#PurushPaksh : My discussion with NGO working for Men Daaman !

Men are Human Too ! Be #Misandry Free to Stop Abuse Of Men !

International Men's Day message by Sonali Kulkarni !!

At a time when maximum Bollywood actor’s still prefer to keep their silence or mum on the fear for being get termed as anti-women, but not afraid an Indian Actress Ms. Sonali Kulkarni.

In her personnel messages she recognize the effort, sacrifice men do in their life and appeal to give some margin to men too, as they also need some space.

She says: “Men are not from Mars, they are from Earth ,which even organizations like UN (United nation) failed to understand. She clearly able to understand , how our Boys  burdened , even before to get right to Vote.They have to start work to earn bread and butter for their family"

School drop outs of Boys are increasing, Sexual abuse of Boys found more than 53%  , but our Women and Child Ministry never shown any concern for such poor boys welfare .

Neither Society or LAW makers had liberated Men from their Protectors and Providers role , but increased their burden by making multiple Unfair laws where any disputes Men vs Women the man had been termed as Rapist, molesters or wife beaters .

Today even men are not safe in Traffic light crossing, any Tina or Mina can term you molester and prominent Media without any shame will declare guilty even before without hear your concern.


In 2007, when I first associated to celebrate the Idea of Men’s day in India in big way, a honest confession today, had discussed the same with many Media Journalist, but maximum Men Journalist even refused to discuss and blindly said it’s #MensWorld and there is no place of a Day to recornise .  The self-less effort, sacrifice of common men does for family, society to be taken as Granted only .

But there was some Women Journalist like Ms. Veenu Snadhu of HT , Vineeta Pandey of DNA who called Us and try to understand why we need to celebrate the International Men’s Day. They made some front page articles and encourage many of us to take the cause to masses and since then no looking back.

Today large number of  men as well as Women Journalist, actors, actress, Sports person , common men , social activist , young girls and boys feeling happy to know that in our history such a day is celebrated .

Every year more and more country and Organizations Coming forward to support the same and toady all are saying : Respect Men, Men are Human too in their own innovative way .

This year we even witness in Twitter Hash tag like #WearBlue , #ShowMenSomeLove on the eve of International Men’s day the women had outnumbered in tweet than men .

Almost all FM radio station all over India whole day wishes Happy Men’s day to their listeners.


Victim of Murder, Suicide, and Accident in every country men outnumbered women by 2 to 3 times, still Misandric UN prefer to sleep and ignore the issues men faced in their every day life.

But who cares, UN recognize or not today many men and women understand the need of #MensDay19Nov as Men are Human too.

God had given enough Power to both Men as well Women to destroy each others or Love each other, but when both compliment each others the world became wonderful and when they try to compete against each others , the world get destroys .

So, Choice available with you . Wants to Show Men some Love with respect or keep abuse them and promote male hater !!

History grantee, what ever you will choice love or hate, in return you will get the same with interest, 100% grantee.

Respect Men , Men are Human too !!

• Why to Celebrate International Mens Day ?
• Watch SIFAR : Documentary on International Men's Day ! onYouTube

 

#RIPManujGupta - We lost a brave MRA in Car accident Yesterday !

#RIPManujGupta - We Lost a Brave MRA in Car Accident !!

It is very painful to share that our greatest MRA, Manuj Gupta (Founder, DAMAN) and Ex-Moderator of SIF Yahoo Group left us Yesterday Night.

Anupam Dubey was also in same car which met with accident on Yamuna Express Way. Anupam is OK, but suffering in great Shock , under doctor observations ( Wish get well soon )

Manuj who coined the word via registering the NGO called DAMan (“The Man”), when come to our SIF group, was with full of fire, high passion and with Lot of dreams.

Within months taken responsibility of SIF moderator role and started weekly meeting in Kanpur, multiple events to create awareness in society. Some time he used to be very cute, some time with full of emotion!!

Many fear less activity he done, like Protest in front of Parliament without any fear, facing Biased Judges in Court, threat form Gonads and Police during his fake cases, but he prefer to fight back than surrender to Legal Terrorism and  won DV case, never got arrested in 498A and End MCD with Zero Money .

The one of biggest achievements in High court when his wife asked to transfer all cases to her home town, every one told it will be difficult to fight such cases as Judges transfer the cases to Wife city without seeing the merit, but he prefers to represent by self than hire advocate.

Judge asked where your advocate is and do you know law?

He replied: “My lord, to say truth there is no need to know law, to say lie one need to know law and advocate. Kill me here itself and hand over my body to my parents , but will not able go to  Home town of my wife  to fight case , as my BIL is a Gunda and he will kill me and throw my body in some un-known place , which even my parents will not be see my dead body . So better you kill than my BIL kill me, at least my Parents will not be deprived to see my Dead Body!”

He won the case on merit, but it shows the confidence and fearless he was.

Witness his many media activity social as well as print and electronic media and the Blast he given to Barkha Dutta NDTV Show (maximum portion was edited), when she ask audience to Poll by giving one sided story.

