’t feel the home as her home, She never had any commitment for me, she never bothered to give me breakfast
She always making comments on me why cant u change ur job ,
she never allowed me to touch herself .She had been creating drama every time i touch her . she never lived with me in same room . i used to stay in another room initially we had only 5 times physical relation in first six month after a lot of quarrel. she used to use abusing languages and mentally torchered me.

i discussed with her father, then she immediately make false allegation of impotency . then I ask for divorce. she not ready to take divorce and not ready to live with me in same room my life has become miserable.
plz help me....

Unknown said...

Sir I need your help. My marriage is just nine months old but my wife and her family members are contineously harassing me. she also given NC in locals police station. please help me...pls....

Stop Abuse Men said...

Join SIF yahoogroup and also u can call 0-8882-498-498 for more visit www.savefamily.in

Stop Abuse Men said...

U may call 0-8882-498-498 join SIF group and also come to weekly meeting in delhi visit www.savefamily.in

Unknown said...

Dear Sir,
Mere brother ki shadi 19-April-2009 ko huin thi, shadi ke kuch mahine ke bad se hi meri bhabi aur unki maa baat baat par ladai karne lage ke tumne humari beti yaha par bahut pareshan kiya ja raha hai usne police station mein sept.2010 mein complain karai ki humne unser dowry ki dimand ki hai uske baad wo apne mayke chali gayi, around two year ke baad mere bhai ne diavorce ka case file kiya lakin unhone humare samaj ki panchayat kara kar wo case vapas lene par hume majboor kar diya, uske baad se wo bhai ke saath seprate dusre ghar mein rehne lagi lakin waha bhi usne bhai se ladai karna nahi choda aur sept.2013 ko usne phit bhai ke khilaf police mein complaint ki woh uske saath maar-peet karta hai aur uske kisi aur aurat ke saath koi chakkar hai, ab phir usne 7 july-14 ko police mein complain ki hai ke uske aur uski 2 saal ki beti par kerosin oil daal kar jalane ki koshish ki hai,.....sir wo hum par baar baar jhote iljaam laga kar mere bhai aur meri family ko harrash kar rakha hai,.... uski karai huin koi bhi complaint mein humare khilaf koi bhi karyawahi nahi huin hai aur na hi usne women cell mein koi complaint ki hai........Sir pls help to my family......I need your help.....Sachin Kumar....9212076111 Email ID is Sachin.Kumar_7999@yahoo.in

Stop Abuse Men said...

call to 08882498498 for advice or visit www.savefamily.in

Unknown said...

RESPECTED SIR/MADAM... I HAVE BEEN MARRIED TO VISHAL MANISH SINGH ON
......... AT ...... COURT , AND WE ARE NOW HUSBAND AND WIFE ACCORDING TOI
INDIAN LAW. BUT MY PARENTS ARE IGNORING THE FACT THAT WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED
AT COURT AND FORCING ME TO TAKE BACK HOME AND THREATING MY HUSBAND TO KILL
HIM. SO I REQUEST YOU TO PLEASE GRANT MY APPLICATION, HELP ME BY GIVING
PROTECTION SO THAT I CAN LIVE MY LIFE PEACEFULLY

Anonymous said...

My son married four years back, whom he had known for few years.They married on their own will. My son was working abroad at the time marriage. Few days after marriage he returned and his wife was with her parents as she was the only child. she never stayed with us. My husband was staying alone in the native house as I am working elsewhere. Just a couple of months later we came to know they had some misunderstanding and my son fell seriouly ill . Even though she was not staying in the house earlier, after the differences cropped up, she forced herself in our house, where my husband was staying alone with the help of her relatives around 25 to 30 people, who also came with arms. The Police never supported us. In fact when we went to police, the police threatened us saying he will put us behind bars/give a room at the police station. She had the influence of political group and also garnered help from womens group. She has filed all the cases on us except rape case, as my husband took shelter elsewhere, as he came to know of her intentions. Even though we had agreed for a certain sum, she is demanding more. My son has spent all the earnings on her and now spending on his medical bills. She also published in the media & TV channel and gave false statements to defame us. Lot of mental strain & health problems on the whole family because of this.

Anonymous said...

