Judgement Madras HC in CRPC125 - Stop Treating husband like Armless Soldier.

IN THE HIGH COURT OF JUDICATURE AT MADRAS DATED: 14.07.2017 CORAM THE HONOURABLE MR.JUSTICE RMT.TEEKAA RAMAN RESERVED ON :07.07.2017 PRONOUNCED ON :.14.07.2017 CRL.RC. No.276 of 2013 and M.P.Nos.1 and 2 of 2013.

At this juncture, it is to be stated that the trial are not to treat the husband like "armless soldier" and pass the maintenance award in on Mechanical manner.

While, arriving at quantum of maintenance for the wife and children (in maintenance proceedings), it is stated that Family Court (Judicial Magistrate Court dealing with the issue) as to take the entirety of the circumstances of the financial liability of the husband.

Admittedly, while arriving at the maintenance award for wife and children, the attitude of the trial Court especially, the Family Court awarding amount more than 2/3rd proved income is deprecated. Furthermore, it is to be stated that the fact that a husband who is a son to his father is liable to maintain the aged parents (in many case senior citizens) cannot be brushed aside lightly.

Besides, the moral obligation, there is a statutory obligation cast upon the every son to maintain the parents which is also falls under Section 125 of the CrPC and therefore, the trial Court ought to have weighed the entire circumstances as placed before the Court and to have reasonable assessment financial burden on the shoulder of the husband.

Thus, while awarding the maintenance in favour of wife and children the Court should take into consideration his responsibility to look after the aged old parents, since the husband has been fastened with statutory objections to look after and maintain not only his wife but also his parents under the very same Section 125 of CrPC.

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Happily Unmarried : A shop worth to Visit for Indian Men

On the eve of Somnath Bharti accused of Domestic Violence and attempt to murder case by his wife , seen the Delhi CM tweet of Arvind Kejriwal also seems find embarrassment , but never felt any embarrassment when Ms. Jasleen Kaur case came to our Knowledge . More than 92% pickpocket accused in Delhi Metro are women is not a embarrassment for Arvind Kejriwal .

It's not unknown the misandric mindset of Mr. Arvind Kejriwal , when we witness he even refused the Party tickets to some volunteers when their case of 498A is pending in court and such husabnd even secured bail without arrest from court . Somnath Bharti , well known of the fact , very soon he is going to be shown the back door, if he get arrested . He is trying to secure the arrest stay not on fear of his wife, it's necessary for him to save his place in Aam Admi Party ( AAP).

Somnath Bharti may had flighted against many people let it start from drug suppliers, Delhi Police but one think he forget when it comes to fight against wife or any women in legal case the same not like other cases. Here you had been assumed guilty on mere verbal allegations of your wife , let it be true or false .

Somnath had been visited many time Delhi Airport T3 , but I am sure , he had never Visited the Shop like many Indian men named : " Happily Unmarried " .

If he had been visited , had not been missed the left side Doormat placed : " Beware of The Wife " and was a worth to buy for him, as we understand their problem is going on since 2010.

So , instead of all the documented evidence he had in the form of SMS or call recording submit to Police or in Court , prefer to give to Media and Media are not allowed to run the same when it's against any women or wife .

Media are allowed to term any men pervert or any words on the basis of Verbal allegations by any women , but any electronic evidence against any women are not allowed to telecast, that's the law of this land.

When I saw Somnath Bharti in TV news at mid-night in-front of Delhi Police station after getting Arrest Stay and subsequent interviews in various TV Channels , I know he is in trouble .

He keep blaming every one start form BJP, Congress, Delhi police except his own wife and lost the merit of AB there itself , like maximum Husband do , use Josh than Hosh. 

Maximum men will keep blaming every one , except their own wife , like it's their wife a small child or a dumb wife and she don't know what she is doing .

Result the abuse, Domestic Violence , extortion, Blackmailing a Husband face in the hand of wife always get back foot as evidence .

They totally unaware why SC termed such cases as Legal Terrorism .There is no logic , there is no Natural Justice , it's a process where a Husband have to keep mum and have to act like a Punching Bag till you get the bail, you had no other option .

Now let see a common Husband mail today i had received in our SIF Group :  Wife threatens in front of Court to suicide with my child , please advice!!