His word: “Mam here is a case where I had proved in Court it was wrong allegations, but you don’t brother to hear the same and without even hearing the same asking people to Vote based on a Story , which we do not know true or false ? So, an Allegations based story has more value to you than Court order based Fact to You? “  

Ms. Barkha Dutt openly say, yes she is taking side and she will keep doing that, because it’s her believe. One will wonder, if so why she claim a News anchor, if she wants to put her views is not fair to be a Panelist than misuse the Anchor Role of Program!

He dream many think but one I would like to put his  message in SIF Yahoo Group  appeal for creating 100NGo to  all over India  in every city to provide some helping hand to abused and distressed men .

Like that many incidence in my memory, can't express in words, hope he will take rebirth soon in some here some form as DA-Man, as a MRA don't die, it’s a soul, which only change their form of body!!

He used to blog at :

ANTI MEN LAWS DEMOLISHING SOCIETY

(The Author is the founder of DAMAN (Dowry Act Misuse Abolition Network), an organization fighting against the Misuse of Dowry Laws, and protect Men and his family from False implications due to Laws pertaining to gender discrepancy.)

All his activity you can witnesses in his Blog , but a heart touching Post he written after got Divorce a must read for all Re-Birth of Manuj Gupta .

We know we can't get back to him or any condolence is enough to the loss of his family, but at least we can show some love and respect to one of our brave MRA by saying in #RIPManujGupta at twitter and Facebaook , as Main stream media will not going to recornise his effort and sacrifice he had done for Men rights movement.

The Last Message From Manuj Gupta - DaMan !!

Documentary on NGO Working for men: SIFAR Released

SIFAR: Documentary Film on NGO Working for Men - YouTube

The volenters Gorup of Save Indian Family (SIF) , Delhi had released their first ever Documentary Short Film named "SIFAR" on 26 th August,2015 on YouTube. 

The Short film made much needed interest among viewers as witness with in 24 hours it attracted about 3000 views , which is highest ever any Documentary released in 2015 by any Top rated Production houses, on the issue related to Men in India. 

There are many documentary made by many Top rated production houses, but all was just for fun and failed to make impact about the any serious issue faced by Indian men in their day to day life. But this short film concentrate on more for providing a helping hand to abused, distressed men  of India.  

The inspiration of the film was to bring public notice about the issues like , Number of  Men Suicide , accident, murder , job loss, work place harassment increasing in India at rocket speed, due to multiple Unfair laws made by Indian Government .

The short film also aim to encourage many people to come out from silence and Join hands for the movement to stop abuse of men.

The SIFAR team promised us  to come out with more such Documentary in coming days , covering various issue related to men.

Today SIF became a Ray of hope for many abused/distressed men  of India. 

Join Hands to Stop Abuse of Men as Men are Human too.

My Two days at Men's Conference at Mumbai on 15th August

I have been attending the Save Indian Family Network Ngo’s National meet since 2009 when the first meet was held in Goa, followed by Shimla, Kolkata, Bangalore, Nagpur, Agra and this time at Mumbai.

Witness how the same had evolved over the years and growing how more and more NGo started working for men coming forward  and showing their concerns about distressed and abused men of India , which had been ignored by decades in spite men suicide is double than women, accident , murder , cancer , heart attack of men always outnumbered than women.

Every conference had given us 2 or 3 surprise insight along with our traditional Brain storms, concerns; idea sharing by various chapters, future threats etc and the Mumbai Conference also was not an exception.

• Live Press Conference:

This time the conference was started with a real press conference as the same was requested by some media houses and radical feminist journalist groups and we take that challenge and faced their all anti-men questions. 

The press conference was not only for journalist , it provided many in sight to 180 activist from all over India , how to deal with journalist's Question related to off-topic, unrelated than real cause .

The press conference given opportunity to highlight some of our key success stories, concern, demands along with out of topic question , handling of journalist.

It was like a practical training Course for every activist, how to face press journalist. One need to have full knowledge of overall History of suffering of men and the same must be presented with backed up data, stories, logic along with your emotions.

Choice of words is the key while reply to uncomfortable question of Journalist like why few women join Men rights movement in spite we help them, when they call us  to help to their brother, son, friends, fathers or even Husband  get trapped in false cases like rape, 498a, work place harassment laws , etc.

There ate enough number of women associated with us to provide their helping hands to us when needed, but it’s you as men or women first have to recognize, harassment to other men is not funny or joke. They also deserve protection, support , as Men suicide is increasing year after year due to your own Misandric- male hater attitude.

It’s a movement and network for men NGO to bring in notice to common people of India how the suffering, abuse, Indian constitution article 21live & liberty, dignified life of a man had been denied via anti-men, unfair law & polices by Governments.  It’s about men’s right which is also human rights.

As an example:

Search in Google , more than 90% article written about amen’s issue are women Journalist.
Search in YouTube Video, electronic media anchors who sown some concern for men’s issue more than 70% are women anchors.

But more than 70% male anchors display their extreme Misandric-male haters mind set without any shame.

