Friday, 19 October 2012

Think 10 times Before allow Daughter-in-Law to stay in your Home !




Law makers , #Milord of Supreme court clearly telling Indian Husband & his parents - after marriage if you have given shelter to your Daughter-in-Law in your home, it's you liability to provide her Home for rest of the life - let she herself beat you, abuse you, kill you- but you can't ask her to vacate your home. 

In a country where a Women/Men does not have any right to stay in his/her parental own hard earned property/home without their consent-/just because you born by them - but mere marriage - A women get by default to grab not only Husband hard earned Home - but Husband parents Home Too - but for men forget to get right to stay his wife parent's Home - he is not allowed to stay even if the home he purchased in wife name with his own hard earned money !

Yes that's the Unfair law of India made in the name of  Protection of Women from Domestic Violence i.e. #DVAct , which Indian Husband & his Parents ignored time & again and at the end when any disputes occur - they are loosing their own hard earned purchased home.  



Every day 30 to 40 Delhi Husbands are loosing their Home in protection of Women Domestic Violence Act, 2006. A husband can be thrown out from his own Home, but you can't throw out a Terrorist from their own home, that is called Indian LAW!

The Domestic Violence Act had given the boom to all Lawyer's Business, in Delhi a single lawyers had filed till date more than 60 domestic Violence Act, 2006 against the Indian Husbands. Every day he is filling at least 2 to 3 New case under domestic violence act to throw out the Husband from their own house or ensure the Husband have to pay the rent of his wife , irrespective the wife is right or wrong and for all the process required maximum 90 days activity.

‘Instead of suffering quietly, victims of domestic violence, in the form of Verbal abuse, mental harassment, economical abuse, continuous nagging , relationship cheating ..etc.. should try to look for means to face from such atrocities by face or fighting against it’, said a Indian Husband who himself had been such a victim for 18 years. Indian Husband must take the future Plan seriously , as till date they prefers to live it to their wife's hand only.

After having suffered domestic violence in the hands of his own wife for 18 years just for the sake of his children, Anil Kumar (name changed on request) is today a ‘liberated Men’ in his own rights.Growing up in an urban family, Anil Kumar studied till class XI with Home Science as his optional subject from TG Higher Secondary School, Imphal.



It was in 1977 while he was preparing for appearing in his class XII final examination, he fall in love with his wife and got married to the same lady who is also from urban area.They gave birth to one son and one daughter.However, first child was killed by his wife before she able to take see this world by her Doctor Friends at Kolkata and Anil's cry at bath room , had never noticed by any one , the moment his wife says : "She is not a Child Making Machine and this child she do not want as the same failure of Safety measure Anil used .

Since early childhood, Anil was very efficient in all work and sympathetic of Indian women like millions of Indian Men , though the LAW makers and male hater National Commission of Women ( NCW) think all Indian men by born itself either a Rapist or a Criminal only.

Anil's wife remained most of time away from home and picked up the habit of drinking and spending more time with his new Boss Mr. M K Raiyala , whose wife just end her life due to his desperate love towards his office women staff .The income earned by her was not given for any small support to their family. Most of the money spend on her diamond ring, club party , TIKKLA drink and off course 555 .

Some of his friend do not forget to mention him , that some body builder also seen in their flat , when ever he used to go out of Country for his office Projects.In such a situation, the onus of looking after the family and bringing up their children fell squarely on the shoulders of Anil who took up a 9 to 6 job at Delhi and left the Job of Bangalore as the job demands him to go out of Country frequently.

Despite working , Anil’s wife asked money from his for her sister engagement , mother's club party in the form of high cost Diamond Items and some time Anil' have to Purchase the same by using his Credit card ( still he kept all the bill in his small bag of the office ) , to avoid any unnecessary abuse from his wife in front of thier child.If refused to comply with her demand, Anil would be termed as "Bikahri" , he should not have married a women like her , he had spoiled her life , his mother should teach him before marriage that how to keep happy a Urban Women ..etc. were more than frequent.

And she never forget to mention that in spite of Mr. MK is not her husband, how much care he do for Anil's wife .‘One day, when Anil refused to give the gift to his wife for her his usual demand, she grabbed the knife and say : "I will cut the Hand and will call the 100 and you will be behind the bar . Just think are you ready to give me the gift or not ?"Seeing that Anil's daughter rushed in to save the dispute , between mum and dad."My wife kicked her in the bed's side corner and she started to cry : Please dad give the gift mum want .. please , otherwise she will not stop beat us ."

Anil go to market and purchase the 4th diamond ring for his wife by his credit card.