My wife has tried to committed suicide with my daughter and than she has filed 498 and than DV complaint.

498 is still under investigation and DV is in hearing stage.

In DV she has been awarded 6000 maintenance including 2500 for my daughter. Now on last hearing she was requesting judge to request me to increase her maintenance on which judge denied and ask her to go to upper court. Then she started shouting on me and compared me with dog and cats and than she told that nothing is left for me and my daughter than suicide.

My lawyer wrote an affidavit stating her statement in Court but judge is denying to sign the same and he is behaving rude with us.

Now still 10 days when I asked for copy of affidavit judge is not signing the same.

Please guide what to do.

Just for a moment imagine , the same act like threatening of Suicide to Judge done by a Husband in Court room , till now he had not been taken in custody ?

But as the same done by a wife , even the Judge also help less , seems Judge shab had already visited the doormat placed at Delhi Airport Shop "Happily UnMarried " show room.

We know Somnath Bharti not only a well known Advocate , but ex-law minister of Delhi or a fear less person,  but for common men it's time to wake up , when it comes to fight Legal Case against your wife or verses any women , first became a Punching bag . 

Time being forget the logic, truth , natural justice and come out from fear of Jail or fear of loss of your social reputation , because you are a victim of Legal Terrorism , not only an accused .

Indian Women are not liable for maintain Minor child or Old parents?

Responsibility to run Home should be on Women too : Says Judge Ms. Mona

We all know how women organizations and radical feminist gang keep blaming Indian society and mind set regarding preference of Son than girls in India. Given enough examples of how unfair Indian parents are towards their girl’s child.

But do you know who had promoted such mind set?

Do you know how they treat their own age old parents?

Do you know it is the women of the family prefer a son than girl’s more than male members?

Read the law CRPC125, the law was proposed by such women and radical feminist organizations only.

It may be noticed that Section 125(1) of Cr.P.C. reads as below:--

"Order for maintenance of wives, children and parents: -- (1) If any person having sufficient means neglects or refuses to maintain--
(a) his wife, unable to maintain herself, or
(b) his legitimate or illegitimate minor child, whether married or not unable to maintain itself, or
(c) his legitimate or illegitimate child (not being a married daughter) who has attained majority, where such child is by reason of any physical or mental abnormality or injury unable to maintain itself, or

(d) his father or mother, unable to maintain himself or herself, a Magistrate of the first class may upon proof of such neglect or refusal, order such person to make a monthly allowance for the maintenance of his wife or such child, father or mother at such monthly rate , as such Magistrate thinks fit, and to pay the same to such person as the Magistrate may from time to time direct:

Provided that the Magistrate may order the father of a minor female child referred to in Clause (b) to make such allowance, until she attains her majority if the Magistrate is satisfied that the husband of such minor female child, if married, is not possessed of sufficient means."

The question for consideration is whether the mother is liable to pay maintenance under Section 125(1)(b) of Cr.P.C. ?

It is true that in Clause (b) of Section 125 of Cr.P.C., the word used are 'his' legitimate or illegitimate minor child, and on that basis, it has been tried to be urged by many learned counsel for the petitioner that a mother would not be covered under this clause and cannot be held to be liable to pay maintenance.

Same way, women can’t be liable to maintain to her age old mother or father also as the word mentioned His, not his or her.

Go through Old age study, Elder abuse 32% by Daughter, 44% by Daughter-in-law, totally 76% and only 24% by son , but still as per DomesticViolence law an age old parents can’t file any case against daughter or daughter-in-law .

So, legally Indian women is not liable or responsible for any support to their own child , own age old parents , not punished if they do any Domestic Violence in family , where as every men is legally liable to maintain not only wife, child, age old parents , even Live-in partner also.

There were some HC judgements were available, where court had observed like, educated healthy women can’t simply sit idle and seek maintenance, earning women can’t refuse to maintain own child, but none of them got any node from Government when amended of law proposed. 

Like the Crpc125 had gone through many amended, like remove the cap for interim maintenance from Rs. 500 to Rs. 1500 and then remove all together and made it unlimited.

The CRPC125 also made the amended the word “Lived in adultery” to “living in adultery” lead to massive increase of adultery in India as women know if they got Caught red handed in adultery then also husband can’t refuse maintain her , as husband have to prove , she is still living in adultery . Tell me which stupid will continue the same when got caught red handed?