Respected sir,
I have problem with my wife,After Marriage i have son.But since 4 year she is not leave with me. after many try to solve our marriage life but she can't understand.so i am going for divorce in civil court. she want that i will never divorce nor leave with me.also she was clam for mentally torch and require the money.so pls help me that what can i do ?

Unknown said...

I am looking to help men and till now I couldn't find a single site related to it and have found many fake site which have been created by female and all the belonging were going to females

Anonymous said...

My friend is married for 4 years and is not in good terms with is wife from the beginning.He wants to get separated but his in-laws are forcing him to continue the marriage.The girls family members have started to get voilent and physically harm his parents n repeated threaten to kill them.Please help us in this matter as the girls family is very powerful

Unknown said...

sir mera naam pradeep kumar hai, maine 26 feb. 2013 ko delhi court se apni wife k gharwalo k against shaadi ki thi. mera ek 7 month ka ladka h, shadi k 3 month bad meri wife apni behan or papa k kehne par muje tang karne lagi, uske gharwale muje shaadi se pehle se hi napasand karte hai. ghar bhejne na bhejne ki bat par wo muje marne ki dhamki deti h, or ghar par drama karti h, meri wife ka jab mann karta h apni behan or apne papa ko bulkar mere sath maar peet karti hai or apne ghar chali jati, wo mere sath 1 mahine se jada nhi rehti.. abhi wo 3 month se mere sath nhi reh rahi hai..mai ye sab pichle 18 mahine se sehan kar raha hu, wo muje mere ladke se milne bhi nhi deti h, divorce lene ki bat par wo or uske papa mere or mere gharwalo k upar dowry ka case karne ki dhamki dete hai.. mai uske sath nhi rehna chahta, meri apse hath jodkar request h ki muje koi solution de.. please help me sir....mai asha karta hu ki aap meri help karenge...

Anonymous said...

consexual under promise of marry and refuse to marry is considered as rape. it is stupid. this Stupid law should terminate. then this stupid law is. important reason for real rape

ab said...

Women's organizations only motive seems to make one androcidal law after another so that unscrupulous woman don't have to work and can lead a life of luxury at the cost of men and society.Do they have guts/strength/courage to say that women should also be punishable wherever they are wrong? And would they be liberal enough to say what actions/behavior of women are wrong? It just cannot be that only men are wrong and women are right

SocialPhool said...

Sir i am working on a students documentary on 'the problems faced by men'. Could you please help me in contributing a part of thought in your initiative.

Stop Abuse Men said...

Sure . You cantact us any time.

Stop Abuse Men said...

Sure . You cantact us any time.

Unknown said...

I am from delhi, my wife has a domestic violence complaint to police on 100 no. against me and my family. case not filed after settlement. Can u suggest me what i should do against of wrong complaint of my wife and her family members.

Rajesh Thakur
thakur.paarththakur.rajesh@gmail.com

Unknown said...

Hi one of my friend is torturing and blackmailing my family and me she even filed a fake case of 420 against me. Now she is threatening me to upgrade it to 376. She even bribed the DA n some of the police personal. I gave an application to SP 6 months before but no response has been received. After my application she filed 3 applications and response is real quick. Please help me as soon as possible.
Prabhjot Singh
oikosdunamis@gmail.com

Unknown said...

Mere frnd ko bhi false rape case me fasaya gya h btaiye ab kya krna chahie

NRBINS said...

My wife has extramarital affair with her ex-office colleague from past 8 years.Both are working in NGO. We have child of 7 years and opposite person also have 1 child of 6 years. Despite of giving several warning to both of them , they have carried out their sexual relation. I also informed his wife and my father in law and mother in law. But due to lack of proof my wife and his colleague both refused the affair. My wife has given me warning that don't told this to any one otherwise I will suicide. I had asked my wife for several time if she can give divorce on mutual consent it is ok for me, but if you want to keep our marriage safe you must break relation with him. But she ignored.

Within last 3 years I have found all the proofs against both of them. Also I found this colleague is making flirt with her, emotionally blackmail, etc. But she is supporting him and save him all the way. I have lodged Police complaint against him and send notice to both of them. After 2 month he ran away as I am starting court case.

I have lot of trouble because we have lived in same Building, So I could not take action against them openly as this is matter of prestige. But now he went to move another location. How I can expose him in his office (NGO) and in Society. And what action
I should take against my wife who is also working in NGO.