So it’s time to alpha Men to first wake up from Misandric mind set, than counting the head numbers of Women in Men’s conference.

It’s like if someone believe Earth is flat, you can’t change his/her perception as what he/she witness in bare eye the earth is flat only. One need to show him/her with evidence, logic, studies Earth is not Flat , it’s actually round , which you can’t see in your bare eye.

• Summarized Video of Activity: Year 2014-2015:

The same followed by a wonder summarized impact-full one hour video of all Chapters /Groups/ NGOs activity in 2014 to 2015, which was crisp, interesting and very motivating for all to take forward the good works for next year’s also and reach new mile stones. 

Many views were the same should have been started before start Press conference than after leaving the journalist. But keeping in mind the valuable time of journalist the organizers prefer to not waste their time, as the same was to motivate to activist, who are going to work on field not the media Journalist.

• Interview of Media Editors:

Two Media editors as Guest were interviewed by MRA to understand their perception & suggestions about the movement’s success and failures. Key concerns like why men’s suffering and their abuse does not get sufficient space in electronic and print media brought to their notice also.

It had been witness though the concern of men and their suffering had get some noticeable space in Print media compared to 10 years back, but the electronic media still one denial mode.

As per editors the allegations media are biased or anti-men may not be true, except few editors or Journalist sitting in a ladder in any specific organizations. The key of their reporting’s depend on viewer-ship and readership only.  The type of issue and stories they carries, which viewers or readers want to know.

It’s a fact we Indian men or women are victim of Misandric mind set , so we love to view or read a rape stories with more interest ( let it be false or true ) than a story like suffering of men like Gopal Shettey , who had spend 7 years in jail in a fake rape-cases.

It’s we love to shame and disclose the identity of a men on the mere allegations or FIR or Charge sheet , than shame or disclose the identity of a person after the final verdict who was wrong let the case false or true .

The final verdicts of any cases let it be true or false does not give any suspense to readers or viewers but a allegations or FIR or Charge sheet keep every viewers or readers under suspense , what will be the final outcome of the case which is not known to them .

So, it is expected in today’s competitive world, media will be interested to more on un-decided cases than decided court verdicts.

• 76% men found not found guilty in rape cases, more than 90% men found not guilty in Dowry cases (498A), but such order/story does not give any fantasy to viewers as there is no suspense.

But when women make any allegations against men, such stories have more viewer-ship or readership, as there is suspense and thrill, fantasy available, result we see out of 100 stories 98 will be allegations based and hardly 1 or 2 will be final court verdict based.

Unfortunately in Final verdict of Court Men outnumbered women but men failed to outnumbered women on creating allegations based FIR or complaint and as viewers or readers want allegations based suspense, lead media to give more space to women’s allegations than court verdict based story.

• Now the question comes is it fair to shame a person on mere allegations without court verdicts by disclosing the identity of accused? Is not our constitution says, a person is innocent till proven guilty?

As per editors our present law there is no restrictions on that, when the accused is men and its police disclose the identity of accused and lead to media trail. Along with that tooth less defamation and damage law of our country lead to such media trails and promote to term a person Guilty on mere allegations.

One of editor agreed and promise to support for urgent need of a law to protect the identify of accused also till the court final verdict comes and the necessary bill must be placed in parliament with all statistics and case studies.

• Brain Strom Topic discussions:

The activist’s teams present total 10 Topics related to need of the movement, help line performance, suffering of men in India.

Every topic ended with feedback panel summaries the same and determines some key actionable strategy for all chapters and groups working for men well fare.

Resolution Passed:

• The conference end with pass a resolution and maximum member’s agreed by massive voice vote.

The 7^th SIF (Save Indian Family) National Meet, held in Mumbai, was attended by more than 175 activists from across the country representing 50 NGOs. It was two days of rigorous brainstorming session and the following resolutions were passed and signed by the representatives.

These resolutions are to be submitted to The Prime Minister of India for necessary future steps to be taken by the Government of India.

1.    India should have a “Commission for Men”.

2.    National Family Health Survey should include Domestic Violence on Men.

3.    Make Shared Parenting as per UN Convention of Child Rights.

4.    Effective counselling and helpline for distressed and abused men to reduce men’s suicide.

5.    Amendments of CrPC 340 and IPC 182 to punish misuse of laws as these present laws are ineffective.

6.    Protection of identity of accused person. Merely on an allegation, the identity of the accused should not be revealed to the media.

7.    In all gender biased laws, the terms ‘Man’ and ‘Woman’ should be replaced by the term ‘Person’ and also the terms ‘Husband’ and ‘Wife’ should be replaced by the term ‘Spouse’.

8.    Government should have separate funds and create policies to rehabilitate survivors of false cases.

The conference end with proposal for SIF- 8^th National Meet conference of Men right’s activist will be held in South regions on 15^th Aug, 2016 and the organize team will be SIF-Hyderabad.

A group was started in 2005 from a small yahoo group called “Save Indian Family”, one may love it or hate it, but can’t be ignored any more . 

• Stop Abuse of Men as Men are Human too.