Result the wife advocate just say one word , she may be lived in adultery , but no evidence still she is living in adultery , all effort of Husband gone in dustbin. Keep paying her till she alive in-spite her wrong doing you caught red handed and proved in court.

Laws Loaded Against Men

So, the bottom line in when an India women is neither responsible nor liable to maintain even own child, age old parents and forget about Husband.  One must wonder, then what responsibility assigned to Indian women as per law.

NGOs working for men had bring the same to notice of Government , National commission of Women , Media houses , when we all agree on principal of No Work No Pay , then why you advocate to pay money to wife, when she is not staying with her Husband , even well educated , healthy also ?

When you are not staying with your husband, you have full free time and you can definitely work than sitting idle at home and keep claim money from husband, but when law gives you such free lunch why she will even try to work?

Unfair law promotes unfair practice only. If our government and women organizations really want fair treatment to women, they must amend the CRPC 125 as under:

1.      The word wife to be replaced by Spouse.
2.      The word His to be replaced by his or her.
3.      Living in adultery to be replaced by the word “Lived or living” in adultery.

If the same not done forget about any gender equality in this country and stop cry foul and keep blaming why Indian Parents prefer a son than daughter more or men should change their mind set.

First change your own mindset and accept every right comes with responsibility, at least take some responsibility for own child and age own parents in the law book, time being forget about taking care Husband.

We wonder under which university or collage it had been taught that by making unfair law, bring fairness in society? We would love to visit such education institutes.

Many of Misandric-Male haters will came out with logic, today’s women already taking care of their child, parents and even husbands also, right?

If so, why not get the same approved and recognized in the LAW book itself, when law does not recognize your effort which you claim doing for so long?

We know our Politicians and women organizations will never dare to amend such unfair law, as they themselves also enjoy the benefit of No Work but get paid, so it’s up to Supreme Court to take suo-motto action and correct the laws in the right sprite of Indian Constitution article 21: Right to live and liberty than hiding under special abused provision of 15(3).

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Why Indian Men like Suresh Kumar prefer Overseas citizenship than India?

I have not at all surprised when read news like :  61,000Indian Millionaires Shifted Overseas in Last 14 Years, many reason had not been even listed in the report.  

New Delhi: India has seen the second-biggest outflow of high net worth individuals – those with at least $1 million in addition to their primary homes – in the last 14 years, with as many as 61,000 such millionaires migrating overseas on account of security, children’s education or taxes, says a report.

Some 61,000 rich Indians changed domicile between 2000 to 2014 – second only to China, which saw an outflow of 91,000 ultra-rich persons in the same period, the report said.

“Indian HNWIs tend to move to the U.A.E., the U.K., the U.S. and Australia,” the report said, adding that Chinese HNWIs mainly moved to the U.S., Hong Kong, Singapore and the U.K.
Overall, the U.K. saw the biggest inflow of HNWIs from abroad, with the figure standing at 125,000 over the past 14 years. The U.K. was followed by the U.S. and Singapore.

Inflows into the U.S. predominantly came from China while nationals of the U.K., India and Russia made up a sizeable chunk. Most migration to Singapore came from China, India and Indonesia.

Other countries that saw significant HNWI outflows include France (42,000), Italy (23,000), Russia (20,000), Indonesia (12,000), South Africa (8,000) and Egypt (7,000).

The main reason which above report failed to bring to our notice that our Government, Judiciary, media failed to respect Indian Constitutions article 21 – Live and liberty to Indian Men since 1980 onwards.

Few months back an immigration Consultant came to my office, he left India about 30 years back, but came back for some study about condition of Indian living standard vs rest of the world for a research work.
He asked me, if he gives a choice to 100 Indian men to choose, where they will prefer to stay in India or in UK or Hong Kong or Singapore?

• I asked him back: What type of Job you will offer them?

He replied: I am not discussing about the type of Job, just think for a moment, there will no visa or passport required going to UK or Hong Kong or Singapore. You can just sell off every think you have in Delhi and go there and start living as a citizen of that country, what they will prefer?