Please advice.

BN,

nrbins@gmail.com

NRBINS said...

My wife has extramarital affair with her ex-office colleague from past 8 years.Both are working in NGO. We have child of 7 years and opposite person also have 1 child of 6 years. Despite of giving several warning to both of them , they have carried out their sexual relation. I also informed his wife and my father in law and mother in law. But due to lack of proof my wife and his colleague both refused the affair. My wife has given me warning that don't told this to any one otherwise I will suicide. I had asked my wife for several time if she can give divorce on mutual consent it is ok for me, but if you want to keep our marriage safe you must break relation with him. But she ignored.

Within last 3 years I have found all the proofs against both of them. Also I found this colleague is making flirt with her, emotionally blackmail, etc. But she is supporting him and save him all the way. I have lodged Police complaint against him and send notice to both of them. After 2 month he ran away as I am starting court case.

I have lot of trouble because we have lived in same Building for last 5 years, So I could not take action against them openly as this is matter of prestige. But now the guy went to move another location. How I can expose him in his office (NGO) and in Society. And what action I should take against my wife who is also working in NGO.

Please advice.

BN,

Unknown said...

Namaskar Sir,

Mera Naam Rajkumar Hai Me ek aam family se hu Me Nangloi me A-Blcok, House No. 154, Phase II, me rehta hu Meri family me hum 3 bhai aur 3 hi behan hai 3no behno ki saadi ho chuki hai hum 3no bhai bhi shadi shuda hai Mujhe teen Pyari si bitiya hai mujhse chote wale ke 2 bitiya hai aur sabse chote wale bhai ko 1 beta hai. Sir hum log apni family me khush haal zindagi jite hai. But sir Pichle lagbhag 1.5 ya 2 saal se haamare samane wale maakan me ek Husband wife rehne ke liye aaye hai Unke aane ke 6 months baad se hi samane walli makan ki lady hum se kisi na kisi baat ko lekar ladai karti hai wevajah ki ladai khud hi 100 No. par call karti hai aur hamare baare be jhoot bolti hai aur hamesa yehi dhamki deti hai ke tum logo ko RAP ke kes me phaswa dungi sir ye lady bahut chalak aur saatir hai baar baar 100 No. ko call kar ke bula leti hai aur kehti hai ke yeh log mujhe maar rahe hai is ki complaint Nangloi Police Station me bhi hai Nangloi Police Station ke Staff member bhi iski sacchai jaante hai magar yeh lady apne aadhikaro ka galat fayada utahti hai Nangloi Police Station ke log bhi isse darte hai Sir me aur meri family is sab se kaafi aahat ho chuke hai kyoki jo hamari taraf se bolta hai use bhi yeh lady daarati hai hum logo ka janam yehi hua hai bachpan se lekar aaj tak gali me koi aisa nahi hoga jo hamare baare me aapko kuch galat bata de hum log bhai chare ke saath rehte hai. Sir hame hamesa darr laga rehta hai ke kahi iski jhooti baato se hamari life spoil na ho jaaye Me aur meri family hum log apne baccho ki life ko lekar chinta karte rehte hai ke kahi is lady ne hamare khilaf kuch kar diya toh hamari family ka kya hoga sir ye hamesa yeh bhi dhamki deti hai ke me suicide kar ke tumhe phasa dungi aur ha sir kal Isne women cell ke helpline no. par call kari thi din me women cell helpline waale aaye tab ham log ghar par nahi the toh unhone hamari wife ko hame next day present hone ke liye kaha but sir is lady ne fir raat ko 11 baje karib fir women cell helpline par call kari fir wo log aaye Jisme jo Lady officer thi unka naam Saroj tha wo jab is lady se puchtach karne lagi toh unhe bhi laga yeh psycho hai wo saari baat samajh gai unone use bahut samjhane ki koshish kari magar Lady jiska naam poonam hai Women cell walo par hi chilane lagi ki mene tumhe call kari hai meri suno. Sir yeh lady (poonam) har baar aisa hi karti hai 100 No. par fake call karke Hum logo par jhoota jhoota aarop lagati hai Nangloi Police Station Walle bhi kehte hai bhai is aurat se mat uljho is waqt aaurato ki hi suni jaa rahi chahe wo galat ho sir Desh ka kanoon desh ke logo ki madad ke liye hota hai magar yeh lady (poonam) toh us kanoon ka galat fayada utha rahi hai. hum kanoon ko puri tarah manane wale log hai magar sir is lady (poonam) ke aatyachar se me aur meri family itne aahat ho chuke hai ya toh hamara suicide karne ka ya ghar bech kar chale jaane jaane ka maan karta hai

prashant said...