‘On top of fight in the family, constant fights and domestic violence in the family has induced my daughter to suffer from mental problem. Then one day I decided to send her to a Bording school at Bangalore . Since the day she went to boarding school , never ever came back to home as she prefers to meet me in her friends house at Mumbai in holidays.Instead of visiting her, my wife used to pick up fights and even told her to die, as she used to love her dad a lot.

Her condition improved gradually and able to find a Mr. Right , both got married and went to USA recently. Anil recounted while trying to control his tears at Air port.On one occasion, his son run away from home saying he was fed up with penury of the family and his mother's dirty behavior, as his all friends do not forget to term his mother as a worse than "Whore".

Recounting this incident, Anil said, "After my son did not return home till late night, I went all round looking for him and at last found him laying supine on the dry bed of the river."I held my son close and we both cried’.‘We have spend many nights with empty stomach."I had also spend a lot of Night at Car Back seat instead of bed room .

It was a routine for me after 12.00PM of mid night ."Whenever I tried to say to my office friends , they always blame me and shut my mouth saying I should resign to my fate whether my wife is good or bad."My parents and sister also continuously try to convience Anil that he should not be separated for the sake of the children.

Neither court or society will term him as a responsible father . So he should try to fulfill his wife's demand as much as possible without any objection and one day she will understand her mistake .After having gone through all these harrowing experiences, Anil got the opportunity of attending a programmer of "Commando Training of SIF" organized at Delhi by SIF volunteers .

This particular incident was a turning point in his life.

Anil started having new hope in his life and found new friends and guides who understood his problem.By that time, all are children have also grown up and started earning income.They could ignore the nagging of their Mum and live their life without her nagging.

Today, Anil participates in various Travel tour held in the country as well as abroad with his previous earning , which now he had kept in the Mutual Fund and as last two month he left the job and started his own Travel Business at Bangalore.In recognition of his talent, ITA invites him from time to time to conduct training on crafts and embroidery for the members of various SHGs.

He has also been imparting training on regular basis to the Family members of the NGOs for the welfare of Men in society .A confident looking Anil Kumar said victims of domestic violence should not remain quite and they should lodge complaint to the Police and start use the technology like voice recording, video recording , as Indian Domestic Violence LAW consider that all the Husband are wife beater and all wife are the Victim.

The burden of proof to prove your self innocent onto you , where as your wife's own verbal statement is sufficient to freeze your bank account and thrown from your own house.. yes Indian LAW does not treated like this way with a Hard core "Terrorist " also .


So, A hard core terrorist have better social life than a Indian Husband.

Anti men Domestic Violence Act  has been implemented all over India , so they should not remain quiet and suffering , they must start using the technology , otherwise they are going to be treat like a road Dog as till date we have not find a single Husband Shelter Home.

It is sad ,but that is the reality , Indian husbands have to stay in "Railway Platform" or in "Husband Shelter Home " , in spite of spending all their hard earned money to purchase the Dream Home at city like Bangalore/Delhi/Mumbai or Kolkata .

A terrorist also have the right to stay in their own house or use their own money from their own bank account for their living , but for Indian Husband as per India's Anti-men Domestic Violence Act, he had no right to stay in their own home or spend the their own hard earned money for their own living.



Result every year more than 62000 married man ending their life and all husband killers moving freely in this society as Husband killing is not a crime in India, it is termed as social service by NCW/WCD and their associate partner like CSR, AIWDA, Laywers collective, who are behind to form this anti-men Domestic violence act, where a Man can't file Domestic Violence case against any women of India, let she cut him in 11 or 17 pieces!

This is my Great Indian LAW Makers: A "Terrorist " have better right than an Indian Husband!

Request all honest men/women of India to wake up and demand from your MP/MLA , make the domestic Violence LAW gender Neutral and replace the word Men/women to Person and Husband/wife to Spouse as the pain of a mother or sisters or daughters  is not less when they loss their son, brother or father.

Disclaimer :This is totally writer personnel Views only. You may have different opinion. The name and place changed to protect the Persons Identity.

(Crime Is Crime. Punishment should be irrespective of gender, religion and caste. Let us be honest and fight for truth)


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2 comments:

  1. Unknown29 July 2015 at 23:41

    Sad and bitter reality. Please ask your MP's and Mla's to make these laws gender neutral.

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  2. Anonymous31 July 2015 at 08:15

    Scraping out such laws would be better as A women will still send family/husband in jail. important is Evidence Act must apply on it. there must be enough evidence to prove allegation by any one.

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