• I replied with smile, I don’t know about others , but if we asked in our SIF Network , 99.99% will say they will prefer to leave this country , the reason is not to get better job or comfort of life , it’s because India is the world largest Hub of Legal Terrorism against men.

Now I understand why so many guys in India are victim of immigration frauds or human trafficking, as we witness number of such Fraud company’s able to establish huge offices even in Nehru Place or Connaught place area also.

Suresh Kumar, one of my friend who ranked 26^th in IIT and followed by management degree from IIM Ahmadabad , proud son of a TOP IAS officer , when gone to UK for a assignment , had never came back to India and today proudly living there as UK citizen.

Last week he came to India and we were re- counting our old day’s hostel lives, I asked him why he prefers to accept citizenship of UK? The amount of money he earned, if prefer to stay in India; his next 3 generation can live a comfortable elite class life without even doing any job.

My one single questioned answered by so many unanswered questions, lead many highly tax paid guy like Suresh Kumar to dump Indian citizenship.

• A country , where we witness many women activist like Indra Jai Singh and her supports fighting for mercy petition on behalf of convicted Terrorist like Yakub Abdul Razak Memon , some of them even awarded  Padma Shree or Padma Bhushan also by government, but they refuse to provide any support to innocent men like Gopal Shatey , whose 7 years life had been destroyed by fake Rape cases.

• A country , where neither media or law makers or judiciary recognize that filling fake, false, fabricated criminal cases on men by women as a heinous crime, but more than 15 seconds staring towards to any girls or women as heinous crime by boys and such boys deserve to be put in jail via non-bailable stalking or molestation laws.

• A country, the word Husband tag itself deserve to be most hatred community, as they perceived worse than any hard core Terrorist or criminal. A husband can’t be victim of any Domestic Violence, in-spite NCRB data shows more than 60,000 married men suicide vs 27,000 married women suicide.

• A country, where any women or girls suicide, her Boyfriend or Husband to be put in jail, but if any Boyfriend or husband suicide, none will question to their wives or girls friends.

• A country where if Boy friend refuse to marry to girl friend, it is termed as rape, but if girl friend refuse to marry to boy friend, it’s her choice.

• A country believes in ideology, a man must be provider and protector to women and child for rest of the life and die one day as donkey in old age. He had all responsibility, but no rights; even he can be thrown out from his own hard earned purchased home in the name of Domestic Violence by his living partner.

• A country strongly believe the burden of providing food, shelter , safety to women and child is the responsibility of every Indian men , but in return what they get ? Abuse, daily humiliation at home or in office, loss of dignity, social reputation by awarding  tag like 100% Indian men are potential rapist or molesters.

• A country where even Women and Child Ministry found, more than 90% NGO seeking fund in the name of women welfare, education, health care, are fake.

• A country if any Men boss refuse to give promotion to female employee or ask resignation for non-performance , its termed sexual harassment, but if any male employee forced to work by female boss to works 12 to 14 hours every day the same is not even work place harassment.

• A country where the LAW and policy made in government as per agenda by such handful women activist’s , media tune to dance as per their whims or fancy and we Misandric people of India feel self proud by supporting them in social media.

• A country who give whole sale free license to term any men a rapist ormolester, by mere verbal allegations and keep in jail years after years, but no rehabilitations when such men proved their innocence in court.

• A country that refuses to follow the natural justice that a crime does not have any gender and keep refusing the make gender neutral Work place harassment law or rape law. The Law makers and Supreme Court of India keep reminding us women never lie or cheat by their various anti-men judgements and policy.

Start form Income Tax to alimony law, rape law, dowry law, work place harassment law, marriage law, Divorce law, always men have to pay high price if he earn well. But, for any reason he failed to maintain the same standard in old age, no social security or support provided to him. 

Think before some one terming rapist

After 7 to 10 years court fight when they proved innocence in the court itself, still such men do not find a basic living means in India , as we refuse to give back their lost dignity or any support system to lead some basic human  life.

The more you earn, the more you get success the more trouble you are going to face and your risk increases as there are long list of  unfair, biased , anti-men laws made, whose basic motive start from how to grab money/property from men and end with grab their hard earned money or property via Legal Terrorism.