Sir.mere upar 2 sal pahele 376 case huva tha. usme mujhe bail mila tha. bail cancle hone ke liye us ladki ne ek our faul case kiya fir bail cancle huva me 1.5 sal jail me tha fir case ka result mere jaisa huva our me chut gaya. vo ladki abhibhi mujhpe jhute case kar rahi he vo ladki advocate he is liye bar bar mujhpe case kar rahi he our paise dimand kar rahi he. mere parivar ke logoka bhi nam vo case me le rahi he. so pls sir help mi vo advocate he to law ka galat istemal kar rahi he. pichle 3 sal se me is musibat me hu abb saha nahi jata man karta he hi susire kar lu magar mere gharme sirf meri maa he uske liye sirf me abhi jinda hu.pls sir help me

Unknown said...

I am also facing same type of problems. Now the condition very worse. The lady who has filed false case is now living in my house thrown all my family members out of my house. Finally the weak legal system in our country is only preventing us in getting justice and providing enough space for cmininal minded women to increase the harassed more. I think a bigger and louder protest need to be done so that it will be heardibe to all.

Unknown said...

Do we have a whatsapp group to join ?

Unknown said...

Sir I was married 7 years ago. After marriage she happily living with my family but suddenly she ask me to leave my family and go to her family. I was did same. She asked me not to talk to my mother when she is suffering from cancer. She started regularly fighting slapping me. So I stop all my contact with my family . she told not to send a single rupee to my home although my father is retired but for shake of her I did same. I am working in telecom company in dhanbad JHARKHAND. I getting salty of 26000 and total money I give to her per month. Now I found some photographs of her with another man. She cheated with me. She firstly felt sorry for that but when I not ready to forgive her she threaten me to file 498a case and 420 case on me and my family although me and my family is inocent. And I have proof of that. Sir please help me. Some times I felt to commit suside but for shake of my family I am breathing. Her father is general secretory of JHARKHAND Olympic association. She also threaten me of his power. Also threaten me that my father evict your passport and your brother passport . I have her adio proof too. Sir please do help me. Plz plz plz sir help me. Other wise I have no other choice to commit subside. One of my friend told me to talk to men's welfare association. Sir you are my last hope.

Unknown said...

Sir I was married 7 years ago. After marriage she happily living with my family but suddenly she ask me to leave my family and go to her family. I was did same. She asked me not to talk to my mother when she is suffering from cancer. She started regularly fighting slapping me. So I stop all my contact with my family . she told not to send a single rupee to my home although my father is retired but for shake of her I did same. I am working in telecom company in dhanbad JHARKHAND. I getting salty of 26000 and total money I give to her per month. Now I found some photographs of her with another man. She cheated with me. She firstly felt sorry for that but when I not ready to forgive her she threaten me to file 498a case and 420 case on me and my family although me and my family is inocent. And I have proof of that. Sir please help me. Some times I felt to commit suside but for shake of my family I am breathing. Her father is general secretory of JHARKHAND Olympic association. She also threaten me of his power. Also threaten me that my father evict your passport and your brother passport . I have her adio proof too. Sir please do help me. Plz plz plz sir help me. Other wise I have no other choice to commit subside. One of my friend told me to talk to men's welfare association. Sir you are my last hope.

Unknown said...

Good evening sir I am pankaj Kumar I want some information about relationship with love. Mai five years se apne lover k sath relationship mai the dono sadi k liye agree the lekin achank meri lover mujhe cheat karne lagi baat Ni kar rhi jiske wajh se bhut distrub Ho gya lekin mujhe uske sath rhna h to kya es problem ka Koi solution hai jisse sab kuch thik Ho jaega mera life barbad hone se Bach jaega sir I request you please help me.