Poor men may not have option to dump India as they have to continue to be victim of your vote bank politics, but high tax payers seems not going to forgive Indian Government. Governments failure to stop fake cases and abuse of men, they prefer to dump such Country which is becoming world’s Hub of legal terrorism.

It’s time to our Government wake up and review all their policy and unfair laws , if you can’t provide respectable job, education, medical health care to Indian men , at least don’t promote blackmailing or extortion via Legal Terrorism.

Respect Indian constitution 21: Right to live and liberty than promote extortion and blackmailing of Indian men to grab their own hard earned money/property by abuse the special provision of 15(3) or be ready to witness many Suresh Kumar of India.

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Why Ngo’s working for men will meet at Mumbai on 15th August?

More than 200 representative of various NGOs working for welfare of men, various Men Rights organizations, along with Save Indian Family Network’s NGO from all over India are going to meet at Mumbai on the eve of Independence Day of India (14^th to 16 th August, 2015) to intensify agitation for amendment of unfair, biased, dowry laws, rape laws and domestic violence laws in their 7^th SIF-National meets.

As per organizers this year, tremendous energy had been observed and many volunteers who are campaigning to Stop Abuse of Men, are have to be kept in waiting list to join this meet. Due to limited space available they have to wait for next year booking.

Since the first SIF-national meet was organized in Goa, many think had been changed in their module as we witness in last meet in Agra.

Maximum volunteers prefer to discuss on future strategy, networking, branding, diversification, training, creating more blogs, to take the movement in next level instead of concentrating individual Ngo’s past success or failure only as showcase. 

This year also made different topic to be discussed and team had been formed well in advance to present new strategic ideas in national meet. Volunteers are working day night to give the final touch of their presentation.

Their main demands are that dowry laws like 498a to be scraped or be made bailable, non-cognizable along with domestic violence laws to be made gender neutral in larger interest of the society as immediate effect.

In addition to that new threat of unfair rape, sexual assault laws along with molestation laws getting abused left, right and centers just for extortion, blackmailing or on trivial disputes men vs women . Start form college students, Labor union leaders, social activist, media personalities or politicians, none had been spared from this injustice.

“There is no medical test, there is no time limit, the rape cases get registered like some ordering Pizza or Burger in India, let the alleged crime take places 2 years before or 15 years before lead to many women can term any men a rapist or molester as per her wish”, said Amit Despandey working in a MNC as Area head and a seasoned activist of Mumbai based NGO VastavFoundation, who is hosting this year’s SIF-National Meet.

Recently even SC also clarified, even if police found during pre-investigations, the case is fake, they have no right to refuse to register the FIR as the law had been made in such a way, that a women never lie or a women never cheat so police have no option but to register the fake cases also knowingly.

Once FIR get registered the men have to run from pillar to post to get bail or go to jail for months together, as normally lower court refuse to grant bail in the name of heinous crime and the only hope lies from HC or Sc. Even after get cleared form the court, the tag of a Rapist or Molester is not going to get vanished from his character certificate for the rest of the life.

Not only men , many women in the form of mothers, sisters also going to take part of this meet as they saying,  “The spate of actions taken by the radical feminists in sidelining the moderates and wreaking havoc on innocent people in the name of Women Empowerment has already done a lot of damage to the Women Empowerment movement and its credibility” They further added, the pain of a mother or sister is not less when they witness the suffering of their son or brother suffering in fake cases for no fault , many had even end their life also.

Save Indian Family movement does not want further deterioration of the society and hence hopes that the Govt. will do well by taking the above demands into consideration and not buckle under the pressure of radical feminists groups. It is high time that the media takes cudgels in presenting to the Society the bitter truth about radical feminists who are calling the shots.

It is to be noted that the Govt. made several laws to tackle dowry menace. It all started in 1961, with the Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961. Then Section 498A, Indian Penal Code (45 of 1860) in 1983 and the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005, passed in 2006. Quintessentially all of the above three try to achieve the same objective start form demand money/property from husband family and end with demand money/property from husband family.

Unfortunately the greedy radical feminists want some more laws as they continue to ignore the extravagant marriages and inaction of dowry prohibition officers in curbing the dowry menace as the confusion created in Law itself by making dowry as legal right of women in the name of cute word “Streedhan”.