Anonymous said...

sir,
meri shaddi huwe karib 4 saal huwe hai
ek bachi hai 18 months meri patni ghar ka kaam thik se nhi karti baat karne ka tarika nhi ahi har pal kirkiri ulte jawabdeti hain.
maine koi dahej bhi nhi liya shaddi bhi mine khud array samaj main apne paison se ki thi. baar baar ki kirkiri se thak chuka hoon , woh ab mere mere pariwar ke khilaf ek complaint darj karyi hai . merepaas koi kaam bhi nhi hain magar mere pariwar wale mujhe meri patni aur mari bachi ko pal rahe thay. magar kuch din pehle woh unn ke saath bhi kirkiri kar ke ghar chood ke chali jane ke bare main kaha phir woh gayi aur kuch din baad uss ke bhai ki shaddi honeke baad aa gayi aur mujhe apne pariwar se alag hone ko kaha mere ghar waloon ne thak ke kehne lage ki ab tu alag reh ja hum thakchuke hain
. aur bina kaam ke main ussay le ke apni bahen ke khali ghar main jake rehne laga . ab jab main ussay le ke alag rehne laga hoon tab uss ke ghar walay aa ke muje se bahes kar ke ussay le jane ki baat karne lage toh mai bhi.
Thak ke le jawo main nhi rehna nhi caahta iss ke saath keh kar kaha tab woh log uss ka pura saman le ke chale gaye aur wahan se ja ke ploice station main mere khilaf aur mere pariwar ke khilaf complaint ki mere ghar walay ussay sata rahe hain aur main ussay mar raha hoon aur paisay maang raha hoon .please koi muje iss se bach ne ka tarika bataye .
main iss waqt kya karoon ye jhoote case se main kaisay bachoon aur mere pariwar jo hum se alag hain unn sab ko kaisay bachoon koi advocate meri help kare

waloon ne mujhe shaniwar ko phir bulaye hain consling ke liye .meri galti nahone baaad bhi main kab tak iss sahen karoon please koi mujhe bataye .ya main

kya karoon mujhe koi salah de .aur woh mujhe alag kar ke apne ghar walon ke paas le jane ki baat kar ti hain

ab main thak chuka hoon iss se koi mujhe iss aurat se talak dilaye please . mere pariwar se alag hone ke bawajood bhi woh aur uss ke kaka jammu singh mujhe sta rahe hain
please koi meri help kare my number is 7569417193

vikrm said...

sir,
meri shaddi huwe karib 4 saal huwe hai
ek bachi hai 18 months meri patni ghar ka kaam thik se nhi karti baat karne ka tarika nhi ahi har pal kirkiri ulte jawabdeti hain.
maine koi dahej bhi nhi liya shaddi bhi mine khud array samaj main apne paison se ki thi. baar baar ki kirkiri se thak chuka hoon , woh ab mere mere pariwar ke khilaf ek complaint darj karyi hai . merepaas koi kaam bhi nhi hain magar mere pariwar wale mujhe meri patni aur mari bachi ko pal rahe thay. magar kuch din pehle woh unn ke saath bhi kirkiri kar ke ghar chood ke chali jane ke bare main kaha phir woh gayi aur kuch din baad uss ke bhai ki shaddi honeke baad aa gayi aur mujhe apne pariwar se alag hone ko kaha mere ghar waloon ne thak ke kehne lage ki ab tu alag reh ja hum thakchuke hain
. aur bina kaam ke main ussay le ke apni bahen ke khali ghar main jake rehne laga . ab jab main ussay le ke alag rehne laga hoon tab uss ke ghar walay aa ke muje se bahes kar ke ussay le jane ki baat karne lage toh mai bhi.
Thak ke le jawo main nhi rehna nhi caahta iss ke saath keh kar kaha tab woh log uss ka pura saman le ke chale gaye aur wahan se ja ke ploice station main mere khilaf aur mere pariwar ke khilaf complaint ki mere ghar walay ussay sata rahe hain aur main ussay mar raha hoon aur paisay maang raha hoon .please koi muje iss se bach ne ka tarika bataye .
main iss waqt kya karoon ye jhoote case se main kaisay bachoon aur mere pariwar jo hum se alag hain unn sab ko kaisay bachoon koi advocate meri help kare

waloon ne mujhe shaniwar ko phir bulaye hain consling ke liye .meri galti nahone baaad bhi main kab tak iss sahen karoon please koi mujhe bataye .ya main

kya karoon mujhe koi salah de .aur woh mujhe alag kar ke apne ghar walon ke paas le jane ki baat kar ti hain

ab main thak chuka hoon iss se koi mujhe iss aurat se talak dilaye please . mere pariwar se alag hone ke bawajood bhi woh aur uss ke kaka jammu singh mujhe sta rahe hain
please koi meri help kare my number is 7569417193

vikrm said...

hi i am vikrm is there any sif roup in hyderabad plz tell me my no is 7569417193

Unknown said...

Please help me my wife is working lady in government sector she threat me to draw in jail and dowwry included family member ,she be bossy an show her post is in big positions in paramilitry ,, she threw me out and staying with his own brother the room is in rent and all goods if rooms was bought by me she is not allowing g to enter even where we use to stay ,,,,, she threat like having good command in ministry , she will do what she wish even goes out of room without informing and when I call... Ask ?? Where are you,,, she start abusing and speaking un acceptable able laungae !!!She thereat to murder me once she will get baby ... I stay under scared to stay with her but she has no gradge for it...

Unknown said...

sir
please contact me once. me bahut muskil me hun aur koi meri madad nhi kr rha. kishore kumar 9122536966

pallavi said...

MY brother has been been married for 2+ years.

She cheated and married my brother for money and fulfilled all her financial needs before marriage....

She abused our family with the help of her relatives wantedly and did many more which I can't describe...

She is very abusive. She would want everything to happen as per her whims. She (his wife) pick up frequent fights with my brother and my family me for the silliest of reasons. She will get angry for no reason and will be abusing , cursing , biting ,my brother. She keeps black mailing that she will cut her hand, she will have sleeping pills, she will drink phynol etc.

We reported her to police and approached lawyer but no use ...the marriage was performed by our money...

Now we want justice to get my brother divorced, recover our money spent on marriage and also punish that bloody woman for all her evil deeds severely.. please help us ...

Anonymous said...

Any help line for Bangalore

Anonymous said...

Hello all.... I don't know where to start, My wife cheated me three times and finally I sum up my all courage and send her in her hometown allahbaad . when she and her parents were totally avoiding me. I launched a complaint in nearest thana noida against the man whom affair is/was running with my wife. This was a normal complaint not FIR. After 3 days my wife put 4 case against me 498A,323,504,506...Now the status is after having lots of evidence against my wife (call records, call logs, videos).. I am able to do nothing. Investigations officer of allahbaad submitted his chart sheet and what ever I spoke him or what ever my evidence all went it to the trash. My wife demands me for 20 lac. After doing a love com arrange marriage in saharanpur.... All in vain. I am in deep trouble. Please help. I want to fight.
My number :9953551367

Unknown said...

Am Gagan Chadha from Delhi. My age is 38years am separated from my wife from 2years. My flat is in Faridabad. In my Mother name my name and my wife name. Am living in a pg in Gurgaon I don't have any job. My wife is not allowing me to enter in my house in faridabad. My father died 2years. Ago. My wife saying come by court. I don't have any money. Am so mentally tortured by my wife she not gives me divorce. Also. Am into too much depression. My life is totally ruined by my wife. I need help so I can go back to my house. I have done an fir also against my wife but police is not helping me. My no is. 9990036531

Anonymous said...

My uncle is suffering from a great trauma his wife has filed many cases eg. Domestic violence against him ,it's 6th year now...we want a relief now..sir please help me out with this...

Anonymous said...

Hi Swarup,
My name is Amitav Paul and I am presently residing in Kolkata. I am married since 2008 and used to stay in Delhi where I was employed.My wife has a very bad temper and since marriage she has been harassing me mentally and sexually. I have a 5 yr old son now and stay at my home along with my Mother. I am tortured mentally by her every alternative month.I gave her freedom to work as she wanted but still she misbehaves with my mother all the time and even physically assaults her sometimes. I tried many ways to make her understand but she threatens me of women rights and imprisonment. Need urgent help as due to this harassment my health has deteriorated and even my mothers.
Can you guide me somewhere with whom I can talk to?
My email Id - amitav3@rediffmail.com
Whatsapp - 9999355508.