 

So, at the time of marriage you can’t term any items as dowry, but if any disputes come you can easily term any streedhan as dowry and for that no evidence required only a verbal allegation by women sufficient to term whole family as criminal, let some of your brothers or sisters stay out of India also.

It is to be noted that Women's organizations have got and are still getting millions of dollars from the Govt. and from International agencies to implement stringent anti-male, laws ultra-virus the Indian Constitution for fighting against dowry. And now that they have got used to it, if the dowry menace is eliminated with proper implementation of the existing laws DP3/4, then they will not get the funds and attention.

So, they go soft on dowry exchange during marriages and yet cry for more laws so that men and their families can be harassed and money can be extorted from them.

It is worthwhile to be noted here that nowadays, women do not hesitate in filing 4-5 civil and criminal lawsuits for the same allegations on their husbands, blatantly and out rightly violating Article 20 of the Indian Constitution which clearly says that no person can be tried / punished twice for the same offense.

The cases filed include lawsuits under Dowry Prohibition Act, then another under section 498A of the IPC, then one more under CRPc125 and one more under maintenance section24 and so on and so forth, divorce, Child custody, making total lock-jam in Judiciary also. Till date none have dared to question in the name of Dowry how many law you want?

But now many Indian men have learned to fight and are giving stiff resistance to such wild practices and will continue to do so till the laws are not amended and the perpetrators of this misuse, aptly termed by the Honorable Supreme Court of India as Legal Terrorism, are not brought to task.

It is interesting to note that in India, terrorists and hooligans are roaming freely and the Govt. does not want to bring back TADA / POTA but the same Govt. continues with arbitrary arrests of the 1, 20,000 women in the form of our Mothers or sisters, in last 4 years without any trial or investigation and the same is also justified by radical feminist organizations.

Such practices can only be ridiculed at best and termed as grave mockery by the Govt. taking potshots at the people's patience.

Save Indian Family Network Ngo’s regrets to mention that in spite of nationwide awareness campaigns launched by it since the last 10 years and bringing this to the notice of the Govt. about the rampant misuse, still the Govt. continues to ignore.

Many people feel such ignorance of Government may lead to people will have no choice but to take the law in their own hands losing complete faith on the law of the land.

It is so pathetic that the Govt. is funding radical feminist organizations, which are no way different from any radical fundamentalist organizations so far as their intolerance is concerned as it is evident from the silence of these radicals on the arrests of 1, 20,000 women and more than 7, 00,000 men in last 5 years without any evidence in hand , except wife’s verbal allegations.

It is also a sad reality that the government is completely ignoring the suicides of Indian men to the tune of close to 90,000 a year with married men forming a sizeable chunk of it to the tune of 60,000 (on average) a year versus 27,000 married women. Any women died all the blame put to men and made multiple laws and policy to curb it but when a married men suicide, none had been blamed or try to find any solutions to the issue.

Husbands Suicide double than Wives

We wonder whose life is in more troublesome in India: Men or Women.

As per the National Crime Records Bureau data of 2014:

·               Married Men Suicides = 59700 vs. Married Women Suicides = 27000.

One may wonder Why married men suicide is double than married women, one has to go through the age wise data of Times of India Report:

      Age-wise analysis of suicides also compares with data on suicides of married men and women. Till the age of 18, data show men and women are equally prone to suicide. For about 5,500 men who committed suicide in 2014 in this age group, there were 5,300 female victims.

The gap begins to increase after 18 years, also the age after which people chose to marry. In 18-30 year age group, 60% of victims were men. In 30-45 years age group, about 72% victims were men, while in 45-60 years age group, men accounted for almost 80% of the victims.

     For a wife, even adultery is not a crime (it is a rewarding option and free money earning business for the whole life) as the word lived in adultery had been changed to living in adultery in CRPC125, means a Judge even can’t dismiss her maintenance claim in- spite you caught red handed.

     But for a husband even an allegation of "Name-calling" is a crime and not only the man, but his mother/sister/age-old father can also be put behind the bars for this 'crime' under IPC 498A or DV act. Such unfair, biased treatment faced by men from judiciary, law makers, media and society lead to high suicide rate, as all men can’t take law in their own hand to seek justice.

All assumption based law ( women never lie or women never cheat) need to be replaced by some more benign, sensible, gender-neutral legislation that may ensure both women and men  their rightful, honorable place at home and abroad, at the same time not forgetting the rights and well fare of men.

With an ending note Save Indian Family Network Ngo’s likes to remind the civil society as well of its duty to raise voice against the injustice going on under the barb and paradoxical veil of Women Empowerment and to the Govt. to make immediately Men well fare ministry , as Men are human too.

Was Iswar Chandra Vidyasagar a spineless Mama's Boy?

Iswar Chandra Vidyasagar

After meeting more than 6500 people in SIF and more than 250 Feminist, my only advice to all women who want a happy married life and their Husbands as equal partner in their life is - never ever use the word "mama's boy  directly or indirectly to your Husband. The relationship between a Child and a mother in India is not made by any force or Law or by meeting on Facebook or at some pool party or by calculating the combination of beauty or brain. 

You may get some success temporally to detach your husband from his parents and made him a "Joru-Ka- Gulam" but you had given him so much pain that he may not express the same by crying in front of you but he had already termed you a Happiness Killer in his life and will definitely outburst one day and then no Law of the land or your funded campaign on TV/movie/society will able to save your relationship. More than 90% relationship become soared as Women directly or indirectly indicates their Husband as a Mama's Boy.

In our school days many of us might have read the story of Ishwar Chandra Vidyasagar who took the initiative in proposing and pushing the Widow Remarriage Act XV of 1856 (26 July) in India. 

But Vidaysagar was very fond of his mother and was very obedient of her. Once during his early education years, while he was staying and studying away from home, his mother asked him to come and visit her. When he arrived at the river bank, all the boatmen refused to cross the river because of an impending storm. Unable to persuade anyone as all the boatmen were afraid of the bad weather, he started swimming across the river. This anecdote of his life not only symbolizes his fearlessness and bravery but also his blind obedience to his mother whom he loved and revered very much.

Now in 21st century many bold women as well as many alpha men who claims to be icons of feminism and champions of women empowerment may term him as a "Mama's Boy "

Ramesh Singhinia 34, working in an MNC in Delhi as HR manager, had been continuously reminded to directly or indirectly that don't be a mama's boy by his self claimed bold/educated wife. Every effort had been made to detach him from his mother who lives in West Bengal along with her husband.

Mr. Singhinia had been termed as a spineless mama's boy when his wife wanted to wear a Bikini in a family function which was held in a Club. His mother advised his bold and educated wife not to do the same. Whatever love, care, gift, jewellery, cloths she had given to her daughter-in-law became immaterial and her such advice was termed as regressive and abusive. She was even termed as a criminal and dowry seeker under 498A.

Mr. Singhinia reached the Women cell, observed openly in front of DCP his 21st century bold educated wife demanding from him: "Your mum should not come to our home and you should not even keep any relation with your mother. It is too much to handle to your mother's all old fashioned advice/customs. Choose for yourself, you want your mother or me, your wife. If you can't detach yourself from your mother give me 75 lakhs by selling your home which is under joint name with your mother and I will agree for a divorce".

Mr. Singhinia refused to buckle under such blackmailing, result after one month 498A was registered and the case reached to a Delhi court. In front of the Judge the wife kept repeating the same demand. Surprised, even the Judge was silently observing the same without any reaction as recently Supreme Court of India told any absurd verbal allegations by Daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law first register the 498A FIR. Let the Trial court decide the allegations wrong or right, till then the mother have to live as a dowry seeker for next 10 to 12 years, but FIR should not be quashed on the ground of abuse the process of LAW.

Mr. Singhinia’s mother is not alone, many mothers had been already thrown out of their own house under DV act or living silently under the ill treatment by their daughters-in-law, but there is no law by which she can seek justice under present Domestic Violence act or 498A.

Now Mr. Singhinia joined SIF movement and decided to fight the case for Next 20 years in court, prefer to be a proud Mama's boy than a "Joru-Ka-Ghulam" and Mrs. Singhinia joined award winning Feminist group and nowadays teaching Indian men how to be a good life-partner like Savan Kumar who took his wife to London to see smile on her face.

Hope very soon the biography of Iswar Chandra Vidyasagar is also going to be out of our text book soon (the name and place had been changed to protect the victim's identity).